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[Flowingchesthair]

And try explaining being genderless to someone - oh boy. Not all asexuals are genderless but, there are a few like me, regardless of what my body looks like, I don't consider myself as even having a gender. I don't act male or female, I'm just a human, I cook, hunt, fish, sew, do needle work, read, repair my trucks, mow the lawn, soak in a bubble bath... normal week for me.

 

Living in the south, you'd be surprised how many people that sort of week totally confuses. Apparently I do things only men should do and things only women should do. *shrug* I'm me, isn't that enough? Do I have to be a man or a woman? Do I have to be interested in sex? Why? I'm happy as I am, let me me be me.

 

Yes, gender roles are annoying. I think as a society we should loosen up when it comes to gender roles, and just let people be themselves, even if what they do "contradicts" their physical gender. Seriously, if you're not harming anyone, what does it matter whether you like to cook AND repair vehicles? It shouldn't be an issue.

 

On another note, I've been playing a lot of Inquisition (just got to Skyhold) and I'm just wondering whether you'd know when you're entering a relationship with one of the characters. Would it be obvious?

[DarkAmaranth1966]

Yeah it is, there is a pop up when you mouse over the dialog option that tells you choosing it will begin a romance or, end a romance.

[Shimmer_Gloom]

Yeah. Anytime you make a more or less 'irreversible descision' the wheel flashes orange to let you know **** has gotten real. When 'breaking up' with someone the heart icon will be a broken heart.

That assumes you'd been locked into the romance first. Which early in the game is not likely to happen. It should be pretty clear when you enter and when you exit a romance. Have fun!

[Tarlonniel]

Except with Blackwall. He does not have a warning pop up during his commitment dialogue - thus why so many people get ninjamanced. Solas also doesn't have the warnings, but with him it's easier to tell what you're getting into and when.

[Flowingchesthair]

Thanks for letting me know, guys.

 

Just going to quickly say this: I think for this playthrough, my Inquisitor will romance Solas, as I don't really want to make another female elf in any of my next couple of playthroughs, and what everyone said in this thread about his romance convinced me that it would be interesting.

[Tarlonniel]

Do let us know what you thought about the romance once you've finished the game.

[Flowingchesthair]

Do let us know what you thought about the romance once you've finished the game.

 

Will do.

 

Why do I get the feeling I'll be upset with the people who suggested the romance...?

[Tarlonniel]

Whatever would give you that idea?

 

I'll just wait over there with my fellow Solas fans and Patrick Weekes (Solas' writer). If you hear any evil laughter, it's not us, I swear     

[Flowingchesthair]

Whatever would give you that idea?

 

I'll just wait over there near Patrick Weekes (Solas' writer). If you hear any evil laughter, it's not us, I swear    

 

 

On second thought...

[Uirebhiril]

Will do.

 

Why do I get the feeling I'll be upset with the people who suggested the romance...?

 

Some of us have done his romance multiple times. Many have recommended it to others even past that. It's all due to wanting to share what is a beautiful and special thing.

 

I do mean that with no sarcasm or evil laughter. People ought not scare you from the idea just because they've been around the romance block a couple of times.

[Flowingchesthair]

Some of us have done his romance multiple times. Many have recommended it to others even past that. It's all due to wanting to share what is a beautiful and special thing.

 

I do mean that with no sarcasm or evil laughter. People ought not scare you from the idea just because they've been around the romance block a couple of times.

 

Thanks for the reassuring positivity.

[Tarlonniel]

*Evil laugh*

 

No, seriously, I've done the Solas romance multiple times. He's very asexy and will definitely be one of my canon LIs. But he's basically Inquisition's equivalent of Morrigan/Anders, so just... be warned.

[Uirebhiril]

*Evil laugh*

 

No, seriously, I've done the Solas romance multiple times. He's very asexy and will definitely be one of my canon LIs. But he's basically Inquisition's equivalent of Morrigan/Anders, so just... be warned.

 

Stop trying to spoil people, sheesh.

[BabyPuncher]

Yes, gender roles are annoying. I think as a society we should loosen up when it comes to gender roles, and just let people be themselves, even if what they do "contradicts" their physical gender. Seriously, if you're not harming anyone, what does it matter whether you like to cook AND repair vehicles? It shouldn't be an issue.

That's not a very hard-hitting example at all, since cooking is pretty much gender neutral. A better one would be why does it matter if a man wants to repair vehicles and wear a dress and high heels.

 

And the answer to that is 'What do you expect the rest of us to think about you? How do you expect to be treated'?

