Okay, this is completely off-topic (err, with the current strain of conversation, not with the thread as a whole), but I was wondering what you folks thought about male elves and their perceived lack of masculinity? Both in and out of universe.
Like, from a meta standpoint you get a lot of people groaning when male elven love interests are announced-- they want someone burlier, hairier, more traditionally masculine, etc. Which is fine! Because everyone has different tastes and I'm certainly on board with the whole classic knight in shining armor thing, whether that LI is into men/women/errbody. But even someone like Fenris, all brooding and baritone and big swords just doesn't quite make the cut because, hey... he's a skinny elf.
And more relevant to my inquiry, there are plenty of in-game instances of elven dudes decried as being...
Elfeminate. In Origins, Zevran will say that the Crows recruit elves because humans find them beautiful, and later he'll say that his experiences weren't so different from "the other elven boys in the whorehouse". Oghren jokes that Zevran's got small breasts for a girl, hardened Leliana will make a comment about his penis size ("let's see what's in those trousers" / "there are rumors about you elves, and I intend to see them proved untrue before I even consider a tumble"). If romancing Fenris as a male Hawke, Gamlen's all, "so you're into elves, huh? I guess I don't have to ask which one of you's the
girl." If you're playing a Qunquisitor, Bull says that you and he have to be careful so as not to break the furniture... or the elves.
And we know that elves don't grow beards, and I honestly have no idea about body hair but I'm willing to bet if they have any at all, it's a lot less than can be said of a human/dwarf/qunari of the same sex.
I don't recall if anyone ever makes a crack at Solas, but eh, it wouldn't surprise me... anyway, I was just musing and wondering what other people's thoughts were on what it would be like growing up as an elven man, how different the experience would be for city elves versus the Dalish, that kinda thing.