you know, isn't the feminist movement kind of sexist in it's own way? Not saying that fighting for equal rights is bad and stuff, but if a campaign based on "maleism" or something took place, everyone one would call it out for it.
The reason the feminist movement gets the fight that it does is because it doesn't have a central focus everyone can agree on. They think they do but they don't.
Some feminists want to have their cake and eat it too. Women getting all the privileges males have, but making no motions towards getting men the privileges women have. Thats because they don't like to acknowledge the privileges women have and there are many. They want all the perks but none of the responsibility.
The way feminism here is gonna work is if it aims to do one of two things, and it has to commit to one or the other-
A. Get men the privileges women have, and get women the privileges men have. This way everyone equally is treated the same.
B. Get rid of the privileges men have, and get rid of the privileges women have. That way everyone equally is treated the same.
Problem is, feminism isn't based around one of those. Feminism is partially sexist towards women because it assumes that women are devalued in society and that women have to fight to get to the top in a world that holds them down. Victim complex. In reality, women can succeed just as much as men can, and they have.
Here's a typical exchange with a feminist and a woman who enjoys her role in society.
Feminist- "Hey, why are you sitting at home cleaning and cooking and washing clothes? You can be out there fighting crime, putting out fires, writing laws!"
Woman- "Well, I actually like being at home. I like cleaning my house, I love cooking food for my family, and I wash my children's clothes because it reminds me of my childhood."
Feminist- "See, thats the patriarchy making you like those things. Fight back! Don't let men hold you down!"
And thats a HUGE problem with feminism and where a lot of its critics find fault in it. Rational feminists don't make this mistake, but many feminists do;the mistake being that they don't account for women actually liking the position they are in and choosing to be in it themselves, that being perfectly acceptable.
Some feminists refuse to accept that a woman can like having a traditional female role and choose it themselves, finding their own strength in it. They contort facts and opinions to try to stuff everyone into a single box so they can find justification for their fight.
There's this impression that women make less money than men because "men are baaad" when it just so happens that the jobs women gravitate towards happen to pay less on average. Those jobs don't pay less because women gravitate towards them but because the jobs themselves are not of higher value by use. Compare nurse to surgeon.
Then there's the idea that stay at home moms are only stay at home moms because of this perceived patriarchy(I hate this word) instead of because of the motherly instincts women naturally have.
Feminism in its current form in the States isn't going to work because there's no consistency. There's no driving force that all can agree on. Its just a jumbled mess of some people wanting one thing and others wanting something else. Mix that in with misandrists and crazies and the rational feminists get drowned out by louder voices.
Speaking on rationality, thats another big problem. Feminism has rational feminists with rational minds but the problem is every feminist thinks they are a rational feminist making it hard to weed out the worthy voices.
What we need are feminists who are open minded, don't presume to speak for everyone, are willing to listen to opposing opinions, speak calmly, cleanly, and civilly, hold the level of class they want out of the world they live in, live up to their own ideals, and don't automatically assume they have the right idea.
Basically, feminism needs its Gandhi, its Malcolm X, its Martin Luther King Jr, without their flaws but with all their strengths. But in today's world of mass marketing, social media, and a thousand platforms to share your voice, we have people who shouldn't be speaking up for everyone attempting to do so because they want to be the hero.
But not everyone should pick up the sword. And feminism hasn't figured that out yet. Its a mess in its current state and thats why people hesitate to connect to it.
A poll was done with a sizable number of people interviewed(can't remember where or whom I heard this from on Youtube) but people were asked if they thought men and women should be equal in society and 85% said yes.
I'm sad that wasn't 100%. That should change, and thats something feminism has and should continue to work on.
But of those 85%, they were asked if they identified as feminists, and only 15% said yes. 15% of 85% of a number of people interviewed(men and women).
Flies in the face of one of the biggest false claims by feminists that if you believe in equality for all sexes you are a automatically a feminist, yes?
Feminism needs to drop the forced labeling of outsiders and look within. There's no sense behind its current structure and it could actually accomplish something great if it had a restructuring from the core with a single focus to work towards.
For now, its just a bunch of loud voices saying all sorts of things in a small room and no one can latch on to one for long before a fight breaks out.
Which is why I'll continue to be on the outside looking in. Waiting for the proper warrior to pick up the sword.