To be honest, I kind of selfishly wish that they had never added in Cullen and Solas, so people wouldn't have this skewed vision of 'getting shafted' in their options. If everyone just had two options, then it would be much more obvious that people just don't like their choices, not that their choices are somehow inferior.
a- If people dislike their choices, colloquial expression would have them say that they are inferior. Since this is an opinion, the "your mileage may vary" is always implied, and misconstruing it as a universal statement tries to shift the discussion to an objective level that neither opinion, neither pro nor con, has any footing on -- but it does invite moral outrage, conflict, grief. No good.
b- Cullen and Solas are good additions. The game would be poorer without them. I enjoyed the Cullen romance, funnily enough, although I never was a fan of him before (his character seems to have matured a lot / got a big helping of 'compatibilisation', however you wish to see it). I don't see why it would be a good course of action to take these from the people who enjoyed them simply to prove a theoretical point about "equal opportunities".
c- I still reserve the right to dislike female lesbian and male straight options, and to say so. It really irks me how BSN jumps on anybody who dares to voice their feelings on those romances, as if it were a moral taboo to do so. Note that this touches in no way on b- -- I am happy for the female/straight and the male/gay characters (players behind them) and would not wish them to get treated any worse because I'm not happy. I do think that there is considerable room for improvement though.