Even with Kaidan I have a problem with how we are told and not shown about their development. While Kaidan does seem to progress at a strangely fast pace, he's at least an officer. Ashley not only is commissioned as an officer, but jumps several ranks to match Shepard's rank. This bothered me not only because I have no idea why she deserves it, but i saw it as a n attempt to have your companion mirror Shepard. It is the same reason I didn't like James being invited to N7. I asked "why?" and saw the mirroring.
Yes, I dislike it, too. ME3 does that a lot. It keeps telling us things but never shows them. What? The real problem are synthetics who are supposedly a galactic threat? We'd better never show that! The Reapers have concentration camps? We'd better never show that, either! Jumping through ranks is one of these issues. At least on Mars, Kaidan (I suppose Ashley, as well. I've never seen her dialogues.) proves that he can be resourceful and capable and has no problem to lead (and, in fact, manages to steal leadership from Shepard on Mars here and there). But I agree it would be for the best if we could actually see Kaidan's/Ashley's achievements in person, e.g. meeting Kaidan's team in London would be great.
Yeah, it's hard to blame the VS when Shepard's dialogue is so bad first. I remember my first ME2 playthrough, where I'd romanced Ashley in ME1. The top option was basically, "hey, how are you? It's been too long," as if they simply hadn't seen each other in awhile.
Hah, I picked the same option and when Shepard delivered her "How are you? It's been too long," I couldn't believe that happened. That was about the least appropriate thing to say in that moment. What upset me most was that it seemed like Shepard simply didn't care. At all. As if she didn't mind whether Kaidan's around or not, whether he survived the Collectors or not, whether anybody survived the Collectors, actually. (Compare with Shepard's meeting Garrus where Shepard is like, "GARRUS, WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? (spreads her arms in an excited fashion)" Where she gets stressed out when Garrus takes that rocket. Then looks heartbroken that Garrus got injured. And people say Liara was the writer's pet, heh.) But then you talk to Kelly and Shepard can be all, "I REALLY LIKED KAIDAN AND I WISH HE DIDN'T LEAVE AND I AM SO SAAAAAD. (sad pouty face)" Ugh.
We don't know for sure, but we have good reason to think he wouldn't. That experience with Vyrnnus shaped the man Kaidan has become. It's why he controls himself so much. As someone else mentioned, it would have been cool for him to have a "World of Cardboard" moment.
Indeed. We don't know anything. That is my point. You're right he might get caught into an internal conflict which, in my opinion, would be very interesting. But Kaidan gets nothing for that scene until they needed him to talk. So we know and see nothing.
This goes to the "whiny" issue as well. I don't know why people choose that word when they just want to say he's weak or passive. Much like Jacob in ME2, he constantly tells you that he's dealing or has dealt with his issues and Shepard shouldn't worry about them. That's the opposite of whiny.
I can't take people who use "whiny" as character criticism seriously. From my experience, "whiny" is usually used by certain types of people to describe a "(usually) male character that dares to disagree with the player". Somehow it tends to happen to quite a few BW male love interests. Yet I've never seen anybody call Miranda or Jack "whiny", even though they bring up their issues all the time. (And by that, I'm not saying they are "whiny" to me. Just giving an example how nonsensical it is.)
Well it is a military operation, and insubordination, or pointing a weapon at your CO, can get you executed.
In my opinion, that's not Ashley's decision to make. In most cases, Shepard just tells her to watch her/his back. Although I admit I'd have to ask someone of actual military authority about whether her deed is appropriate. Let's just say that, as a player, I'm glad this doesn't happen in my game because when I checked it out on YouTube, I was rather disappointed in her. Not because she shot him. But because she killed him when it seemed like she didn't have to. It may be just me being soft, but death is an awfully final solution sometimes.
Yeah, all the other characters act like it's no big deal. I hated that.
So did I. I would expect Anderson, of all people, to lose his mind, knowing Shepard is with Cerberus, but he barely has any sort of reaction. He trusts Shepard unconditionally. Joker leaves the Alliance, a position he worked so hard to get, to join the terrorists. So did Chakwas. They become traitors just because Cerberus contacted them and promised stuff that's pretty much impossible as far as they know (which become possible because Cerberus and logic don't go along well). That just makes no sense. ME2 tries really hard to make you feel like working for the terrorists is no big deal, like they're no more than anti-heroes. But I didn't forget that these dudes thought it was okay to send Shepard's squad to their deaths, then experimented on one of the survivors, that they murdered Rear Admiral Kahoku to protect their dirty secrets, that killed many more in the name of "human advancement" that we've never seen. I hate how ME2 glosses over what Cerberus is and what they've done and are doing even when Shepard's there. What I hate even more is that they have Shepard do that sometimes (like during the dialogue with dying Tela Vassir).