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[Johnnie Walker]

In any sense, people aren't the same in person as they are online. They may not be night and day different, but they can be. Besides, dating a person in real life is a huge shift in any relationship. Same as becoming physical with a person. Same as living with a person. Etc.

 

Sorry, Jimmy. Gonna have to disagree with you there. All the BSNers I've meet tell me I'm the same online as I am irl. And I say the same thing to 3 of the ones I met.

The other 4 people still had the same views and interests ofc but their reactions were a bit different. Or on the forums they're more talkative and irl they're super quiet, had one that was really like that.

The only difference between being on the internet and real life is that I can't punch people. |:

[The Jackal]

<says people should meet online>

<gives horror story about meeting someone online>





In any sense, people aren't the same in person as they are online. They may not be night and day different, but they can be. Besides, dating a person in real life is a huge shift in any relationship. Same as becoming physical with a person. Same as living with a person. Etc.

Just because you are compatible in one environment (online setting) does not guarantee you will click in any other environment. Just a thought.

 

Not true. I never said meeting people online is a good thing. At all. Just like in real life there are ways you can just not work out. It doesn't have to depend on where you meet them, rather more what the disputes are. For example. I met this one girl online. She liked my picture on hotronot. After three days of meeting her. . I allowed her to move in. Only because she was being kicked out of the House she shared with her sister for using her car without telling her. I would have be a heartless guy not to live her move in. 

[A Crusty Knight Of Colour]

There are horror stories, but there are also people who are earnest in their online interactions, so when you meet them, you won't notice a difference in their behaviour or personality. Basically, they are the same person they are online.

 

Much like with many other things, it comes down to the individual.

[The Jackal]

There are horror stories, but there are also people who are earnest in their online interactions, so when you meet them, you won't notice a difference in their behaviour or personality. Basically, they are the same person they are online.

 

Much like with many other things, it comes down to the individual.

 

People can be very different, even meeting them in person. It depends on a situation. How they are under stress. A person might be calm and normal. While a second might act differently more erratic. I hate having to use examples from my own life. Without them I wouldn't have matured, learned to what I am now. This girl was literally crying. I told her. I didn't want to have "bed time" with her. Bed time is code for something else. It was a long work day. I wanted eat my noodles and watch TV.

 

She went from a nice, sweet person. To literally crying saying "It's because of my fat, isn't it" like a demon took control of her. She was a completely different person a moment ago. I ended up doing bedtime with her just so she wouldn't think its because of anything else then I was honestly tired. 

[Johnnie Walker]

People can be very different, even meeting them in person. It depends on a situation. How they are under stress. A person might be calm and normal. While a second might act differently more erratic. I hate having to use examples from my own life. Without them I wouldn't have matured, learned to what I am now. This girl was literally crying. I told her. I didn't want to have "bed time" with her. Bed time is code for something else. It was a long work day. I wanted eat my noodles and watch TV.

 

She went from a nice, sweet person. To literally crying saying "It's because of my fat, isn't it" like a demon took control of her. She was a completely different person a moment ago. I ended up doing bedtime with her just so she wouldn't think its because of anything else then I was honestly tired. 

 

You seem to have terrible luck with this, man.

[Voxr]

I would say ambiguity/anonymity has a lot to do with it online. No one knowing who you are behind the screen leaves people to be and do things they normally wouldn't. For good or for ill.  

 

For instance. I'm much more reserved irl than I am on say like BSN. Mostly because there are few people around where I am that share in the same interests/humor than I do. And people like to prejudge. I think people knowing so little about an individual is more liberating to some because there aren't any preconceived notions about them. 

 

But sometimes that backfires. That said I don't think I'm too different in the actual world save for a couple of things (I'm really a squirrel). I'd consider my case to be a more amplified version than whats off of the net.

[The Jackal]

You seem to have terrible luck with this, man.

 

I'm using uses the bad examples. I know..I seem to have many of that. It's not as if when I talk them. I can get a fax of their mental health record. I would say 50 percent of the people I dated had some type of issues. Some bigger then others. Some people I met in person they still have their issues. I don't honestly think it matters where you meet them. Just try to know them enough before you move in with them. 

