As to the OP:
Goes for hawke , and origins. I watch the videos on youtube everyone not just DA: I wants to play female it seems.
Something im missing? Figured if you play a game you would imagine that the character was you hence role playing right?
Or maybe im paranoid and missing something.
I seem to play a bit more third-person than you do apparently. My character isn't and can never be me. I roleplay a character with a life of their own, me there as an outside force in some completely different world than my own, obviously guiding all the decisions (since I'm like a deity that interjects himself into their lives mwahahaha)- the only way they succeed since the AI would be insufficient. With that as my approach any character is possible- especially non-humans. With your attitude you must play human male... and wield an iphone rather than a sword or magic... In that, way, yes, maybe you're not paranoid ("hypersensitive" is probably a better word for it), but you're definitely missing out. There's a hell of a lot more content in the game (moreso DAO) if you play a different sex or origin, so why not?
I admit, my first character in pretty much every rpg I can think of (where I had a choice) has been a girl... and I'm a (hetero) guy. Maybe it's the "staring at a butt" principle... OK, probably is to some degree... or the "make your own gf" principle... It does tend to make moments of helping my character succeed that much more engaging, the emotional commitment that much more real. Simply helping oneself often doesn't have the same pull. ("Where is the love for one's fellow man?!") Sometimes I feel like a dad who's protecting his daughter through her travails. So sue me. But if this is the sort of thing that gets most guys playing girls, then a predominance of female protagonists with a 68% male playership sounds about right. You should see the GW2 crowd- sooo many male-created females. In an online game where my character is also an avatar of myself, I make all males, as I did with all my characters in GW2. In DA, however, a single-player game (other than DAI's MP element I have no interest in), I've "gone both ways," so to say. After my first character which tends to endear me to the myriad encounters in the game, I play both male and female. So far in DAI I've made 2 females, 4 males (that I intend to play through the entire thing). In DAO it was 4 females to 2 males (with some extras I never played very far). It's just whatever works content-wise, being a content junkie myself.
I too have watched plenty of YT vids on DA- never noticed a predominance of female protagonists. Human, yes, but not female. Not sure what the YT stats on that really are or their relevance either, even if these stats mentioned earlier are pretty interesting. "The most frequent female game player is on average 43 years old and the average male game player is 35 years old." Really? I'm not too old after all!
On the thread's subtopic of attractiveness:
Not sure why Cassie gets a bad rap on looks actually. I tend to like a prominent jaw on a girl, and a lot of lusted-after movie actresses share it- even Angelina Jolie- but Cassie's really isn't that prominent comparatively. I do like longer hair, but Cassie isn't exactly "butch." The girly shows... or my superpower hetero male senses wouldn't tingle.
("Oh, they tingle at all sorts of women..." Shut up, libido!) Her voice actress is quite good too- not as hawt as Sigrun's, DAOMerrill's, or FemHawke's, but still... Makes Krem a curiosity as well...
I do like the notion of making any armored character wielding weapons look realistically muscular, but it wouldn't necessarily need to result in a beefcake girl though, since Bruce Lee was exceptionally strong but clearly lean and no Hulk Hogan.
On "fat-shaming," I defer to Ricky Gervais (once overweight himself). At a certain age even high metabolism isn't enough. But that's truly another topic entirely, whichever side you prefer to indulge... I'll just say Donk's post last page more outright mocks Cassandra detractors than demonstrates "fat-shaming." It's like, "Uh, so this ain't hawt?" Can't say I feel for male gamers complaining about Cass as a LI if you get that scene...