So we are agreed that violence is a core element of the game as ME is an RPG that requires a war to be won and you can't do that without dropping bodies... for me its not just a shooter for that I would go somewhere else...
So consensus to a point about the violence?
Yes, the combat is a core element of the Mass Effect franchise.
However, as I've said before there is an option Bioware can keep that while also appealing to players who don't like killing: the use of non-lethal rounds. But that's as far as Bioware can realistically go with that, since you can't toggle out gameplay.
Gore... well realism is important and as I said before one persons gore is another persons realistic immersion, maybe I want to feel uncomfortable when I head shot someone, but I still want to head shot some enemies...
Gore is the easiest of these things to handle since gore toggles have existed for years and Bioware has even used them in their Dragon Age games, including Dragon Age: Inquisition which is on the same engine that Mass Effect: Andromeda would be. So it can be done quite easily since all the pieces for it already exist, and just need some tweaking.
And as an RPG that relies really heavily on relationships and the romance option is one that I personally value highly again for the immersion, well the 'culmination' of all the flirting is a sex scene so it is kind of important, but as we've said before you can choose that or not...
I wouldn't say Mass Effect relies heavily on romantic relationships. Platonic relationships sure, but not romantic relationships. The best way Bioware could appease both sides on this front is to do what they did in Dragon Age: Inquisition, which is have some romances have the sex scene be optional or leaving the level of physical intimacy ambiguous. That way people who want to experience the romances but don't like nudity can since there would be ones without mandatory sex scenes.
And then we're left with the language issue and I have to say I'm really uncomfortable using the term 'profanity' which has different connotations for some of us so I'd much rather stick to calling it swearing, coarse of even vulgar language... there is so little of it in the ME universe that its really not worth writing home about is it?
To address both profanity and vulgar language, it has increased exponentially as the games have gone on, so one could worry that growth would continue. Bioware could probably address this in two ways. First, have companions who don't swear or use profanity as well as ones that do, and secondly have a dialogue path of the protagonist that doesn't and another that does. With this, a player that doesn't like it can at least have their squad not talk like that.