So...I evidently documented the whole IB-romance as a male-Qunari (it is in my youtube-playlist if someone is curious God please let people be curious I had to play DAI for that) and I didn't know I was doing BD...something romance. I no kidding you here. Propably because I'm not even curious about all that, it never even came to my mind. Lol, all I was thinking when first sex-scene (what sex-scene there was no sex shown) came that omg, IB must have a HUGE...ehm...that thing...and my Qunari propably has to take it, and later IB says that "actually it has been him taking it" which just verified my thoughts of...you know...my Qunari and IB and his huge...you know.
Point: people do interpretations from their stand point...or point of view or how you say it in English. Anal-sex is not a "must" in gay-relationships, or so I've been told. Yet that was what I was thinking. Point: we should not believe that things in games/movies/books even try to be realistic. Or are a some sort of example of reality. I dunno how to say this better.
Btw 50 shades or Yack is utter rubbish and I find it scary that some women think it is romantic. Some wannabe-writer found a way to monetize co-dependency, obviously.