Breaking this into multiple quotes,
Wow, the last few pages have been hard going.
Just want to say a few things.
Playersexuality is made up. It doesn't exist in real life and I have yet to see it in a BW game. Just as with the "gay for you" trope, which is the m/m fiction analogue, any use of it is rightly lambasted. Anyone who says "I'm not gay or bisexual but I love you even though we are both men" is in serious denial and clearly hates himself that he can't bring himself to to "label"" himself for what he is. It's not difficult. A man who loves or has sex with another man is gay or bisexual.
Playersexuality not made up.
A bunch of Skyrim LI are playersexual, Fallout LIs, Anders & Fenris & Meryl were until Bioware disingenuously said "lol they're bi" later which can be taken with a grain of salt, and Kaidan is at best playersexual.
Thankfully, this doesn't describe Kaidan or any other bi LI in a Bioware game. This doesn't mean they don't need to diversify their portrayals of bi men beyond "mostly into women; sometimes into guys". But, I think they need to do this with all sexual minorities in their games and this will only happen over time and at the moment we don't really have a large enough sample size to make a judgement. I know bi guys that talk openly about their attraction to women but not so much their attraction to men; or guys that that will jump into bed with men non-stop but take things slowly and carefully with women. There are as many different types of bi guys as there are straight guys and gay guys. Kaidan, Zev, Anders, Fenris and Bull were all *accurate* portrayals but maybe a little too similar.
Except for that pesky fact Kaidan was not bisexual in ME1-ME2.
A tacked on playersexual M/M romance in a sequel doesn't turn an otherwise heterosexual character bi in PC independent canon.
As for Kaidan's "sudden" bisexuality in ME3. Yes, it was a little surprising but people surprise you. My friend's grandma just came out as a lesbian and so did a guy I used to work with (as a gay man and not a lesbian obviously
). One was in her late 60s and grew up in a time of sexual repression and the other, in his early 20s, in a time of sexual liberation. Sometimes people just aren't the people they, or anyone else, thought they were.
All that said, what the hell does it matter? In Kaidan's case it was a blatant case of the devs trying to turn around their "no gays" policy and I'm grateful for it. K wasn't retconned he was just developed more as a character. I didn't know Liara's was a quarter Krogan until ME3 but it was always the case.
It matters because it's offensive and degrading to a character's story, and is an exemplar for typical one sided SJW tolerance. Do you think people would be okay if DA4 came out and Dorian was a "bisexual" LI for female players? Do you think they would say "well, maybe he realized he liked women. what's the big deal? I mean, he never says I am gay so maybe he just decided he likes fish or met the right girl."
No, they wouldn't. All these SJW dorks would be flooding the internet and crying, accusing Bioware of being homophobic and screaming for a boycott of their games. So I guess all these head canons, imagined innuendos, somebody's middle age friend suddenly wanting the same sex one day, doubletalking, verbal evasion and passive aggressive crusading for bisexuality all only apply if it's in promoting gay sex.
Funny how that works isn't it? 