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[Voxr]

"Wheeeeeeeeen a man loves a woman!!!

Can't keep his mind on nothing else.

He'd change the world for the good thing he's found.

If she's in her 30's, he can't see it!

She is always young!.

...............

Ooooooooh!

When a man loves a woman.

I know exactly how he feels

Cause baby, baby you're my world.

When a man loves a woman.!"

 

[Johnnie Walker]

Yeah yeah yeah, I know I'm a bit late to the discussion but I just got back.

 

This subject isn't black and white imo. It's definitely a grey area. No two relationships are the same thus there will always be different issues for each relationship.
 

I know of couples that have a fair age gap that actually lasted, but I also know of a good bit that were doomed to fail in the first place. Not because of age but because of differences. Differences in experience, perception, desire, personality, etc. All those different things factor in when a relationship goes bad. It would be naive to assume that age is the only problem in a relationship where a gal is half the age of a guy (or vice versa).

 

In my personal experience, the way your friend is acting, sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants in life atm. Or she's just going wild with her new sense of freedom. Idk. But her life just completely flipped upside down, even if it was her decision, it still can be stressful. She'll chill back out eventually. Sometimes people do things that others ay not understand, and that is no reason to judge someone. People do some crazy selfish things to help find themselves.

The person they were, the person they are now and the person they will become are three completely different people.

Could be worse, she could be using meth or selling herself.

 

Has far as love itself goes, that niigga has no bounds tbh. Age, race, gender, acumen, etc can be irrelevant when it comes to love. People also change and grow, and they may not want the same thing they once did thus relationships can fall.

True love isn't about staring at each other, it's about staring in the same direction.

 

But really, I don't really give a damn dead moose's last shiit about age much tbh, it's other people's business, not mine. I just wanted to share my perspective on the matter.

 

This thread though..

In all honesty, I wish people would put more energy into humor than into judging others too quickly and harshly. That goes for both anti young partners and pro young partners.

 

 

Now go back to whatever irrelevance this thread was turning into.

 

No wait. Don't do that.

[Dobby]

I'm hungry. Heather, go make me a sammich. Use some of that Bunny bread too.  

[Uccio]

Corvus I, it is possible I guess. Out of all the friend couples who started dating the same time we did we are the last one still together. Yet I can't but think it to be the reason of commitment. I've had instances where it would have been easy to cheat on her, but I didn't and there was never temptation. Simply becauseI love her. For instance, I've been on a business trips in China where I've had to be with local money men in a places where women were available. And I hated it, but I had to accompany then for the business sake. There has never been any doubt about us in my mind, she is the one I want. I love her and I am committed to us.

[Voxr]

I'm hungry. Heather, go make me a sammich. Use some of that Bunny bread too.

Like, I want to know.

 

But I'm scared to find out what it is at the same time.

 

eeeeeeeeeeee......

[Dobby]

Like, I want to know.

 

But I'm scared to find out what it is at the same time.

 

eeeeeeeeeeee......

 

 

Bunny bread! 

 

Wha--

 

Is my sammich ready?

[Johnnie Walker]

Is my sammich ready?

 

Where's dat trifold? 

 

Bunny bread store is the best store tbh.

[Voxr]

 

 

 

That must be regional. I thought there was some hidden deviant( sexual) meaning behind it. Because of the rapscallions and ragamuffins that bring their shenanigans to OT.

[Dobby]

Where's dat trifold? 

 

Bunny bread store is the best store tbh.

 

I've never had Bunny bread They don't sell it in California that I've noticed. That's why I want you to make me a sammich.

[StillEden]

So conclusion:

I shouldn't say anything to my sister even tho she's tried this young boyfriend thing 4-5 times and has a succes rate of 0%. I will be a good sister by keeping my observations to myself and not try to lead her in a different direction.
The odds of her finding a 20 year old who will marry her very soon, have babies, be financially independent and share her interests are better than my husband thru 10 years staying with me if gain weight.
Add to that, that I don't posses any stay young forever gene and don't have time to work out, he should be looking for someone hotter any time now, and I can only blame myself for wasting my time taking care of 2 toddlers, keeping the house clean, cooking, walking the dogs, doing everyone's laundry and etc, instead of making sure I'm all dressed and made up by the time he gets home from work.
The fact that we didnt marry each other for looks and wouldnt end a marriage for anything looks related, is just a lie that no one is buying.

Did I get it right?

[Voxr]

So conclusion:
I shouldn't say anything to my sister even tho she's tried this young boyfriend thing 4-5 times and has a succes rate of 0%. I will be a good sister by keeping my observations to myself and not try to lead her in a different direction.
The odds of her finding a 20 year old who will marry her very soon, have babies, be financially independent and share her interests are better than my husband thru 10 years staying with me if gain weight.
Add to that, that I don't posses any stay young forever gene and don't have time to work out, he should be looking for someone hotter any time now, and I can only blame myself for wasting my time taking care of 2 toddlers, keeping the house clean, cooking, walking the dogs, doing everyone's laundry and etc, instead of making sure I'm all dressed and made up by the time he gets home from work.
The fact that we didnt marry each other for looks and wouldnt end a marriage for anything looks related, is just a lie that no one is buying.
Did I get it right?

Boo boo. You gotta do you honey bun!

I think if you feel strongly enough about your sister's predicament you should tell her in a respectful and loving way.
What i think most of us are saying is it isnt our place to judge how people live their lives as long as no one gets hurt.

Peace, love, all that jazz.

