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[Lady Luminous]

I went on literally one date in my life. I mentioned it earlier, the movies. Just once. I'm .. hmm how old am I. *grabs calculator*

26 later this year. that one date I was 20.

But how do you spend all that time with your bf and not go on dates with him? Dazzle is confused...

[Donk]

Okay, please tell me y'all are younger than me, I'm supposed to be the socially awkward when offline one!

Never, not one date? Not even a "could be construed as a date but I'm not counting it date"?

I mean, I'm not trying to make anyone feel awkward or upset here, but haven't I heard y'all talk about exes and significant others?

Sorry, feel free to shut me up at any time.

 

I'm 24, 25 January 2016.

 

In Australia, at least in the "country" areas, dating has never really been a set-in-stone custom or ritual, if that makes sense. You pretty much just hang out with somebody, start fooling around, think you're in love and bang! Relationship. But as far as dating goes.. as in, getting all dressed up and formal and going out to a restaurant or for drinks, etc, it's not a huge thing. It may be different for city areas though, as cities actually have the facilities for that stuff.

 

Many small country towns don't have a lot of options, and that's where I come from.

[Lady Luminous]

You've been in a relationship though. I never have.

Sorry Roy, insensitive Dazzle over here. *hands roll of duct tape*
if you need it, feel free to use it. ... Just be gentle please!

[Donk]

You've been in a relationship though. I never have.

 

Does that bother you? Do you want to be in one?

 

That's the important part.

[Dieb]

It's harder than you might think. Never been on a date.

 

I'm willing to bet the awesome guy you're going to be married to // in an awesome committed/open relationship without the feudal shackles of an outdated pseudoemotional contract with (relative to personal beliefs) hasn't either.

 

Wink-smiley.

[Lady Luminous]

I'm 24, 25 January 2016.

In Australia, at least in the "country" areas, dating has never really been a set-in-stone custom or ritual, if that makes sense. You pretty much just hang out with somebody, start fooling around, think you're in love and bang! Relationship. But as far as dating goes.. as in, getting all dressed up and formal and going out to a restaurant or for drinks, etc, it's not a huge thing. It may be different for city areas though, as cities actually have the facilities for that stuff.

Many small country towns don't have a lot of options, and that's where I come from.

oh! Oh that's where I was confused!

Here, hanging out counts as dating.

A date is an enjoyable activity you do with your romantic partner.

It can even be cuddling and watching tv. As long as no chores are involved, if it's just the two of you it pretty much counts as a date.

[Lynroy: Final Edition]

Okay, please tell me y'all are younger than me, I'm supposed to be the socially awkward when offline one!

Never, not one date? Not even a "could be construed as a date but I'm not counting it date"?

I mean, I'm not trying to make anyone feel awkward or upset here, but haven't I heard y'all talk about exes and significant others?

Sorry, feel free to shut me up at any time.

I've never talked about exes or significant others because I've never had one. Hi, I'm lynroy. I'm 26 years old and never been on a date. Cheers. *drink*

[Ashaantha]

But how do you spend all that time with your bf and not go on dates with him? Dazzle is confused...

 

we've just never done dates. We hanged out before moving in together but nothing that would usually be described as a date. Just his place playing computer games in slob clothing generally and at least one of his parents was always home. lol, but going out for dinner? never done that with just the two of us. Actually never gone out anywhere except that movie where it was just the two of us.

[Ashaantha]

oh! Oh that's where I was confused!

Here, hanging out counts as dating.

A date is an enjoyable activity you do with your romantic partner.

It can even be cuddling and watching tv. As long as no chores are involved, if it's just the two of you it pretty much counts as a date.

 

Other then living together which is not 'dates', still only the movies. our hanging out always included at least one of his friends.

[Lady Luminous]

we've just never done dates. We hanged out before moving in together but nothing that would usually be described as a date. Just his place playing computer games in slob clothing generally and at least one of his parents was always home. lol, but going out for dinner? never done that with just the two of us. Actually never gone out anywhere except that movie where it was just the two of us.