 

If you expect to be treated neutrally or just left alone by others, it doesn't really matter. You have a right to do that sort of thing without rocks being thrown at you or slurs shouted at you.

 

However, if you expect and demand "society" to value and desire and cherish you as much as a masculine man, (or even at all) there's a very serious problem.

 

You'll note that 'equality' demands the latter. 'Equality' doesn't mean one person is ignored and the other is praised and celebrated and desired. It means equal.

 

Somehow, I don't think marginalized people are going to settle for just being ignored and left alone by mainstream society. They want to be wanted. It's human nature to want such a thing.

[Johnsen1972]

Good romance for an asexual?

 

Why would an asexual want a romance at all? Are you trolling?

[Tarlonniel]

Why would an asexual want a romance at all? Are you trolling?

 

Assuming you're genuinely ignorant and not a troll yourself, I recommend checking out http://en.wikipedia....wiki/Asexuality to learn the difference between asexual and aromantic.

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Why would an asexual want a romance at all? Are you trolling?

Romance =/= Sex. Asexuals aren't interested in the latter but can still be interested in the former. 

[snackrat]

Will do.

 

Why do I get the feeling I'll be upset with the people who suggested the romance...?

 

*gasp* I am shocked and appalled that you would say such a thing, serah!

Would we lead you astray?

 

No but seriously though. In part I recommend Solas because you're playing the only Inq that can romance him anyway, but mostly it is because he's worth it. I daresay he is my favourite by far.

[Johnsen1972]

Romance =/= Sex. Asexuals aren't interested in the latter but can still be interested in the former. 

 sorry didnt know, well I didnt even know about asexuals at all 

 

When I think about it... I think Sheldon is one isnt he? The only asexual I know,...

[Tarlonniel]

As G. I. Joe once said, now you know! And knowing is half the battle. 

[DarkAmaranth1966]

 sorry didnt know, well I didnt even know about asexuals at all 

 

When I think about it... I think Sheldon is one isnt he? The only asexual I know,...

Not a problem, you might be surprised to know that some of us do in fact have partners. I do, I'm married and happily so. He is also an ace (acronym for asexual person) we have a great romance going, separate bedrooms and enjoy going out to dinner, movies, fishing, hunting, talking, cooking together etc... everything any other couple would do except having sex. Sex =/= love or romance. you can have any one or all without any or all of the others.

 

While some ace are also aromantic, there are also aromantics that are not asexual (probably more common than being asexual) Some of us can even deal with sex in a relationship if the rest is good enough and, our partner is understanding an knowledgeable about what we are.

 

Personally where I have the most trouble is my lack of gender identity. I don't consider myself as having a gender at all and explain that usually confuses people. "How can you not know you are a woman? Look at your body." Yeah so, why does my shell define what or who I am? Can't I just be me and not have to be male or female, just a human being?

[Hanako Ikezawa]

 sorry didnt know, well I didnt even know about asexuals at all 

 

When I think about it... I think Sheldon is one isnt he? The only asexual I know,...

No need to apologize. I was just explaining why an asexual would still want a romance.

 

If you are referring to the character Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory, then it is quite possible. 

[Johnsen1972]

No need to apologize. I was just explaining why an asexual would still want a romance.

 

If you are referring to the character Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory, then it is quite possible. 

 

Yeah Sheldon from BBT. I probably met more asexual people in my life, but they never told me. I cant imagine a romance without sex.. strange...

[Andraste_Reborn]

While some ace are also aromantic, there are also aromantics that are not asexual

 

*raises hand*

 

(And yet, I love the romances in BioWare games. I enjoy them the same way I enjoy hunting dragons. I wouldn't be capable of killing a giant flying fire-breathing lizard in real life either, but it sure is fun for the characters I made up to do it.)

[Flowingchesthair]

*gasp* I am shocked and appalled that you would say such a thing, serah!

Would we lead you astray?

 

No but seriously though. In part I recommend Solas because you're playing the only Inq that can romance him anyway, but mostly it is because he's worth it. I daresay he is my favourite by far.

 

I don't know... Considering someone was giving me the evil laugh earlier, anything is possible. And I'm certain there have been times where BSNers have preyed upon the weak or unkowing purely as a hobby.

 

Yes, and I don't necessarily want to play a female elf again, so I'll reserve this one to romance him (plus I don't believe there's any going back, since my Inquisitor had a whole fade kiss scene). Now I actually feel kind of guilty for flirting with Josephine all this time.