[Johnnie Walker]

I'm using uses the bad examples. I know..I seem to have many of that. It's not as if when I talk them. I can get a fax of their mental health record. I would say 50 percent of the people I dated had some type of issues. Some bigger then others. Some people I met in person they still have their issues. I don't honestly think it matters where you meet them. Just try to know them enough before you move in with them. 

 

Agreed. I've also had my own share of bad experiences on this subject. Only two BSNers that I ended up regretting meeting up with. They're no longer here in case anyone is nosy.

 

But 2 out of 7? Not bad imo. I tend to be a good judge of character though so I'm usually not so worried. I plan to meet more in the future. Some of the people I'm close with on here are like family to me tbh, all forged from first meeting them irl after having known them for years on BSN.

[Jeremiah12LGeek]

All the BSNers I've meet tell me I'm the same online as I am irl.

 

I've only met one, but for some reason she has yet to confirm that I am, indeed, a drunk baby in a onesie.

[Fast Jimmy]

Not true. I never said meeting people online is a good thing. At all. Just like in real life there are ways you can just not work out. It doesn't have to depend on where you meet them, rather more what the disputes are. For example. I met this one girl online. She liked my picture on hotronot. After three days of meeting her. . I allowed her to move in. Only because she was being kicked out of the House she shared with her sister for using her car without telling her. I would have be a heartless guy not to live her move in. 

 

The more I think about it, the more it makes sense for couples to meet online. Not just on BSN. In the internet in general. Your more in touch with the internet community if it be wow or BSN forums then you would be a bar. So logically your chances are much better to meet someone online then it would be offline.

 

[Fast Jimmy]

Sorry, Jimmy. Gonna have to disagree with you there. All the BSNers I've meet tell me I'm the same online as I am irl. And I say the same thing to 3 of the ones I met.

The other 4 people still had the same views and interests ofc but their reactions were a bit different. Or on the forums they're more talkative and irl they're super quiet, had one that was really like that.

The only difference between being on the internet and real life is that I can't punch people. |:

 

Well, being more shy or quiet is part of what I'm talking about. I'm not saying everyone out there is catfishing it or even that they aren't interested in the things they say they are or believe the same thoughts they do.

 

But someone who may be a real joker and quick on their feet online can be quiet, shy and reserved in real life. Which isn't bad, at all. But if certain preconceptions or dynamics about how people interact are set in the online relationship and then, suddenly, face-to-face, none of that is happening or clicking, it can create some problems. 

 

That's all I'm saying. No problem at all against online relationships, I've even seen my fair share work out. But there is always the risk that the person just isn't the same when it comes to real life. 

[Br3admax]

There's at least one or two that lives near where I do. As soon as I meet them, I'm sure they'll confirm I'm worse irl.

[Steelcan]

There's at least one or two that lives near where I do. As soon as I meet them, I'm sure they'll confirm I'm worse irl.

dat hat tho

[Voxr]

Don't take this the wrong way guys. But if I find out that there are any BSNers near me

 

Spoiler

I'm moving

[The Jackal]

 

 

 

 

 

I never said it wasn't a good thing. I also never said. It's not good to meet online. I haven't touched on the topic either way was the point I meant to make.

[Cunning Villain]

Don't take this the wrong way guys. But if I find out that there are any BSNers near me

 

Spoiler

I'm moving

 

I would've "liked" your post if you had left out the emoticon indicating it was made tongue-in-cheek.

 

Basically, I well and truly want to stay as far away from BSNers as humanly possible.

[Kaiser Arian XVII]

Will these answer your question?

Spoiler

Spoiler

Spoilering for the dirty nature of the pictures.

 

Male electric plug & female electric plugs...

 

I came into this thread to mock whatever couples might be around on here, only to realize that I met my waifu through BSN as well (for which I have none other than Phaedon to thank).

 

I do wish I could add Ambi's cute little brown ass to my harem, though...

 

These affairs seem ancient...

[Br3admax]

dat hat tho

That hat is fly as ****. Did you actually see it and not say **** ?

[Kaiser Shepard]

These affairs seem ancient...

 

They are; it's been a couple of years now already. I take it Phaedon either got banned in the meantime or just left the forums?

[you're as cold as ice]

The only difference between being on the internet and real life is that I can't punch people. |:

you can punch people on the Internet?

[Jock Cranley]

The one BSNer I did meet (note: non-romantic) told me I was impossible to read.

 

Then again, everyone tells me I'm impossible to read.