This is a post about the Dalish, specifically about the way they think about and treat non-Dalish elves, and why all this means people need to cut Sera some f*cking slack. (Spoilers for
The Masked Empire and
Dragon Age: Inquisition below.)
If you haven’t read The Masked Empire by BioWare writer Patrick Weekes, let me catch you up:
The book’s main characters are Celene, empress of Orlais, and Briala, her lover and spymaster, who is an elf. Skipping over about 80 pages worth of story, we find Briala and Felassan, a Dalish mage and Briala’s mentor, in Halamshiral. They’ve come to respond to an uprising in the city’s alienage. Thren, one of the city’s elves, is frustrated with the calculated methods Briala means to use to deal with the problem. Briala feels conflicted. She and Thren want the same thing: freedom for their people. She asks her mentor for guidance.

(The Masked Empire, ch. 6)
This is the first clear sign in the book of the point I’m trying to make: the Dalish do not care about elves who aren’t Dalish.
I say that like I’m reading between the lines, but it is very much something the book is trying to tell us. Here’s some passages from later in the book, when Briala, Celene, Michel and Felassan have turned to the Dalish for help:

(The Masked Empire, ch. 10. Note the use of “flat-ear”, a cute nickname the Dalish have for non-Dalish elves.)

(The Masked Empire, ch. 11)

(The Masked Empire, ch. 11)
It’s spelled out right there: the Dalish, a group of elves who have every right to resist the horrible treatment they have suffered in the past, do not consider the real-life, modern-day suffering of other elves their problem.
When Briala talks to Felassan about it, he puts a pretty fine point on the issue:

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(The Masked Empire, ch. 11)
The image of the elven cook with her painted bowl is not a very subtle one, but how you feel about the woman is variable. Do you find her noble? Pitiable? Do you think she’s wasting her time? (Personally, she makes me a little bit sad, and a little bit tired, and angry for the history that brought things to this point. But that’s just me.)
What Briala sees, though, is a woman, and a clan, and a people, who she thought she could count on. The Dalish were Briala’s trump card, her eternal last resort, and they let her down completely. As an audience of fiction, we have the luxury of perspective. We’ve seen other clans, other Keepers and Firsts and all the rest, and have even played DAO as Dalish. Briala doesn’t have this perspective.
And neither (here comes my point) does Sera. Why should Sera, a girl who’s had to fend for herself in a world that spits on her, respect the Dalish? With all the sh!t she’s been through? With all the help she could have used? Where were they then? Digging in old ruins, trying to salvage the past.
And again, from our perspective, this is a thing that makes sense for them to do. They’ve had it taken from them. Their culture has been actively and intentionally destroyed MULTIPLE TIMES. They have every right to dig in those ruins and get what they can.
But that never put clothes on Sera’s back and that never put food in her friends’ mouths, but it did set a standard that humans and other elves have always held her to. Sera’s character is all about helping people who need help now. It’s even in her song. People who focus on the past at the expense of the present are f*cking up, as far as she’s concerned, and she has every right to feel that way.
Sera DOES change her mind, though! She’s wary of a Dalish Inquisitor at first, but when you prove to her that you want to help people, she becomes you friend, and might even love you.
SO CUT HER SOME SLACK OH MY GOD
Epilogue:
Okay okay, there’s one potential counterpoint to this I will address, starting with another passage from Masked Empire:

(The Masked Empire, ch. 9)
The behavior of one Dalish clan does not directly reflect on all the others, true enough! Just because the Dalish in The Masked Empire behaved like jackholes doesn’t mean all Dalish would. And I like the Dalish, really, for all the sh!t I’m slinging here. I think most of them would do something to help city elves if they had the chance.
If you ask Varric or Hawke about Merrill in DAI, they tell you she stayed in the Kirkwall alienage “to look after the city elves left homeless by the fighting and continues to protect them from the fighting between the mages and the templars” (DA wiki). As much as I love Merrill (a lot…it’s a lot), I don’t feel like this is something where she is unique. I do think other Dalish would do the good things she’s done.
BUT (back to my point again) as far as we know, Sera has never met anyone like that prior to joining the Inquisition. The Dalish are just another group of people who know the hurt that exists in the world (her world) and do nothing.