The Internet is any different than real life. If people were standing outside a building asking for answers, seeing others show up asking the same or similar things, all being ignored, how long do you think it would take before some start banging on the windows or threatening to throw rocks?
People don't like being ignored or made to feel unimportant. And the first person who stuck their head out of that building would certainly to get some serious hate and vitriol. But if the mob was made to feel like their concerns were heard, that they could come back at some time and have a pretty solid chance of getting a future question or concern answered and felt like there was a real human on the other side of that glass window, the mob wouldn't last and neither would it's hate.
The Internet is just people. Just like you wouldn't leave someone who called your phone line on hold or left a customer to stand outside in the cold, ignoring an entire forum of thousands of people is bad customer service, full stop.
I'm sorry, are you suggesting that the internet is not different from real life? Please tell me that you're not being serious.
In real life, I'm a university student. I work at a shitty little job to help for my tuition. On weekends I go out and play basketball, maybe go to the pub with some friends
On the internet? I can be whoever. I can be the nerd who visits gaming sites constantly. I can be a movie expert on my blog. I can be a hacker who fights to take down the government. I can be that ****** who tries to ruin a persons life, threatening them with violence, posting their address across all forms of social media, telling them that I am going to kill them.
In real life, there is accountability because people know who I am. On the internet, I can be completely anonymous. Case in point, look at what happened to Jennifer Hepler who used to frequent these boards as a writer for DA.
I get that you want more conversation. Honestly I do. But your insistence that it can be done through the internet, and on these boards with just a liiiiittttle bit more planning and being organized, is idealistic at best, ridiculous at worst. As a political science student (without me actually proving this because internet) and someone who is engaged in Democratic Theory right now, it's not hard to see that people will generally act like idiots. With the proper education, with the right attitude, sure. You can have a good conversation, because people will have developed critical thinking skills. That isn't going to happen anytime soon on the internet, not with this generation, and probably not with the next.
From what I've seen, the best time for developers to start engaging with the public is when there is something that is universally disliked, and they have a number of options in front of them for which direction they can go in and they feel that the audience can actually give them a direction through conversation. Note: this does not occur after a game has been out for only a few months. They're still trying to sell the game at this point, not trying to plan for the next game. They want to get as big of an audience as possible because, hey, they're selling a product.
We saw this happen with DA2. After the game had been out for a while, they came on the boards and talked. Biggest complaint they noted? Repeated use of the same dungeon, feeling of never going anywhere new. What did we get? Legacy and MotA, both of which addressed this. And perhaps your memory has gone foggy FastJimmy, but they also did this when they were making DA:I, whereby Mark Darrah opened up a topic specifically to hear people's ideas for what they would like to see in the new game. One of the biggest requests were race choices.
I get that the people who frequent this board as often as I do (at least once a day) want to see something. They want that conversation, that chance to talk back, feel like they're doing something. And that's fine. But again, it has only been a few months. The DA team has a better track record than most for coming on these boards and communicating with their fan base.