Pretty much this. They also don't really mingle with other cultures, they don't understand these cultures, they don't want to understand them. It's "my way or highway". Which make sense because it's the only way indoctrination can be sustained. Bull is already questioning things that's why he is perfect for the job.
Seamus was ready to convert to Qun, that's entirely different situation.
Ben Hassrath like Iron Bull can't be like that because otherwise they wouldn't be able to do their job. When they are acting as spies in foreign lands, they will need to understand the ways of the country they are in, possibly have to act like a Tal'Vashoth.
The Arishok didn't want to understand the people of Kirkwall but there are 2 other leaders of the Qunari with different motivations than the Arishok.
That is the thing about the Qun, you can't understand it all by looking at one group of people like their Warriors, it would be like trying to understand a human by looking at their arms.
It means that YOU don't. There are people who just hook up with people based on looks, so essentially they are judging for sexual (not romantic) criteria. Would you do away with hookup sites on the net or tell the people who use them they're shallow and shouldn't judge people on looks?
I don't feel like that's my job. My opinion is my opinion. I don't expect others to be me.
As far as you thinking the Iron Bull is attractive that's 100% awesome. Glad you got what you wanted. I think Dorian is a gay KISA, SandalistheMaker does not. We disagree on that definition so he still hasn't gotten what he wanted and neither have I.
That's the beauty of forums. I can also choose to be shallow about the characters on my team because they aren't real people, their feelings won't get hurt, etc. you can care about them and take up for the Iron Bull look-wise.
I'm not saying people can't judge people based on their looks if they don't want too.
What I'm saying is that this is a forum, the purpose of forums is to discuss, debate and give feedback and since you can't debate or discuss a persons looks, it makes for a very boring conversation.