I'm... Intrigued and still slightly confused at how this relationship worked out. ;p

[Lady Luminous]

Other then living together which is not 'dates', still only the movies. our hanging out always included at least one of his friends.

Agreed, and if the kidlet is along, also not a date.

Tell him that Dazzle commands he take you out to a semi-nice place, no kidlet/no friends, that does not have a drive through.

[Donk]

I guess not all relationships are the same though, when it comes to how you spend time, etc. Some are just downright strange, but as long as the people who are involved are happy, it's all good.

[Dieb]

We don't really have this classic American "dating" thing, either. "Dates" are the initial meetings at a nice place/activity, before you officially commit to the person. Eventually, you'll hook up, and shortly after this, that phase is over. You start spending more and more time at the other's place, and when you do something, it's just spending time with your significant other.

 

Even though many do it here, too, yet I've always found the expression "[Me and my partner in a committed relationship] have been dating for..." strange. To me it sounds like you're still in that getting-to-know-one-another-superficially-phase, during which you exclusively see the person in set-up scenarios, mostly at weekend evenings, and leave your real personality at home & try to impress them with stories of your private every day life to which they have no access to or insight in.

 

If I take my girlfriend or wife out to dinner, it is no longer a date.

[Tragedienne of Heavens]

I've never talked about exes or significant others because I've never had one. Hi, I'm lynroy. I'm 26 years old and never been on a date. Cheers. *drink*

They're not good enough.  Well, my experience tells me it's better to be alone than in a bad relationship; you're still young (and an amazing person for all I know) and there are plenty of elfy elves in the Fade

[Lady Luminous]

We don't really have this classic American "dating" thing, either. "Dates" are the initial meetings at a nice place/activity, before you officially commit to the person.

Even though many do it here, too, yet I've always found the expression "[Me and my partner in a committed relationship] have been dating for..." strange. To me it sounds like you're still in that getting-to-know-one-another-superficially-phase, during which you exclusively see the person in set-up scenarios, mostly at weekend evenings, and leave your real personality at home & try to impress them with stories of your private every day life to which they have no access to or insight in.

If I take my girlfriend or wife out to dinner, it is no longer a date.

...Okay maybe I'm the insane one here, but why wouldn't you just be yourself at the start of the relationship?

For me dates and dating continue from the first date until the wedding, and then spouses still go out on dates together.

[Donk]

I've never talked about exes or significant others because I've never had one. Hi, I'm lynroy. I'm 26 years old and never been on a date. Cheers. *drink*

 

And there is nothing wrong with that, mate. There is no rush or competition to have as many dates as possible in a life time. 

[Lady Luminous]

I guess not all relationships are the same though, when it comes to how you spend time, etc. Some are just downright strange, but as long as the people who are involved are happy, it's all good.

True, absolutely.

Y'all feel free to ignore the crazy Canadian raised on 90's rom-coms and chick flicks, okay?

[Lady Luminous]

And there is nothing wrong with that, mate. There is no rush or competition to have as many dates as possible in a life time.

God yes! Got to be able to enjoy your own company before you add someone into the mix. And you don't get a trophy or badge for number of dates.

[Dieb]

...Okay maybe I'm the insane one here, but why wouldn't you just be yourself at the start of the relationship?

For me dates and dating continue from the first date until the wedding, and then spouses still go out on dates together.

 

It's different, and come on! You know what I'm talking about. You do have a public, advertising persona, and the one on your couch. Some dub it "your best behaviour". It's not about being particularly "fake", it's just human nature.

 

Dating, ironically, to me is a rather impersonal thing, in a way. Because it labels that phase during which you don't share your actual lives with one another yet.

[Donk]

It's different, and come on! You know what I'm talking about. You do have a public, advertising persona, and the one on your couch. Some dub it "your best behaviour". It's not about being particularly "fake", it's just human nature.

 

Dating, ironically, to me is a rather impersonal thing, in a way. Because it labels that phase during which you don't share your actual lives with one another yet.

