Has anyone been in the position where you had to pick between a partner and career? If so, what was you choice and why?
Serious question.
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Posté 01 juillet 2015 - 10:39
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I've never been in that situation, but both should be doable with an understanding partner unless we're talking about extremes here, right?
If your partner cannot understand that career is important to you, is he or she even the right / compatible partner?
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Posté 01 juillet 2015 - 10:43
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No. But I've heard awful stories... someone stole her boss's girlfriend an got fired. 
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Posté 01 juillet 2015 - 04:49
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I've made compromises. With a decent compromise you can do both.
For example, I went to grad school in the city where I live with my husband because he has a job here and my family is nearby instead of trekking across country to go to a top 5 school in my area if study. And now I'm looking for jobs where we live instead of trying to relocate. There would probably be more job opportunities available outside the 30 mile radius around my house, but something will turn up eventually.
For example, I went to grad school in the city where I live with my husband because he has a job here and my family is nearby instead of trekking across country to go to a top 5 school in my area if study. And now I'm looking for jobs where we live instead of trying to relocate. There would probably be more job opportunities available outside the 30 mile radius around my house, but something will turn up eventually.
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Posté 01 juillet 2015 - 05:19
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Yes. I chose my partner. After I got my degree I took a posting in Texas. That is where we met. We are both business grads. She lived in New York and I resigned my position to move in with her. After about 6 months and I was unable to find work near where we lived and my money was running out and we were fighting all the time, she told me that all of her education and experience were not worth anything to her if we were not going to do this together. I have pretty much been a housewife ever since. In a way it worked out well, because I have been able to do volunteer work and support issues that we are both committed to and we've been together for 10 years now with 2 children and last year we started our own business.
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Posté 01 juillet 2015 - 07:47
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Be very cautious, OP. You may lose both as I did
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Posté 01 juillet 2015 - 07:57
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Im pettymuch a WGTOW i don need no wummin takein mah money.
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Posté 02 juillet 2015 - 05:10
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I haven't yet. But if I had to, I would definitely choose my partner. Even if that career was my dream job. I can always find another job but I could never be able to find another man like him.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 02:36
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If you aren't married (or plan to be married), choose the career.
No sense in throwing away reality to chase blind hopes.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 04:20
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Thankfully i've never been in a position like that, but that is a bit of a pickle. If for any reason I felt unsure of my partner being faithful to me, then I might just have to consider choosing the career. Otherwise, I'd definitely choose my partner.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 08:45
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If you aren't married (or plan to be married), choose the career.
No sense in throwing away reality to chase blind hopes.
Or maybe working 10 hours a day and returning to an empty house isn't actually an interesting reality.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 08:46
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Thankfully i've never been in a position like that, but that is a bit of a pickle. If for any reason I felt unsure of my partner being faithful to me, then I might just have to consider choosing the career. Otherwise, I'd definitely choose my partner.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 03:00
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 03:04
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Has anyone been in the position where you had to pick between a partner and career? If so, what was you choice and why?
My career.
How else will I afford to buy waifu pillows?
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 03:06
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Or maybe working 10 hours a day and returning to an empty house isn't actually an interesting reality.
You can always find another.
Again, if there is no long term commitment, or reasonable belief in a long term commitment in the future, it's not worth sacrificing for.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 03:29
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I'd choose a career. Although, to be fair, for the last 9 years, the career chose me (being in the Army). I'm a detached person who doesn't put much strength into love. It's a luxury I don't need in my life. I prefer being the only person who can relate to me.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 09:20
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Our Lord and savior Can give you the answers One seeks. just search and become wise
BTW you're always creating threads of these human nature.I use to wonder if You were writing a book based on the responses, now i just think you're so bored.that when these threads are created you sit and watch to see the tips,advice and troll comments.Specially from those you want to see blow up the thread
*Cracks open a beer*
"I am right, Bow to my greatness"
#19
Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 09:37
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"Click You know, you want too"
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#20
Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 09:55
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Don't have to worry about that, I don't have anyone and I'm too lazy to do that anyways.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 10:10
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Career. If they love you they'll stick around. Do whats good for you not somebody else.
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Posté 03 juillet 2015 - 10:13
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No. Because I'm in a buddy cop duo. 
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#23
Posté 04 juillet 2015 - 08:48
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Money for sure. Money=Girlfriend sadly these days...
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#24
Posté 04 juillet 2015 - 09:51
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depends on the circumstances. Is your significant other manipulating you in a way so you had to choose between him/her or your passion? Or is your career so taxing that having a relationship is impossible?
If its the former, dump em, if its the latter, dump the job.
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Posté 04 juillet 2015 - 09:13
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Money for sure. Money=Girlfriend sadly these days...
Quoted for (unfortunate) truth
