I've thought about the Mae as a love interest question before. I'm pretty sure that she'll end up in whatever game that first takes place in Tevinter. I think they've already started laying the groundwork for that with her War Table missions and set her up as an ally of Dorian's. I'm not sure if she'll end up being a companion or not, but I wouldn't be surprised if she was. Either way, with NPC romances, she could be on the table as an LI.
I'm not sure how I feel about it. On one hand, I'd love to see her as an LI as she's super interesting and popular and I think it would be interesting to see a transwoman as an LI. On the other hand, I'm not really interested in yet another LI suffering from Carth Syndrome. Plus, I shudder to think what the reaction would be if one of the LI's for straight men was a transwoman. People lost minds over the fact that Cassandra has a strong jawline. I could only imagine what would happen if one of their options was trans.
One solution could be to have her as an 'extra option' (as in, let's say everyone gets 2 options; Mae would be a Sebastian-like 'extra option' for straight guys), but that also doesn't feel right because it feels a bit like marginalizing transwomen as 'other options'.
If it were up to me, I'd like to see Mae show up as a companion in Tevinter and leave it at that. But, if she were an LI, I would totally break my rule and role a straight male dwarf to romance her. For sure.
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As always, well said dave. I should have considered Carth Syndrome as a possible factor. I agree that a transgendered companion would be interesting, but yeah, the level of disgusting crap that could come out of this is pretty staggering. Right now, we're living in a tricky place with folks crying "catering" among those that are going, "our money matters too."
My problem with having her as an "extra" option is that it still wouldn't change the comments. You and I both still giggle at the folks that complain about the Anders romance. You know, the ones that hit all the flirt options and then claimed that Anders "shoved his sexuality down their throat." I'm also leery of having people show up and make comments like, "I banged Mae. I'm a real freak." As far as marginalization, I should have thought of that. You're right though, and despite the good intentions I know that BioWare would have, it could certainly be seen that way.
Personally, I think that Mae is going to be our last "intro" to Tevinter before we go there. Meaning, I don't think we'll end up in Par Vollen/Tevinter just yet. I could see the devs focusing on more of the coastal cities, like Rivain and Antiva. Dorian provided a look into Tevinter culture that didn't neatly fit into to the idea that all Tevinters are evil blood mages. I think Mae is going to continue that trend, and give us even more insights into the country before we go there in DA5 or later. That's just my take on it. I could be right, like I was with Cory or I could be dead wrong, like I was with Blackwall.
My other concern is that, regardless if she's an LI or not, her quest is going to focus around her dead husband. Since I know it's not too late, writers and developers of the DA team, please don't do this if you decide to include her in the next game.