Uh, mutilating the definition of the word to make a character sound better doesn't magically make them follow the definition. You could say she's full of righteous zeal against crappy nobles, that's more or less inarguable, since she's not attacking, say, the King/Queen of Ferelden, who seem to be more or less decent, fair rulers. You could say she's committed to her beliefs and her cause, it'd be hard to argue about that. But saying that she cares about the feelings of people in particular is pretty damn hard to argue, given her rudeness, coarseness and refusal to bend.
If you like her, fair enough. But it's not ever going to be as simple as BUT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND. You're painting everyone who doesn't like Sera as somehow being too unintelligent or the emotional equivalent of a five year old because they don't agree with you, and you're moving goalposts as to what makes a person empathetic to other people. It's possible to butt heads with literally every companion that you've got, for a variety of reasons. This thread in particular is about Sera, so people are talking about their reasonings for liking and disliking her. Agree or disagree, that's more than fair, but don't try to paint those of us who don't agree with you as toddlers who aren't ~*deep*~ enough to like the character or her motivations.
Well good thing I never did any of those things. I mean honestly, I'm not trying to push some weird agenda or undercut people but when you see something you know doesn't really make sense, I feel maybe I should comment, like that this for instance.
It seems to come up a lot in these "How can people possibly hate Sera!?" discussions, that people must hate Sera because they can't make her conform to their/their Inquisitor's opinions, which I feel is entirely untrue. That's not to discount that I'm sure some people actually do feel this way (which is sad), but as someone who is not on the Sera bandwagon, I find it irksome that this statement keeps being bandied around.
After reading through many comments in this thread (and older ones), and from my own personal opinion, it's not at all bothersome that Sera doesn't change her opinions, like MANY of the other companions, but it is bothersome that she insults you for having a different opinion than hers. If you don't think the same way she does, you're stupid and your opinions are invalid which is an extremely immature attitude to have. A lot of people just don't want to deal with that immaturity, myself included. I know I would feel a lot differently about her character if I were able to have a respectful conversation with her about things that we don't necessarily agree on (and can just agree to disagree), but instead I'm 'treated' to an argument with someone who suddenly displays the emotional maturity of a toddler.
Believe me when I say that I keep trying to like Sera's character, and there are moments when interactions with her are almost enjoyable, but more often than not I'm simply left wondering why it is I'm sitting there trying to have a serious conversation about what just happened with someone who's only answer is "Pthhhhhhhhhhhhh!"
No offense but while you say it's because they can't make her conform to your opinions that's exactly what "she insults you for having a different opinion than hers." She's not insulting you, she's expressing her own opinion, which is different. These two things to transform her into a demonic child in the eyes of many, dead set on ripping apart the good norms of Thedas Tea society. You can't be in favor of disagreement and then whine when someone else is truly different, that's the whole point, that's when you are actually tested.
It may seem incomprehensible to have characters disagree with the player or push back but that is what defined Bioware as a company and I shudder to think what playing the likes of BG1 or 2 would feel like, what with people like Xzar, Montaron, Viconia, Xan, etc.
And again with the double standard, if there is any thread that should exist similar to this, it's Blackwall, or possibly a Vivienne or Iron Bull hate thread. Blackwall again, basically is sociopathic deranged killer, Iron Bull does it for a living, and Vivienne is basically pure snark.
It kind of reminds me of the Mannerites from Wasteland 2, they permitted almost anything as long as people are "polite." They executed people and for doing impolite things like failing to replace the heating grate, they had mass executions, they cannibalized people for pleasure etc, but as long as you were polite, you were ok.
The whole point of that was that they were insane, and that's what a lot of this discussion strikes me as, glossing over the extreme maliciousness of the likes of Blackwall, etc, and zeroing in on Sera and her bucket or farting noises seems to be doing just that, because hey, Blackwall or Vivenne observes these norms of this or that. It's just crazy to me.
It's upside down to suggest that the content of a person matters less than the form of expression for that content, or maybe I'm just the only one that believes that now.
If I saw people willing to dismiss Blackwall for similar reasons than I might take them more seriously. I mean really, yeah, Blackwall doesn't "insult" people, he outright kills them, but somehow insults sting more? Bizzare.