'Flat-ears', they call us. That's derogatory. They may be friendly, but they still look down on you with pity and contempt, as if they were your superiors. That's the thing I hate: their smug 'elfier-than-thou' attitude. It would still be wrong even if it were justified, but as it turns out, it isn't even that! Their so-called traditions are garbled nonsense. Their idealised ancestors were slavers and tyrants.
Their traditions are garbled, but not entirely false. The fact is that the core of their beliefs- that Arlathan was a great city and the creators were real- have been confirmed by DAI as well as the fact that elves were immortal.
I support the Dalish against human intolerance and abuse, but I hate their attitude. They need to stop looking backward, stop looking down their noses at others, and start working on a way forward, instead of trying uselessly to get back to a thousand years ago. As for Sera, you should get past the Buffy-speak and listen to what she actually says, because it makes a lot of sense.
No, it really doesn't. She's a child and a nasty one at that. Her hatred of her own identity is really sad.
I do agree that the Dalish need to look forward, but understanding the past is part of that. For one thing, the ancient technology could literally mean their survival. If you just dismissed all of that as a "ruin full of demons," the enemies of the elves would continue to rob them and use that power for themselves.
The city elves are also pretty inward-looking. The city elf origin is pretty clear about that. Shianni resents an elf who's an outsider until she recognizes you as someone Soris met. Most of the alienage doesn't want to do anything about Vaughn unless prodded to resist by Nelaros or the PC.
It's hardly the words of a few, it's an essential part of their philosophy that they're better than you, despite all evidence to the contrary. And which city elves, in DA:O, DA2, or DA:I did you see discriminating against them? I'm not saying you're wrong, but I don't remember that scene.
Other than what I said above, I mean the scene where men are harassing humans that go into the alienage.
And sure, the mirrors are cool. Doesn't seem to have prevented them from destroying themselves though, so I wouldn't be too proud. They had slaves, served bloodthirsty gods, and had devastating wars among themselves. Is that anything to aspire to get back to?
If they don't learn the lessons of the past, they'll just make the same mistakes again. And no, I don't think it's bad that the Dalish want to preserve their own traditions rather than assimilating. Even if imperfect, their traditions are their own, not dictated by the dominant culture. If the Dalish are too arrogant, the city elves are too complacent.