Merrill's prideful, no doubt about that, and I'll even agree she underestimates how much of a threat Demons can be (she knows they're dangerous like all spirits, but I suppose she doesn't know the full extent of their danger). And she was a pawn like Marethari in Audacity's gambit to get release -- no matter how that happened -- which she didn't take into account (though this does not make her culpable for all that transpired. Marethari holds more blame because she chose to remain in a place she knew was dangerous, to say nothing of every asinine thing she did).
I've never denied that (and I know Lob. I doubt he would deny the pride thing either). To act like people who make their arguments are somehow saying she's perfect is disingenuous.
Making a case for how a person was in the right does NOT in any way equate to saying "SHE'S PERFECT!"
But people will believe what they want to, I suppose.
A Merrill debate is a lot like a Loghain debate. We back up our arguments with evidence, acknowledge the the character is flawed and does have problems and isn't perfect, but because we are defending one thing, or two things we like about the character, we must be misconstrued and our words twisted into saying something we're not.
Like this. "Loghain was right to retreat at Ostagar but is politically inept and alienated the nobles, and shouldn't have hired Jowan to poison Eamon and is definitely wrong to sell elves into slavery. Making him a Warden is not necessarily pardoning him so much as delivering a pro-longed death sentence where he may be able to redeem himself if he tries very hard," turns into "You support poisoning Eamon, slavery, noble kidnapping and torture but you can't accept that Logahin isn't perfect."
Or Merrill debates. "Blood magic is just a form of magic that must be used with great care. Based on the evidence we have gathered from two games and from dev comments, we have concluded that as far as the eluvian goes, Merrill is right and Merethari is wrong. But she is a prideful person, no doubt about it," will turn into "Merrill slaughtered her whole clan because she's an idiot and wouldn't listen to the much wiser Keeper (while conveniently not mentioning that Merethari knows nothing of eluvians as she did not do her homework) and Merrill must be responsible for every single thing that happened to her clan despite her leaving it because she's a stupid blood mage and an idiot, but you can't accept that because she's so naive, culture-shock and can do no wrong."
Not sure if the way our arguments in support of Merrill, or taken the wrong way by those who just hate her, is frustrating, eye-brow raising, or amusing.