Except his name is basically "Baker". And so is the guy next to him. And so on.
While Orlais at least has a Gerard, Henri, and Louise. And they probably get to dress, crap, and sleep when and how they want to. Possibly even having friends, raising their own children, and having sex in somewhere other than a gloriied religious whorehouse. Perhaps even love, if they're lucky. And their children even get to run around and play and just generally enjoy life like most of the billions of real kids do. And they get to do all of this with the benefit of not having some towering social retard being a debbie downer acting like a Cop to every goddamn thing in their life.
Yeah, other than that. Not so different 
Except that love is perfectly allowed under the Qun. It is just that "**** with someone over a long period of time" isn't a part of it. You can fall in love with someone, but not have sex with his/her. Sure, it is difficult for us to comprehend, but in the end, it is close to the idealistic love that knights were supposed to have for their Ladies. It may actually mean that for the Qunari, being in love with someone of your sex isn't associated with any kind of taboo, since sex (and reproduction) aren't a part of what "love" is.
Furthermore, we know next to nothing about how kids are treated under the Qun. Some appears to have very strict childhood from the beginning (like Bull) and others don't (like Hissrad), but it's apparently up to the Tamassran (yes, "up to" like in, she has a choice. Because, as I've said elsewhere, choices are paramount under the Qun, but the ability to evade consequence's from one choice is taken away). I guess that all they have to say is : "My way will make them better servants of the Qun, they won't become Tal-Vashoth. Making good Qunari is a demand of the Qun, and I'm doing just that. Any problem there ?).
It is also quite possible that the children born of Viddathari are actually full-blown Qunari for the Tamassran and that the classes the Tama taught to are comprised of people of mixed origins, Horned kids, Elves kids, Human kids and perhaps even some Dwarves kids. I suppose that during the first years, some Tamassran only asses what actually please the children, believing that by carefully grooming them for such roles, they will be better and happier Qunari. Others probably cling to what the kids were breed for and may impose things on the children in their care. But all in all, it is not so different of what parents and teachers do in our world, except that here, there is one Mother for a whole class of children.
So far, we have only seen glimpses of the true Qunari society, and what we have seen indicate that they are normal people, with their own doubts, their own pleasures, their own jokes (hell, even Sten and his guys jokes together in the Fade during DA:O. Sten ! Of all people !). And what we have seen from some Codex entries in DA:I is that many Qunari actually doubt, they don't follow the Qun every second of their waking life. But they still follow it overall, just like people in Southern Thedas don't follow every commandment of the Chant of Light, but still follow it overall.
I would also like to point out the fallacy in Solas statement concerning the Qunari baker. He says she does that as an act of rebellion, at her level. That's great. Except that if the Qunari don't have cookies, it's because they don't have leftover from when they bake cakes or breads. It means that they are given just the ingredient necessaries to do the rations they are tasked with. Which means that the bakers actually get the supplementary sugar from someone delivering it to her. This person get the sugar from the place it is made into sugar. This place get the sugar from the plantations used to grow plants which produce sugar once transformed.
And the supervisors of the baker will note of the extra sugar, and so will do those who get her bread. Before long a Ben-Hassrath will learn of that. And he will do nothing about it, as he has apparently done for quite some time in Solas' example. Why ? Because it is not a rebellion, not even a little. Perhaps the Ben-Hassrath actually love the supplementary sugar in is bread ? Perhaps he simply deem it far too insignificant to be worth of note ? Perhaps he actually believe that the extra sugar provide a very slight marginal input of productivity for the whole society, because the people who get the bread from the baker are actually all the more happy to do their duty and help the baker if need arise ?
We don't know what the Ben-Hassrath thinks. But we know one thing for sure : as long as you don't actually undermine the Qun, the Ben-Hassrath won't care about your personal beliefs, how much you care for the complexities of the Qun and all that. That's what I got from the example used by Solas. He wanted to use it to prove that even among drones, some individuality survived. I see it as him not having understood anything about the Qun, the lives of Qunari or the fact that they are actually just as much people than himself or anybody else.