But the difference - and it is an important difference - is that the ultimate impact in terms of body image issues is still there for both genders. The dynamics behind what drives those issues is different.
"Men" aren't a uniform hive-minded group with a single ideal or mode of thought. Some men might feel powerful roided out monster. Others might feel inadequate, suffer from image issues, etc. Saying that there's a meaningful difference here because it's other men causing the harm is, I think, completely besides the point.
This situation - the roided out dudes as a physical ideal - is exhibit #1 in how sexism hurts men too.
In both cases it's a subset of men imposing their idealised view of the world on everyone. There's a lot of historical disadvantage when it comes to women being objectifed but, in my view, the answer here is to find common cause.
Ah, I'm apparently failing to get my point across very well. But I'm trying to say that I agree with you, honest. I'm just being a little frivolous in my wording. I'll try to stop that.
Of course I don't think all men want the same thing or whatever, and just because I said that the industry is mostly men doesn't mean I'm being dismissive of the issue. It's still true that we see the same stereotypes again and again. I don't know. Draw your own conclusions. Blame it on marketing or on culture if you like. We agree that it needs to change.
Honest question: Is there any data that supports what kind of women women idealize?
Because from the very limited data I have, it is pretty close to what we have in games like ME. Aka strong, healthy capable and yes beautiful women.
There are also a lot of common modern myths associated with this statement of yours, like the "fact" that women are physically incapable of sexualize other people. Which of course is complete hogwash. Having seen women drool at soccer players (of either gender, depending on preference) and other athletes, or do things like having Nude Firefighter Calendars hanging on the wall (again, of either preference).
Alas, I do not know of like, a database or study or anything off the top of my head. I can only speak to my own experiences and those I know around me. But I would say that yes, of course women want to be strong, healthy, capable, beautiful, etc. - but I would argue that what women think that looks like tends to be on a broader spectrum than the typical thing we usually see. But again, I'm not just talking about the way women look, I'm talking about how they're portrayed. I think it's safe to say that a women cinematic designer probably wouldn't have used the butt-cam as much.
Also, apparently even mentioning that the game industry is male dominated (which is true) is making people assume things about what I'm saying. 
As for the second part, I believe I made that exact same point in an earlier post of mine, unless I'm misunderstanding something?