But why did you see Maharial that way? You said you wanted to play a Dalish Elf that didn't hate humans and The Warden's personality is up to the player.
The part I can't wrap my head around is that you said you wanted to play a Dalish character one way, and then intentionally did not take the opportunity to do so. And then you said you were happy you finally could play an elf the way you wanted in the third game.
I've said WHY I saw Mahariel as I did several times already.
The opening scenes of the story show her pointing an arrow straight in some human's face, fully willing and prepared to kill him. If she does kill him, she expresses no remorse, no regret and no sorrow. She walks away feeling and acting fully justified in having killed the human. If she doesn't kill him, she gets some speech from Tamlen about why she should have killed him.
For me, the story presents the Dalish as singularly anti-human straight off and I just couldn't make sense of those characters suddenly becoming unbiased and openly accepting of non-Dalish after that introduction. It was like, head-spinning around confusing when I tried to RP the character as someone open-minded and tolerant, so I just gave up and accepted Mahariel wasn't. And, yes, I did want a Dalish character who was open-minded and tolerant. That wasn't Mahariel, shrug.