Ok, well in my defense I think I said "ham handed" rather than "ham fisted". Lol
I dunno, I guess I just found the whole thing rather disappointing, they handled the Dorian thing with such a great approach, and Krem has some back and forth scenes with Bull that were just marvelous, so I'm all excited to get to know Krem and my only dialog options seemed to be Let's talk about something inappropriate considering I barely know you, Hey did you know I'm a bigot, or Goodbye
So ya, just really saw that whole thing as a huge let down.
That's fair. I totally understand not liking the approach to that discussion, or even than it was a conversation at all (they could have just included dialogue that revealed it, without giving the player the responsibility of responding, and I think there would be significantly less tension about this issue). I'll even agree that it could have been handled much more deftly. My comment was meant in a very general sense, and I've seen people express the exact same sentiment often.
I also understand those who find Krem to be dull, and decide that a lot of the character's appeal must have to do with his positive representation of a minority (to clarify, I don't personally find him dull, but I can see how someone else could).
It's the idea of that being an irritation for people, that I see a reaction lacking in perspective, because that is an absolutely normal reason for a fan following to build. For example, racial minorities have been given such crap representation in hollywood for such a long time, that when they actually began to have some central and well rounded examples of their race in a film, it was a big deal and they were often popular characters because of it. It's still a big deal today, because as far as we've come, non-white characters are still much more likely to be in supporting roles than not.
It's also something we can observe in less dramatic and entirely fictional situations. Characters who defy stereotypes surprise us, often pleasantly so. I'm charmed when I meet a dwarf who has an enthusiastic obsession with magic, or a Tevinter Mage with a strong sense of idealism, or an Asari with a brash and bombastic sense of humor, or a Geth with a child-like curiosity and a fixation on human pastimes. I'm not alone in that compulsion, because it's natural, but so is the opposite. Sometimes people take offense at having their preconceptions challenged, especially when they don't consider the challenges realistic and/or simply disagree with them.
Ultimately, my point is this: Yes, the transsexuality is part of Krem's popularity, but that's not a flaw in itself, it's just a normal audience reaction. I don't think it's anything to call his fans out for anymore than one should call out Bann Teagan's fans for liking his lack of arrogance in spite of his nobility, or Aria T'loak's fans for liking her (very not Asari-like) attitude.