I'm thinking I would rather have never loved at all.
Is it truly better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all?
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 06:00
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Hmm find someone new brother. Find a nice girl in all the meanies out there.
If you can't find her, you can always get get more hobbies.
If you can't find her, you can always get get more hobbies.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 06:06
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I probably do need more hobbies, especially leaving this place
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 06:08
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The first is a great tragedy. One may or mayn't emotionally recover from it.
The second is the ultimate boredom. It's kinda harsh punishment.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 06:19
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You can't escape it, it will find you and f*ck you up.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 06:25
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But you do learn something from the experience. 
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 07:12
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Welcome to the depressed blue losers club...
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 07:26
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How do you guys get over it? Its been close to 7 months and it still hurts
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 07:34
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I suggest going for an engaging hobby/activity, get in touch with loved ones, meet new people.
Moving on is often a long process, it shortens through experience but not always the case.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:02
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How do you guys get over it? Its been close to 7 months and it still hurts
alcohol?
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:05
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I think it depends on who that person was to you. Were they your first love? Someone you really loved, not just someone you messed around with and dated. I don't think you truly ever "get over" that person, and the longer you're with them the tougher it is. They'll always be someone you loved. You either learn to deal with the breakup and keep it moving or you let your feelings consume you.
I don't know you personally or any of the specifics of your situation so I can't give you any advice on that level, but Vanille Sundae offered some general advice that could apply to anyone. Do things you enjoy, hang out with family and friends and I think, most importantly, get back out in the game, even if you aren't looking for anything serious at the moment. You'll never put it behind you if you continue dwell on it.
As for your original question, I believe it is.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:09
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alcohol?
Ive drank enough for 3 states.
I think it depends on who that person was to you. Were they your first love? I mean someone you really loved, not just someone you messed around with and dated. I don't think you truly ever "get over" that person, and the longer your with them the tougher it is. You either learn to deal with the breakup and keep it moving or you let your feelings consume you.
I don't know you personally or any of the specifics of your situation so I can't give you any advice on that level, but Vanilla Sundae offered some general advice that could apply to anyone. Do things you enjoy, hang out with family and friends and I think, most importantly, get back out in the game, even if you aren't looking for anything serious at the moment. You'll never put it behind you if you dwell on it.
This sounds like good advice. I have let it consume me. She was the first and only person I have truly ever loved. I'd rather not go into too much details on the open forum, that has burned me before
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:15
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Ive drank enough for 3 states.
This sounds like good advice. I have let it consume me. She was the first and only person I have truly ever loved. I'd rather not go into too much details on the open forum, that has burned me before
I don't blame you and I certainly wouldn't ask you to. I wouldn't share the intimate details of my life with anyone on the Internet, and especially this place. Hang in there, brother.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:20
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I'm am assuming that we are talking about the one true love/other half.
I've had this question answered to me fairly recently by a show, I'd love to state which one it was, but I can't because that in and of itself would spoil the show for you. Needless to say, the show had a pretty profound impact on my view regarding that. Instead of spoiling a show that some might be watching or planning to watch, I'll impart what I've learned from/seen the best I can:
1. It's better to have loved and lost, because with the love you had, you could have created new things (like children or memories).
2. You also could have reached previously unimaginable heights of happiness.
3. Whether the love one died or just up and left, the memories shall always exist, of course there will be some bad times, but there is also the great times.
4. It's better to know, than to wonder what could have been.
5. The experiences that you had can arm you with knowledge that you could use in the future.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:26
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I just feel like she was the "soulmate"
Maybe the movies and shows brainwash you into thinking there is a perfect person out there for everyone, and that 99% of the time in reality people just settle.
It took me almost my whole life to meet someone like her and I just feel like that kind of special only comes around once in a life time.
Has anyone ever had something like this happen, and then they found their significant other and maybe the break up was the a good thing?
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:49
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How do you guys get over it? Its been close to 7 months and it still hurts
But on a serious note..
Change is neither bad nor good. It just is. Changes are experiences. The more experience you have, the greater your perception and wisdom you have. Whether you realize it or not. People change, people grow. And they may not always want the same thing that they wanted x amount of time ago. And it will hurt and I know it hurts. But eventually you get over it or learn to live with it. And perhaps one day, you'll look back and think that maybe it was right to finally let her go. That you can finally move on with your life and not remain in the past. Appreciate the time you had together, and remember all that elation.
Life throws all kinds of traps at you, but it's up to you to say screw it and keep on going to make your personality, dreams and ambitions more profound than they were before.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 08:53
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Dat Kermit lol
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 09:01
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well at least Kermit has the right idea
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 09:31
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You, mah boi.
Are in serious need.
Of Candy's double Ds.
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Posté 05 mars 2015 - 03:18
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That question has always seemed so general to me... and very black/white :S
1. Loved and lost and gotten over it and loved again
2. Loved
3. Loved and lost and gotten over it
4. Never loved
.. I suppose?
Myself, I'm fine with most of my experiences with love, over the last decade. Lots of passion, conflict, disruption, peace, open and closed statuses, etc. And I guess much more to come, if that was only 10 years of what may be several more (or even more than that) decades!
But I don't think I've ever had the idea of 'The One' in my head. Either because I'm realistic enough, or because I'm narcissistic enough.
