I get what you're saying and apology accepted. Just try to be a little less judgmental or dismissive towards the people on the other side of the debate. Unless they're basing it on insane bullshit reasons (like the rape allegations) or factual errors, their interpretation is perfectly valid if frustrating at times. 
Yep I sound like a self righteous prig at times, I know, no wonder I love Blackwall xD
I accept every point of view if it's well argumented, I'm just tired of people repeating the same things like a broken record and who arent' interested in a debate.
I'd never go in the Josephine fan thread in order to quote people's sentences and force my point of view on them. I think Josie is a classist, she doesn't want to start an official relationship with Blackwall because he has a commoner background, so she just uses him for some good old fashioned sex in the barn and thank you for the flowers. I admit candidly that I dislike her more than she deserves because Blackwall likes her, but I swear this is the first time I'm writing that I don't like Josie on the web. I'm not interested in pestering her fans to death.
At first I didn't like Sera that much, I didn't understand her character development, so I started to lurk her thread and now I like her very much. Her fans made me understand what I missed about her, she's not a bland character at all. She's a commoner who hates powerful people and tries to help the little people. She's not 'elfy' and she despises the elves who keep feeling different from the shems. She understands that city elves are not the only victims of society, there are also many, many little people who are humans and suffer because of nobles. To her people are just people and the only distinction she makes is 'powerful and arrogant' vs 'little and helpless'. She may look shallow at first, she makes dirty talk and stupid jokes but she's very profound and has ideals.
That's why I'd like that people started changing their attitude from: "I don't like Blackwall because he's badly written and he's bland he's not even a character he's a rapist and blah blah this is my opinion and I will never change it" to "I don't understand why people like a character like Blackwall, maybe I should lurk in the fan thread and start considering other people's point of view".
When I don't understand or like something the first thing I do is questioning myself, thinking that perhaps I missed a point or two, so I talk to people and try to understand what I missed. Sometimes I change my mind, other times I keep not liking and go away thinking 'Nah, not for me'.