I still don't see what the issue is on which gender someone chooses to play as. Unless I'm misinterpreting the OP, but it sounds like a complaint.
Male playing a male? Good for you.
Male playing a female? Good for you.
Female playing a male? Good for you.
Female playing a female? Good for you.
As an aside--
We have Lara Croft as the Tomb Raider. But then now we have Nathan Drake which is taking the spotlight from a strong female character protagonist..
Really? Lara not only predates Nathan by a very long time, but Lara is far more successful and infinitely more recognizable than Nathan. Nathan Drake isn't "taking the spotlight" away from anybody.