[Dio Demon]

So conclusion:

I shouldn't say anything to my sister even tho she's tried this young boyfriend thing 4-5 times and has a succes rate of 0%. I will be a good sister by keeping my observations to myself and not try to lead her in a different direction.
The odds of her finding a 20 year old who will marry her very soon, have babies, be financially independent and share her interests are better than my husband thru 10 years staying with me if gain weight.
Add to that, that I don't posses any stay young forever gene and don't have time to work out, he should be looking for someone hotter any time now, and I can only blame myself for wasting my time taking care of 2 toddlers, keeping the house clean, cooking, walking the dogs, doing everyone's laundry and etc, instead of making sure I'm all dressed and made up by the time he gets home from work.
The fact that we didnt marry each other for looks and wouldnt end a marriage for anything looks related, is just a lie that no one is buying.

Did I get it right?

How many boyfriends that weren't young did you have? 4-5, maybe more?

 

Actually I pose this question to the whole thread (if you want to ask) how many relationships have you had where the other person around the same age?

[Voxr]

Dont blame anyone else for your head being in the gutter!

Tiny head. You brought that one up. Whos in the gutter now naughty boy!?

context!!!

*mic drop,runs away*

[Dutchess]

So conclusion:

I shouldn't say anything to my sister even tho she's tried this young boyfriend thing 4-5 times and has a succes rate of 0%. I will be a good sister by keeping my observations to myself and not try to lead her in a different direction.
The odds of her finding a 20 year old who will marry her very soon, have babies, be financially independent and share her interests are better than my husband thru 10 years staying with me if gain weight.
Add to that, that I don't posses any stay young forever gene and don't have time to work out, he should be looking for someone hotter any time now, and I can only blame myself for wasting my time taking care of 2 toddlers, keeping the house clean, cooking, walking the dogs, doing everyone's laundry and etc, instead of making sure I'm all dressed and made up by the time he gets home from work.
The fact that we didnt marry each other for looks and wouldnt end a marriage for anything looks related, is just a lie that no one is buying.

Did I get it right?

 

You could try talking to your sister, but since you mentioned she has already found another young boyfriend and is again convinced it will work out with him, it sounds unlikely that she will listen to you at this point. She has something to cling to after all and can convince herself that this guy will be different. If she is left with a broken heart again, she might be a little more open to suggestions on how to avoid that in the future. Or maybe this is just her way of coping with her divorce and she will stop on her own eventually.

[Melra]

Don't really understand what's the fuss about. There are very few -girls- of my own age that I'd consider dating, I prefer being with a woman who already knows what she wants. Life has offered me enough ups and downs for me to be troubled by emotional rollercoasters of other people these days.

[Jock Cranley]

So conclusion:

I shouldn't say anything to my sister even tho she's tried this young boyfriend thing 4-5 times and has a succes rate of 0%. I will be a good sister by keeping my observations to myself and not try to lead her in a different direction.
The odds of her finding a 20 year old who will marry her very soon, have babies, be financially independent and share her interests are better than my husband thru 10 years staying with me if gain weight.
Add to that, that I don't posses any stay young forever gene and don't have time to work out, he should be looking for someone hotter any time now, and I can only blame myself for wasting my time taking care of 2 toddlers, keeping the house clean, cooking, walking the dogs, doing everyone's laundry and etc, instead of making sure I'm all dressed and made up by the time he gets home from work.
The fact that we didnt marry each other for looks and wouldnt end a marriage for anything looks related, is just a lie that no one is buying.

Did I get it right?

 

No. You got it wrong.

 

First off, you should tell her to stop deluding herself-she is just screwing around. She isn't looking for a long term relationship. The overwhelming majority of men at age 20 are not looking for long term. At all. Many of them aren't looking for long term 10 years later. She's clearly just bangin' around, living the cougar life to get back at her ex. 

 

Next, if she is in her late 30's, it might be time to prepare to give up on the concept of having kids.    She might still be able to bear them, but she is running risks through the roof. Seriously.

 

Thirdly, age is a HUGE factor. I don't care what all the soppy fools say. If I wanted to have kids I wouldn't go for a woman that was 20 years older than me. It'd just be foolish. I doubt I'd go for a woman 5 years older than me.  The set of issues, opportunities, and responsibilities you have changes VASTLY as you age, and as a result you can enter a relationship with very little common ground at all.  I'd say if she wanted a long term relationship at her age, stick with guys at least in their 30s. 

 

Lastly, you should give me your sister's number. She seems like my type.

[Jock Cranley]

Those 19 and 20 year old "kids" are physically and sexually mature men whom can serve in the military and fight over in Iraq and Afghanistan if they so choose. Only in the pampered west with it's idea of extended adolescence and childhood are such men looked upon as "kids". Back in the day these "kids" would already be married and with children.

 

Quite frankly, the better question to ask is why these young men are interested in women whom are past their physical prime and approaching menopause when they have younger and much better looking women to choose from.

 

Regardless, it's their prerogative, not yours.

 

While you nearly always make rational arguments, Sebo, you often present them in a way that sounds like rationalization. 

[TheLittleBird]

I shouldn't say anything to my sister even tho she's tried this young boyfriend thing 4-5 times and has a succes rate of 0%. I will be a good sister by keeping my observations to myself and not try to lead her in a different direction.
The odds of her finding a 20 year old who will marry her very soon, have babies, be financially independent and share her interests are better than my husband thru 10 years staying with me if gain weight.

 

If your sister won't listen to the argument that finding a 20 year-old who's willing to commit to a long-term relationship won't work (keep in mind I'm not saying this is a bad argument), try talking to her about her new boyfriend on a personal level. Instead of generalizing him as just another 20 year-old, try to convey your thoughts about him as him; why he as an individual is not suited for that kind of commitment. 

 

Or this.

 

First off, you should tell her to stop deluding herself-she is just screwing around. She isn't looking for a long term relationship. The overwhelming majority of men at age 20 are not looking for long term. At all. Many of them aren't looking for long term 10 years later. She's clearly just bangin' around, living the cougar life to get back at her ex.