Shepard does survive in the destroy ending if you have enough EMS. Controlling or becoming one with the Reapers (synthesis) doesn't result in this.
If Shepard died in your playthrough you didn't destroy the Reapers or have enough EMS to do so.
I keep hearing it's because there wasn't some kind of heroic sacrifice, instead of Shepard just giving himself up to the Reapers without questioning or emotion. The extended cut does kind of expand on this. Shepard does question and he does have more emotion when speaking to the boy compared to the original ending.
Yes, I know. I don't think that the EC really solves the "why Shepard has to die the way he/she does" question.
Let's stay with the "Lord of the Rings" example, here is how it could be done:
Sam defeats Gollum, but the Ring lands on a rock down at the lava river. Frodo jumps down, knowing that he won't get a chance to get back up gain. There is limited time, Sauron knows of their presence. He grabs the Ring and yells to Sam "save yourself!".
"No Mister Frodo, I'm coming to you!"
"No Sam, there is no time!"
"I won't abandon you!"
"No Sam, I won't let you do this. Promise me to escape. Promise me to return home."
Frodo throws himself into the lava stream, to make Sam end his futile rescue attempt.
And here is how ME:3 would have done it:
A ghost appears: "Frodo, you must throw yourself into the lava. The ring will not be destroyed if you don't follow it!"
Frodo: "Why?"
Ghost: "There is too much of your spiritual energy in it, You have a connection. It won't go if you don't severe it. This can only be done by your death. And you must do it quickly, now, there is no time to question any of this!"
Frodo throws himself into the lava stream.
I was just thinking about B5. I seem to remember JMS describing Hyperspace as being something like Parallel space. Not quite a wormhole, more a system of gates linking to another dimension with it's own physics. Like a spiders web across the universe that exists on another plane.
As far as Science is concerned, It's probably as valid as Warp technology at the moment. ( I believe the White star used Magnetic fields to generate gravity) Not really jumping the shark because multiverse theory absolutely exists, as does the use of magnetic fields to generate force.
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I think the buzz word you are looking for is "hard science fiction" (see https://en.wikipedia...science_fiction).
AFAIK there are no tv shows or movies that try that (yes, I would question the examples from Wikipedia like "Space Odyssey 2001", others wouldn't). And not many writers, either. It is hard to get the science right and even harder to get the audience interested
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Neither Star Trek, nor Babylon 5, nor Mass Effect are hard science fiction nor were they ever intended to be.
A recent example is Andy Weir's "The Martian" (I have no affiliation with the author.).