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[Getorex]

Has this ever actually happened to you?
 
Exactly one guy has hit on me.I didn't know him, so no awkwardness and I simply told him I wasn't interested. I saw him around university occasionally and didnt feel any particular awkwardness.

No guys have ever hit on me. I'm fairly obvious in my interests. I am never in awkward situations with women because there's never ambiguity. I let them know if I'm interested. I don't play out other scenarios and wouldn't permit a situation to get ambiguous.

I like you "that way" or I don't. There's no maybe, maybe not.

[Rannik]

I'm just saying, you could have full on romance stories with less sexual undertones than Kaiden/Shep in ME1-2.

 
And I honestly think that it worked vastly better than any other romance plot in any Bioware game.
 
At a very least it felt way more real than the usual:

• "Hello my name is X."
• insert two or three out-of-context shameless flirts here
• "We'll bang, OK?"

Every interaction with that person is wanting more from that person but can't have it so...no thanks.

You wot m8? I can't speak for others, but I can and do draw lines perfectly fine.

I'd never go for anything more than banter with someone that is not (or simply cannot be) interested.

[Getorex]

And I honestly think that it worked vastly better than any other romance plot in any Bioware game. At a very least it felt way more real than the usual:

• "Hello my name is X."
• insert two or three out-of-context shameless flirts here
• "We'll bang, OK?"

You wot m8? I can't speak for others, but I can and do draw lines perfectly fine.I'd never go for anything more than banter with someone that is not (or simply cannot be) interested.

Apples and oranges. Not talking about meeting someone new that I'm interested in but someone with whom there's been a ongoing relationship of close type but not romantic but with whom you've known long enough to really be hooked on. Follow this part of the thread back a bit.

But...a woman having a boyfriend or what that I'm really interested in doesn't get compartmented into "cannot have" territory like that. I'll see about taking her from her guy if I think she's worth the work. No compartments..unless I get involved with or come across another woman less encumbered who is at least as desirable. Then I can put the other away into a friend compartment. If she's just not interested then she's not and I'm not stuck on her and won't try, I barely know her afterall.

[daveliam]

I think it's more important for helping us sort out what the developers consider flirty. I've been often accused of being too flirty for my own good. Apparently my default mode of social interaction is "flirt", and lots of things I thought were totally innocent actually were interpreted as being flirty. So I can sort of understand the need for a symbol in games. But even for someone like me, I tend to think games are pretty obvious about their flirting. 

 

But I come right back to my "comical levels of sexual tension" point re: Kaiden and M!Shep in ME1-ME2. There are lots of situations where a come-on might be a bit out of the blue. But this is Alistair "licking a lampost in winter" levels of overt flirtation. Followed by his casual chat about being a virgin. 

 

Oh man, does this mean that I've been misinterpreting the flirty tension between me and In Exile this whole time?  I guess this means that our cyber-friendship must be voided in order to avoid awkwardness now.....

[Deebo305]

Oh lord Jesus.

Basically how alot these new threads are making me feel

[SentinelMacDeath]

Apples and oranges. Not talking about meeting someone new that I'm interested in but someone with whom there's been a ongoing relationship of close type but not romantic but with whom you've known long enough to really be hooked on. Follow this part of the thread back a bit.

But...a woman having a boyfriend or what that I'm really interested in doesn't get compartmented into "cannot have" territory like that. I'll see about taking her from her guy if I think she's worth the work. No compartments..unless I get involved with or come across another woman less encumbered who is at least as desirable. Then I can put the other away into a friend compartment. If she's just not interested then she's not and I'm not stuck on her and won't try, I barely know her afterall.

 

you can develop romantic feelings for someone you've known and have been close to  for years. It's not a new concept at all. Those things happen. 

 

But damn, you're a homewrecker. 

[daveliam]

you can develop romantic feelings for someone you've known and have been close to  for years. It's not a new concept at all. Those things happen. 

 

But damn, you're a homewrecker. 

 

What?  He's just talking about "taking" a woman "from her guy" if "she's worth the work".  Nothing creepy, pathetic, or sad about that phrasing at all.....

[Getorex]

What? He's just talking about "taking" a woman "from her guy" if "she's worth the work". Nothing creepy, pathetic, or sad about that phrasing at all.....

So you only go for those NOT worth it? You don't work for it? Don't put in effort?

I fight for a woman I believe to be worth the effort, like a normal person. A boyfriend is irrelevant to that. If I can get her from her boyfriend then they weren't really together were they? Who gives a crap about him?

[Belial]

Taeyeon!

 

Spoiler

 

Hm the rest of this thread got a bit contentious so I guess I'm going to er, pass on all that..

 

Yay someone recognized her!

