From what i've been reading here, i'm surprised people is more concerned about getting the option to insult or punch a transgender character, or tell Vivienne she's too black to sit with the cool kids, and no one has yet suggested they get the option to idk, raid a small village and rape everyone there, or the option to take your own slave. Y'know, for roleplayability's sake. Some are defending their demands a bit too much on the transphobia front, going on and on about why can't they get the options to roleplay as a dickhead or evil bastard, yet they're not going as far as demanding things like a rape or slave option, even though in situations of war it wouldn't be uncommon at all for such things to happen. It would even be realistic yet no one's asking that be an option. Ask yourselves why is that. If being able to roleplay with total freedom is such a big concern, why not go all the way? Hm, could it be because demanding certain things would be going too far? Because some things are just plain wrong and all too damn real to be reproduced in a videogame such as this? Specially in a game that focuses on other issues such as religious freedom, in-game racism, politics and the very fabric of the universe it unfolds into. Let's face it, roleplayability is not the real reason behind this, it's just being presented as an excuse. You're not asking for a rape or slave option because, among other things one would like to assume such as basic human decency, the City Elf origin made it clear from the very beginning those things are not OK. After portraying transgender characters as prostitutes, BioWare listened, corrected themselves and gave us Krem. You would too have asked they changed things if, being a white male, you saw the game portray white males as prostitutes only. I don't see it as much as a SJW thing as it is really just BioWare trying to include a wider demographic. It may be the DA staff being nice and PC, sure, but it's also business. Does this affect the game in a negative way? Not yet, IMO. It will if they make more changes just to please everyone while sacrificing plot and character development and the overall quality of the game in the process. Not giving you the option to reproduce IRL crap does none of such things.
As RPG as DA games may be, there are clear limitations to the roleplay the game allows, and those limitations are defined by the writers who chose to make DA about other things. There's a basic plot structure, but the details may vary as time passes and the writers decide to include them, specially in aspects that were kinda blurry to begin with. Fen'Harel was the absolute worse according to Dalish elven lore, yet in DA:I that lore we had seen in the previous two games proved to be very much inaccurate. Quoting Sten's words as Qun canon is not something i'd do considering the Qun is to this day still not as defined as say, the Chantry. DA:I actually takes down a few canon elements from the previous games: the Dalish got several things wrong, the Golden City was actually Black, the Rite of Tranquility can be reversed. I'd say in DAO the Qunari were still a work in progress, and we'll get to see actual Qun canon in the future, but they've already begun to define it better and it's not all Sten had to say of it. One could also argue that according to the Qun, if you are good for a specific task then that's what you'll do for life, so regardless of how the Qunari identifies as in terms of gender, if they're good warriors the Qun wouldn't waste them as a Tamassran or a simple baker, the Qun wastes nothing; what they identify as is not important, the important thing that takes priority for the Qun is what that individual can add to the Qun, and if that transgender is good warrior material the Qun will use that warrior material.
I must say i do agree with Weekes when he says "play something else". If the game is not all to your liking, go play something else. If you guys want more "roleplayability" and have your character speak its mind then get a DM and roll some dice. If you want to let your inner racist or misogynist out, go play GTA. There are already games out there that cater to what you want. DA games focus on other things, not on giving you full roleplayability, actually no RPG ever grants you that, there are always many things you can't decide on. Can DA games get better and offer more choices? Of course and i sure hope they do, but the options proposed in this topic by some are not precisely what could make DA better.