 

LMAO. I think I get you.

 

It's kinda like.. a car salesman, who boasts and advertises how great the car is. Then the customer buys the car, and finds out after a few runs that engine and other mechanics are a bit dodgy.. and it leaks!! But the customer has already grown fond of the car, and will do whatever it takes to fix it..

 

Okay, maybe that wasn't the best analogy.

[Lady Luminous]

It's different, and come on! You know what I'm talking about. You do have a public, advertising persona, and the one on your couch. Some dub it "your best behaviour". It's not about being particularly "fake", it's just human nature.

Dating, ironically, to me is a rather impersonal thing, in a way. Because it labels that phase during which you don't share your actual lives with one another yet.

I just treat all my dates like I would a good friend. I mean, I don't tell them every deep dark secret, but I'm pretty much my normal self with everyone.

I think we date very, very differently, darling...

[Lady Luminous]

LMAO. I think I get you.

It's kinda like.. a car salesman, who boasts and advertises how great the car is. Then the customer buys the car, and finds out after a few runs that engine and other mechanics are a bit dodgy.. and it leaks!! But the customer has already grown fond of the car, and will do whatever it takes to fix it..

Okay, maybe that wasn't the best analogy.

...I don't get either of you!

[Donk]

...I don't get either of you!

 

Well, at the beginning of a relationship.. it's called the honeymoon stage, right?

 

Before that, is the "getting to know" stage, which is often referred to as "seeing somebody".

 

In that time, it's usually all rainbow and skittles. Lots of passion, lots of happiness, lots of laughter and lots of fun.

 

But as the relationship gets more serious, and you spend more time.. your personal flaws are exposed to each other. Flaws that you may not show just regular people, or even your friends.

 

It's how you deal with each other's flaws, that's detrimental to how long a relationship is going to last.

 

Now excuse me, but I'm sounding like a friggin relationship councellor.

 

[Ashaantha]

Donk the relationship counsellor to the rescue!!

 

I kid, I kid

 

As with any other relationship mine has it's ups and downs, I guess the huge thing is my boyfriend and I were living together very early in the relationship stage. As I said before it just clicked, it worked well from the very start. So was it rushed? most people would say yes, very much so. But we never did anything that didn't feel right at the time. We moved in together only 2 months after we met, and never regretted it once. Sure we had our big fights etc but we got past them, all couples have that.

We've been living together for just over 6 years now, we have a 2 year old, we're not married but we are de facto, government recognised too so we're treated the same as a married couple if we did split up.

 

I guess not all relationships are the same though, when it comes to how you spend time, etc. Some are just downright strange, but as long as the people who are involved are happy, it's all good.

 

This.

 

We don't really have this classic American "dating" thing, either. "Dates" are the initial meetings at a nice place/activity, before you officially commit to the person. Eventually, you'll hook up, and shortly after this, that phase is over. You start spending more and more time at the other's place, and when you do something, it's just spending time with your significant other.

 

Even though many do it here, too, yet I've always found the expression "[Me and my partner in a committed relationship] have been dating for..." strange. To me it sounds like you're still in that getting-to-know-one-another-superficially-phase, during which you exclusively see the person in set-up scenarios, mostly at weekend evenings, and leave your real personality at home & try to impress them with stories of your private every day life to which they have no access to or insight in.

 

If I take my girlfriend or wife out to dinner, it is no longer a date.

 

It's different, and come on! You know what I'm talking about. You do have a public, advertising persona, and the one on your couch. Some dub it "your best behaviour". It's not about being particularly "fake", it's just human nature.

 

Dating, ironically, to me is a rather impersonal thing, in a way. Because it labels that phase during which you don't share your actual lives with one another yet.

 

I agree very much with Dieb's definition of dating. This is how I have always seen it, I think the much older term would be.. close to courting? getting to know them?

[LightningPoodle]

*tucks into his Maltesers and sits back, watching the download bars on his Playstation creep ever closer to completion...*