My first male elf hunter romances Dorian. I figured there had to be some reason why he wasn't married, with a wife and kids to worry about when he left, since he was a very able hunter - he one shots those rams himself at the beginning, no sweat. So I decided he was gay, hence something of a loner in the clan and when the Keeper wanted someone to go to the Conclave he volunteered so that other clan members wouldn't have to leave their loved ones. He starts off not trusting Dorian at all, in fact anything to do with Tevinter, so goes with the Templar path as the lesser of two evils and because having magic negating specialists on hand might come in handy, but conscripting them. Then Dorian puts his life on the line to warn them, stands up to Cullen over his plan to dump a mountain on everyone in Haven and looks after Roderick when he is dying. He decides that perhaps Dorian might not be such a bad fellow after all and it sort of built from there. Called him Enavir (Pathfinder)
My other male elf is a mage. He is cocky and confident to the point of arrogance. Already a bit of a subversive since he doesn't reckon much to the elf gods and suspects that the Keeper sent him to the conclave to get him out of her hair, plus he'd always wanted to find out more about humans so she said now was his chance. He rolled with the whole Herald of Andraste thing not because he actually believed in the Maker but because it seemed to impress the stupid Shems something rotten. Then he started to admire Cassandra and ended up romancing her. So he started to genuinely believe in the Maker because of her influence, helped along by the revelations about the elven gods. Avoided voting for anyone and got inspired Leliana as Divine, so he got to keep Cassandra at his side and free up the mages. He conscripted them at Redcliffe so we ended up with the order of the Bright Hand, which he rather liked. Called him Sulevin (he even found a sword with his name on).
Neither is intending on returning to their clan any time soon. They seem a lot more content than my poor elf girl, Atisha (peacemaker); she romanced Solas, so you know the rest.