I want both! Is that to much to ask?
Both but seperate games? I'm fine with that. Then I can simply avoid the Chosen Ones entirely. And then play the other games which would be better. 
You can't have both in the same game though. But I think the best attempt at these two flavors was Hawke. And it happens to be my favorite DA of the bunch. Hawke was no Chosen One, but they were special enough for the plot and Kirkwall. That's good enough for me. And sort of feels closer to my idea of a Homeric epic than a Tolkien one. By that I mean, it was essentially a down to earth plot (making a home, being an immigrant), without a whole world at stake or some "Dark Lord" taking over everything.
I mean, I'd be fine if I just played some City Elf's life in Tevinter in the next game.. and it was personalized, much like Fenris' life. Maybe with a lot of rogue-ish stuff like Thief or Assassin's Creed. No world at stake.. just social issues. You could still fight big baddies, but the plot itself could be down to earth.
Unfortunately, that's not gonna happen. Since Solas is yet another Dark Lord type himself. This time Patrick Weekes will regurgitate the same crap instead of Gaider.