When he says, "You have shown a wisdom that I have not seen since...since my deepest journeys into the Fade" he's basically telling you that you are the best person he's met in more than a thousand years
Oh I get all that. I understand much of Solas' character. He's debating on whether or not to confess to the Inquisitor who he really is and he decides that no, he probably shouldn't.
Hmmm, yes and no. Solas gives the same sort of seemingly-backhanded compliment to every Inquisitor that has high approval with him. Even the elf. I think that says a lot about Solas.
You could argue that a Dalish Elf who gave a backhanded compliment to a City Elf would still have problems. Simply being part of the same race doesn't mean one can't espouse shitty things -- and for Solas, though he wasn't around for when the Imperium ground the remaining Elves into slaves, he was around for when the Elves of Arlathan did it to each other.
And while he does have issues with that and being a god of rebellion would've tried to change things (and did try), that doesn't mean it might not have affected his outlook on things, in some way, when it was happening.
Consider Sera, in fact. He takes issue with how she lives her life because she's not Elf-y enough. While Sera's far from perfect herself (internalized racism to say the least), for a god of rebellion to demean and chastise an Elven woman for not being Elf-y enough to him smacks to me of hypocrisy for a so called god of rebellion that favors freedom of thought -- but then... the dude's false name does translate to Pride.
He wants people to choose their own walk of life.... but for some people only if it fits his preconceptions of what they should be. Qunari can't choose to follow the Qun because they're just brainwashed, and if they DON'T have it they're savages. Elves need to be Elf-y, it doesn't matter if they'd rather live a life they want that makes them happy.
The equivalent for our world would be people telling black people they're not acting black enough, I imagine.
Only one he budges on slightly is Dwarves, and even then he still doesn't know as much about Dwarves as he thinks he does (though the Dwarves don't know much about their history either, from both inner corruption and the outer corruption)
like how the Dwarves' commitment to isolationism is slowly destroying them, or how the Qunari brainwash their citizens
Yes, he will focus on the flaws inherent in the system, but in the context of this particular quote he's not talking about Dwarven foreign policy or the Qun itself. He bluntly says the Qunari are savages that are only kept in check by the Qun's rigid standards.
That's.... not a very endearing attitude. If he said that the Qunari sacrifice so much to adhere to the Qun's standards, it'd be different, but he is very matter-of-fact on how he views them.
As it stands, I don't disagree with him on Dwarven foreign policy being too isolationist and traditional. That much I stand by. But I do take issue with his attitude of "I know your people better then you do despite my only interaction with 'people' being memories seen in the Fade" -- that can themselves deceive you -- after he pretty much states that he doesn't even really see Dwarves in the Fade at all (of course, Dwarves and Elves no doubt interacted ages ago before the fall of Arlathan. As I remember, it was stated as much).
(note, I am not talking about the denizens of the Fade themselves in that Solas remark above, but rather just Fade dreams)
Solas isn't a perfect character, but I don't think "racist grandpa" is a proper description
It was merely a remark that it's a comment racist grandpas in our world use, not necessarily me stating he is the equivalent of one.
is the only person in more than a thousand years who Solas has been able to trust
Point of contention: The Denizens of the Fade would be people he could trust. He's been sleeping for millenia and interacting with them, one of them being a close friend of his.
So he's not lacking for people he can trust, considering he's adamant that they are people.
So the Inquisitor is not only using Solas's power to save the world, but they're also managing to run an organization that is succeeding at changing Thedas for the better, and they have also proved to be a trustworthy friend. Solas's weird question about the Anchor is basically him thinking that this is all way too good to be true.
"Change for the better" remains to be seen, as he will ask you what you intend to do and if you say as much he's dubious, though he admittedly does acquiesce if you tell him you'll keep trying.
As for the Anchor, I'd say it could be both, but we won't see eye to eye on that one.