he player's ego. Which is what Dragon Age Inqusition is doing. I really don't see how this can be argued against. Your character has carte blanche to act in all matters, despite not having earned that right, and not being in any way qualified to do so. And not only that - you succeed. All the time. Because you're just that amazing. Isn't that rather undermining people who practice these things as their profession. Lawyers, judges, dancers, strategists, diplomats etc.
I really like your posts. And I agree. The main char has no charisma, leadership qualities or education, yet everyone is behaving as if she is fit to be a ruler and a general. Being herald is not enough for that, there are savvy people with a lot of power and knowledge who'd leap at the opportunity to use such a herald, for the better or worse. And this herald, being clueless about politics and everything, would be none the wiser.
The story would greatly benefit if instead of being a random guy the player was an heiress\heir to the throne of some country whose parents just died and she just came into her power. Skyhold could be the fortress at the kingdom's border. Silly and self-serving? Maybe, but this would explain why people listen to you and adhere to your decisions on matters you aren't qualified to know much about. In medieval times royalties could do whatever they wanted and noone could say a word.
I'm not bashing the game, though, it's still nice. It has both brilliant sides (main quest, companions and advisors, banter, the keep) and underwhelming sides (main char, side quests, combat [the latter is "imho"]). All in all, the biggest offender timewise is sidequest design, I suspect that if I only played main quest and inner circle quests, I'd love the game many times more.
And since you mentioned CDProjekt, I'm looking forward to its upcoming release to see if they actually manage not to fall into the same groove as DA:I with its less than exciting presentation of side quests. Too bad you can't actually role-play in this upcoming game because of its predefined character, but I hope they'll make up for it in other aspects.