What planet are you from? I thought that was one of the most basic expectations of most relationships.
So you think that the prerequisite for any romantic relationship is "neither one of you can ever admit any attraction of any kind to any other person"?
Even if we limit this to "monogamous, non-open relationships" (my favorite kind of relationship, fwiw) that doesn't follow at all. Some couples "only have eyes for each other", and that's cool for them. Good job. But most people aren't like that. For some, they need to go through a lot of other relationships before finding one that works; pretending that all the previous ones were utterly meaningless and that they were all with persons that were totally unattractive in every way would be an egregious lie. Other people only ever have one partner, but they admit attraction to other people even if it would never actually be acted on.
Again, there are apparently plenty of people who can go through their entire lives without ever being attracted to anyone except one person. But most people don't, and saying that all those relationships are shams is indicative of an incredibly unrealistic set of expectations.
I have a few questions:
1. Are you saying with the bolded that Inquisition doesn't account for an Admiral Isabela doing that? I must be misunderstanding, because that's exactly what Varric said she was doing in my game.
2. How does a Rivalmance Isabela preclude working with the Inquisition? In your previous linked post, you talked often about how her arc included realizations about the cost of her actions, and generally trying to mold her into a "good" person. Couldn't her decision to help the Inquisition be interpreted in large part as exactly that sort of selfless mindset for the good of others? Yes, ultimately she is obviously helping herself as well, but it would be far easier for her to stay on the sea and away from the fighting, hoping the Inquisition sorts things out. "Isabela helping the Inquisition" is the sort of ambiguous action that, I think, works fine for either of Isabela's character arcs in DA2.
That is exactly backwards.
I said that the
Inquisition MP DLC doesn't account for a friended Admiral Isabela - someone who is encouraged to be an irresponsible free spirit - suddenly deciding to lay down her life for a bunch of randoms in Orlais and Ferelden and personally fight as an agent of the Inquisition. You could make it work, I suppose, because friended Isabela did a lot of incomprehensible things in DA2 as it was - like coming back with the Tome of Koslun, or returning to Kirkwall at the beginning of Act 3, or joining the fight at the Gallows - but it doesn't make sense on the face of it.
Conversely, a rivalmanced Isabela would be the exact sort of responsible person that
ought to try to save the world. Rivaled Isabela would make a great deal of sense as an agent. But in the vanilla game, she is separated from Hawke by what is apparently mutual agreement, she doesn't participate in Hawke's plan to investigate the Wardens, and she goes back to pirating and all the things that the rival ending to "No Rest for the Wicked" indicated that she
wouldn't do again. In the vanilla game, everything Isabela does is basically consisted with friendship and inconsistent with rivalry.
Yeah I have no issues with sexy and flirty. I would have issues with her nailing others on the side in hawke's absence.
I think that the MP dialogue is reasonably vague enough to go any way you like. It's easier to reconcile Hawke-Isabela monogamy with
Dragonslayer than it is to reconcile it with Hawke's own comments at Skyhold after meeting the Inquisitor.