 

Spoiler

 

 

Contentious and a bit creepy so yeah I'm out.

[Zekka]

lets just not waste time with romance okay.

[Berta]

I am 99% sure they will never, ever add a option to disable homosexual/bisexual romances as it's discrimination.

[SentinelMacDeath]

So you only go for those NOT worth it? You don't work for it? Don't put in effort?

I fight for a woman I believe to be worth the effort, like a normal person. A boyfriend is irrelevant to that. If I can get her from her boyfriend then they weren't really together were they? Who gives a crap about him?

 

Well, trying alone shows that you do not respect the choice a woman made. That alone is a huge red flag. 

[vbibbi]

Well, trying alone shows that you do not respect the choice a woman made. That alone is a huge red flag.

Didn't you know women all secretly want to be treated like trophies to be fought over with no agency in their own lives?

[SentinelMacDeath]

Didn't you know women all secretly want to be treated like trophies to be fought over with no agency in their own lives?

 

Oh right, I forgot. Always appease the Alpha male no matter what. I'm only a woman.

[Ahglock]

Well, trying alone shows that you do not respect the choice a woman made. That alone is a huge red flag. 

 

I have literally seen people say not trying shows that you beleive women are owned property of the men they are dating.  So yeah, nice no win situation there. 

[vbibbi]

I have literally seen people say not trying shows that you beleive women are owned property of the men they are dating.  So yeah, nice no win situation there.

So what is your justification for hitting on a woman clearly happy with her current partner?

[Ahglock]

So what is your justification for hitting on a woman clearly happy with her current partner?

 

I don't, but I don't think its morally wrong to do so.  Their are a variety of reasons why you might.  Clearly happy just means apparently happy, she might not be.  She might have settled and want something more, she might just like to cheat I mean about 50% of the people out there do, she might be happy but could be happier with you, she is shallow and wants whatever you have and he doesn't.  How is it wrong to check and find out? 

[In Exile]

Oh man, does this mean that I've been misinterpreting the flirty tension between me and In Exile this whole time?  I guess this means that our cyber-friendship must be voided in order to avoid awkwardness now.....

 

Damn it. To preserve our friendship, our only choice now is to have steamy (adulterous) sex. That's how it works, right? The rules of being a bro are so confusing. But I insist we role-play this because, again, I've seen porn with less sexual tension. 

 

 

So you only go for those NOT worth it? You don't work for it? Don't put in effort?

I fight for a woman I believe to be worth the effort, like a normal person. A boyfriend is irrelevant to that. If I can get her from her boyfriend then they weren't really together were they? Who gives a crap about him?

 

No, the creepy part is in talking about another person as if she was a piece of furniture, e.g., "taking her from her guy". 

[SentinelMacDeath]

Damn it. To preserve our friendship, our only choice now is to have steamy (adulterous) sex. That's how it works, right? The rules of being a bro are so confusing. But I insist we role-play this because, again, I've seen porn with less sexual tension. 

 

The question is: "Can I watch?"  Someone gotta be creepy about it ... might as well be me ... 

[AlanC9]

But damn, you're a homewrecker.

Is that his problem? It's an interesting ethics question. I was the other guy once; broke it off because it felt kinda icky, but that wasn't the same as taking some sort of ethical stand.

[In Exile]

The question is: "Can I watch?"  Someone gotta be creepy about it ... might as well be me ... 

 

I'm pretty sure it's not really all that creepy if 1) you ask and 2) we agree.  

[SentinelMacDeath]

I'm pretty sure it's not really all that creepy if 1) you ask and 2) we agree.

 

consider it asked 

[pdusen]

The flirt is the ruin right there.

 

If I'm buddies with a guy for a long time and suddenly he FLIRTS with me, friendship over. "DUDE!  WTF?  We've ALWAYS been bros, not hand-holders.  Why did you go there?  Now I have to think about everything I say wondering if it's going to send the wrong signal and...why the HELL didn't you let me know long ago you were gay?  It would have made things SO much easier henceforth because you'd know I'm not and I'd know you are and never the two love lives would meet."

 

Plus it would be unlikely that suddenly out of the blue he's into you when he wasn't at all in ME1 (besides, he never survives ME1 to go there because Ashley's just better and hotter but, hey).

 

How do you function?

[vbibbi]

Damn it. To preserve our friendship, our only choice now is to have steamy (adulterous) sex. That's how it works, right? The rules of being a bro are so confusing. But I insist we role-play this because, again, I've seen porn with less sexual tension.

"I like knowing what kind of man I have at my back."

Drops mic

[In Exile]

"I like knowing what kind of man I have at my back."

Drops mic

 

That's platonic. Totally platonic. They're just bros.