I don't know, OP. I, for one, really loved how femShep was handled and that the animations were pretty much unisex most of the time. I like it a lot. The single place it seemed a bit funny to me was during Kasumi's mission where she had to wear a dress and, yeah, that was awkward, I admit. But the thing is that it looks pretty natural when she wears amour. And the game is about her kicking ass, not about her wearing pretty dresses. As for pictures that show femShep in that dress sitting around the Normandy with her legs spread, it rather makes me wonder why the ship's commander would even wear such a thing, especially on duty.
I'm not against more feminine animations, let me say that. I'm not at all against very feminine characters in video games, either. Especially if done well. The opposite, I welcome it. Even if I'd rather not play one in games like Mass Effect, which is purely a personal preference. I also don't think that soldiers can't be feminine, especially off duty. There's no reason that should be mutually exclusive. But we are still dealing with a highly trained combatant that wears tons of guns and tons of armour and that spends the game kicking ass. If she spends most of her time on the battlefield or commanding her ship, she should act the part. If she has to wear a dress for some reason, all right, I get it. (I'd rather the animations and outfits weren't exaggerated, though.) If she wants to wear loose hair while off duty, cool.
The problem is, I think, that feminine is subjective and it probably means something else to each person. What I'm afraid of when people start about making the protagonist more feminine is that the company will mistake it with, I don't know, "sexier" or getting more compliments from NPCs about her looks or whatever. Nothing wrong with that, either, but I can easily see that going wrong. And there's always the danger of defining our character a little too much for us when many people actually want more control over their own character.
So, yeah, I don't know. I don't think wanting a more feminine protagonist is a bad thing, definitely. But as far as I'm concerned, I really like what we've got. I'd prefer them to keep it more neutral with tweaks where needed and for the protagonists to be treated more or less the same by other NPCs with tweaks where needed. I'm rather happy with femShep. It may be a personal thing, I admit, but to me she's more relatable that way.