@ElvishPenguin: Bug, yes. This DLC apparently has a ton of them, and many are issues with choices failing to import properly.
Anyway, this is a problem with text, I can't always get my meaning across.
I think we all know how that feels. I was super-tired when I wrote my last post, and looking back at it, I know I could have been clearer on some things.
One can have a name, which one has to give meaning and individuality, or one can have an identifier. People can have the same name or identifier, but it is how one perceives it that hints at personhood. A name is embraced, an identifier just is. That is what I was referring to with the name and how humans can perceive personhood, because if we go with other fictional species' definition of the term, that'll just cause confusion.
What if you don't embrace your name, and it just ... is, at best? Anyway, I see what you mean. The point I was trying to make with "humanocentric" is that only going by our definitions doesn't always do fictional species justice. Of course, we can't move from our POV altogether because that's what we have -- but keeping in mind that our perspective isn't the only one in such a setting, or the only "valid" one, is a good idea.
I don't know, these epilogues are just hearsay, anyway.
Yes, we do know Bioware does not exactly have a history of treating them as actual canon, and instead will change them or other previously established facts if they feel they need to for a new narrative (i.e. zombie Leliana).
If the Chant is right that the Old Gods were of the firstborn, then spirits can have individuality and don't have to necessarily fit into a simple idea.
I think we can be pretty sure of that by now, after the various appearances of or new lore about spirits. Solas once told Cole that it's contact with the physical world that lets a spirit learn and grow. I don't think he meant it requires a presence here (be it Cole's unique circumstances or a more "normal" manifestation), since his Wisdom friend and the spirit who posed as Justinia, for example, remained in the Fade but still were distinct beings. In the old days that Solas wants to bring back, such contact would have been easier of course. If the Veil he created is preventing more spirits from realizing their potential, that is probably an issue he blames himself for too.
I didn't say it was the only kind, I just said it supports my idea. Friendship can work, sure, but it is not at the same level, and one can be friends with an animal, or view a relationship as such, but that animal isn't a person (I'm not arguing against animal rights). I feel like I may be contradicting myself somewhere...
Yes, I just wanted to point it out because the attitudes to exist -- not a dig at you personally. Sorry if that was unclear. As for what is more meaningful, I think it depends on each individual relationship, and how a culture views different kinds of relationships. If friendships are considered secondary at best, people have less incentive and fewer opportunities to form meaningful platonic bonds, or to legally "protect" these bonds. Anyway. Both "aspects" of Cole are explicitly meant to be both positive and bittersweet, and that is a good thing. As much as I prefer the spirit-path, there's room for both ... and the character would lose quite a bit, IMO, if it was black-and-white.