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[TheLittleBird]

I've never had romantic feelings whatsoever.

 

Guess I'm a robot.

 

But my heart belongs to Middle Earth anyway.

 

... You lie!

 

I know you love those barbary macaques. You do!

[A Crusty Knight Of Colour]

I've never had romantic feelings whatsoever.
 
Guess I'm a robot.

>>>/r9k/
 

What do you guys think about women dating men much younger than them self?
I'm asking because it seems to be the thing these days but personally I'm really against it if the age gap is huge like more than 10-15 years.

A friend of mine aged 39 left her husband for a 19 year old kid about 6 month ago.Broke up 18 years of marriage with 3 kids for someone that young. 3 months later the new boyfriend left her for someone his own age.
Now my big sister, who is/was single, just introduced her new 20 year old boyfriend to the family. She's 38. It looks absolutely ridiculous and im finding it hard to understand how she can be attracted to, what I would consider, a kid.

What are your guys opinions?

As for the topic, if both people are understanding with what they're getting into, then it's really not my business. If it makes them happy, then that's great. Your friend's biggest issue OP, is that she expected this man to commit to her long term when she's almost 40 and has 3 kids. 19 year old men won't commit to that long term unless she's absolutely loaded with cash.

The age difference isn't really a problem in and of itself, but it presents unique issues that don't always occur with couples that are at a similar age. Your sister is in a similar boat. Being 38, she has to be aware of these issues rather than just ignoring them. Or else she's going to be in a similar situation as your friend (dumped for someone younger).

[Dio Demon]

Btw when we getting another LP chapter??

When your body is ready for it!!

[Seboist]

Thanks bruh.

If a lady in her 30's or 40's is still attractive/wealthy enough to pull 20 something's good for her. Don't hate.

Edit: and plenty of relationships without age differences end badly. So yeah.

 

Who's hating? I've seen/met women up to their early 50s that I'd bang(like one of my mom's acquaintances). Of course, I'd never pursue them for anything more than a short term fling.

 

Facts are facts when it comes to the OP's scenario however. Beyond a MILF kink, a middle aged mother of three does not have much value to a young guy. 

 

Let's list the problems here:

 

- Three kids from another man? Major turn off, even one kid would be a turn off for a lot of men, more so for a young guy with his life out in front of him.

- Inability to produce healthy children or any children if he decides to want to start a family(which would not be a problem if the genders were reversed)

- Within ten years time he'll be 30 and still posses the ability to not only attract women of his age(or older) but younger ones as well(of which he could  pursue right now). She OTOH will be 50 and any lingering physical attractiveness she had at 39 will be greatly diminished. Let's not kid ourselves that she'll look anywhere near as good as Christie Brinkley did at that age.

- A woman having money is not a boost to her value/attractiveness to a man beyond mere gold digging(of which there are fewer men pursuing than women). By and large men aren't looking for a provider.

- There's probably more,but these are from the top of my head.

 

So yeah, I'm more astonished as to why these men are pursuing these relationships than the women. I'd advise them to dump them after they've had their thrills with them and pursue women of their age or a bit older(even a 30 yo woman with no kids is far better).

[Naughty Bear]

My girlfriend and I hit it off at the museum, we go every weekend to meet up with each other, but all she does is stand in that glass cage in the history section.

[Rannik]

Why would you care about the opinion of random people on the Internet?

 

That seems unwise at best.

[AventuroLegendary]

I've never had romantic feelings whatsoever.

 

Guess I'm a robot.

 

But my heart belongs to Middle Earth anyway.

 

Not even once? =(

[Dio Demon]

Not even once? =(

Rah is implied though

[NeonFlux117]

I'm 25, last year I was dating a fine a$$ cougar, she was 41. Not quite half my age, but still. Major age gap, especially for a younger man and woman.

 

 

Best sex of my life.

 

 

To bad she was crazy outta the sack to, lol.

 

If they're hot, they're hot. I'll smash. I don't care to much about age and stuff, as the most important part of a relationship is sex and communication.

