Oh, it is so good to have found my people! I can not *stand* Wynne. She's the only character in the game that I really hate, including the drunk and the mass-murderers. It didn't start as hate, mind you. My first PC was a young, naive mage who didn't have a mother and looked to Wynne for advice. It made perfect sense to me that she'd listen to the old bat, even if I found her annoying as hell.
My second character was a human noble who had, until very recently, had parents that she loved dearly. And a Nan. And even a religious instructor... so really, she had no use for Wynne's lectures and preaching. She certainly didn't need reminders of her duty to the people -- she'd been raised as a nobel, for Maker's sake, and certainly understood about noblesse oblige. I found myself getting more and more irritated that even when I picked the conversation options saying yes, I get it, I know that... it still triggered the same demeaning, listen-up-child lectures. Even so, my PC was raised correctly and was polite to the old ***** regardless... until I mis-clicked a responce and the old bat blew her top! Over nothing, really, and my PC had an approval in the 90s with her, and suddenly she was being insulted and berated like a naughty five-year-old. I was still reeling from that when I got her incredibly nasty lecture about Zevran, and that did it. HATE!
I completely agree with the posters who point out that the more you play with her, the more you dislike her. She's exactly the opposite of the other characters, most of whom grow on you as the game progresses and you do more playthroughs. Wynne, on the other hand -- at this point I just kill her immediately or permanently park her in camp and save myself the aggravation.
And don't even get me started on the RtO content. It was so offensive and gross -- even more so as the old hag had *just* told my PC that she had to break up with Alistair because of blah-blah-blah-darkspawn-whatever. She was actually trying to push my mage out of the way so she could move in herself! Gross, and so typical of the self-serving hypocrite.
I'm not sure if the writers intended for her to be this despicable and toxic. It's something I've pondered with each playthrough -- sometimes I'm sure that it was all intentional, other time I think they intended her to be the PC's wise, sage adviser and just missed the mark completely. I've seen some excellent posts about other characters, such as the one by David G. about Zevran, but nothing about Wynne. Has anyone else?