[Decepticon Leader Sully]

[Laamaa]

I say let them do whatever they want to do. Who are we to disapprove exactly? (Also, the opposite happens aften enough so why should this go any differently)

[StillEden]

Yes you've already said this once on page one, we get it, you don't care.
Then again, why are you coming back to a topic you don't care about? And who is forcing you? You don't care, fine, you're allowed to stay away.

[StillEden]

Hmmm... I'll quickly give my wisdom as well, before I head out, besides I know you've all been waiting for it haha

I think age is just a number.. and I think life is all about taking chances / risks...

I married a guy 4 years older than me and I ended up in a hell, he was an alcoholic, beat me up almost every day and he got angry with me for crying when my oldest sister died and I was stuck for 14 years with that man, it's all a gamble. Older or younger, you can't know how it will end up cause you can't predict the future. No matter who you are.

My grandmother married a man who was around ten years younger than her and they lived happily for many many years until they both died.

About the decaying for a woman later on, I think it has to depend on the woman on how bad that will get. My mum for example 62 years old (I always give her as an example I know) she takes such good care of herself, has almost no wrinkles, she workouts, she maintains her looks every single day and people literally thinks she is my dads (63 years old) daughter when they go out, no joking! They just thought that the other day lol. Plus he got contacted by some former girlfriends on facebook and he was like all "daaaamn woman, you haven't changed a day since we married while all those women has now gained tons of weight and look damn old, I married the right one". What I mean to say is, that in my family we know that to maintain a good marriage, it's very important to take care of your looks and never let yourself go, even when you get older. You have to keep the spark alive at all times.

I'm 35 and I've been told that I look around 20, I've seen 25 year old who look 40 because they don't take care of themselves, it's all about how you maintain your look for the other person and as I said: Life is a gamble, sometimes you just gotta take chances, otherwise you'll just end up regretting it, thinking as a 90 year old.... why? why didn't I do it?......


And StillEden.... your sister is a grown woman... she is not a kid, no matter how many failed relationships she has been through, she can still make her own decisions, she is old enough and you as her sister should put no limit to hearing her cry about them if that's what will happen. You are her sister, that's what sisters are for....

First of all, i am truly sorry to hear about your sister. I am also sorry to hear about your marriage, it sounds horrible and I respect you for getting away. Too many women never do, unfortunately.
I don't know if you've got a sister, but if you were mine, there's no way I would have let you been in a relationship like that for 14 years, even if I would've had to drag you out and lock you up in my own house.

Which leads me to my next question; when you can see someone dear to you in a bad situation, do you meddle or say "she/he is an adult and can choose themselves" and do nothing?

When you talk about age difference and getting along or making a marriage last, you seem to only refer to looks? Like you say you look young, which is great, but that's not really what matters in a relationship and most definitely not in a marriage. Süre, it's good and healthy to take care of yourself, but I guarantee you, my husband could go fat, bald, lose all his teeth or limbs, I'd still be his wife and proud/hapoy

[StillEden]

To owa

Sorry pressed post too early.
Right, so was trying to say what matters in the end is personality and friendship and same interest. Things that might be hard to get when you've got a huge age gap. Especially if you start thinking long term.

[StillEden]

A lot of life's problems can be resolved by taking a cold shower. Or keeping your pants on.

Back on topic, if this something she keeps doing, has she noticed the pattern?

Yes but sadly she blames it on being unlucky and not on her making bad choices.

[Eternal Phoenix]

What's so wrong with couples who are aged differently? If you support love for all then you can't by a hypocrite and be judgemental towards a couple with an age gap.

 

I've noticed that some people only have a problem with an age gap when it's a young guy with an older woman but when it's some older guy with a younger girl, it's not seen in the same way. Double standards if you ask me.

 

Personally 18 year old girls just don't do it for me. I like fully matured women in their late twenties or thirties.

[Eternal Phoenix]

Not taking care of yourself and letting your body go once your married is one of the unhealthiest, most disgusting and selfish things you can do.

 

Reason for a divorce right there if you ask me bro.

 

My religion literally taught me to always keep myself healthy and keep my appearance in check every single day (even if I'm not leaving the house) and you know what? It feels good man. It feels good.

[Milan92]

I always date girls older than me.