Are cheap romances bad for the game….. hm……….. well………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
I don’t know, I just think… in a relative, absolute, imperator sense? Honestly, I think when you break it down, having a romance simulated in a game, where it’s clearly designed to avoid reality, face things on your own pace, be kind of “afraid” it’s all the stuff that much of the world and mainstream society looks down upon, saying it makes you weak and pathetic.
But you know I just don’t.. it’s like when I see people with their waifu pillows or figurines or all the things they do that makes them fear the judgment of the rest of the world..
Like seriously though, forget those people who look down on all that, you know why? Because the vast majority of those time those random stereotypical people have no idea what they’re doing or saying. Here is the truth they refuse to share, romantic, sexual, or deep personal connections are very challenging for a lot of people. I think a lot of nerds spend an unnecessary amount of time panicking about all these supposedly strong handsome perfect breasts figures in American media or the world generally or something, like they don’t have anything to offer next to all that, well guess what, most of that is massive junk. The reality is the vast majority of people everywhere aren’t living this Hollywood movie ideal where the guy and the girl just speak movie lines back and forth to each other. The people who mock this introverted game of sex and preparation and such are just being jerks, and in all probability struggle with all that way more than anyone.
It’s pretty clear that romance sims and the internet and all this stuff is designed to help make relationships (often real ones) easier to understand and better, and guess what, that’s ok! It’s ok to ask for extra space because you are special, or to ask for things to be different for you because you are different. Yeah, sure, people might grumble, they might even call you names, they might not understand, but it’s going to be ok. Don’t give up just because things don’t go perfect all the time. On some fundamental level, people respect honest needs and desires. Failing to assert oneself in this way is the worst thing of all, it just leads to more and more bottled up emotions that eventually spill over and cause big problems for everyone.
It’s pretty natural to feel fear or trepidation when it comes to sex and relationships, it’s also natural to feel like things have been bungled, or that things may have gone better if not for that one thing, and a dozen other things. More often than not, the other party might be feeling the exact same way.
So are these romance sim that bad? I don’t know, like I said, I think people have a right to their forms of expression, so they don’t meet some Herculean freaking ideal, that’s just pretty freaking normal at the end of the day.
I’ve made clear over 4,000 some posts that there are things Bioware could do better, some of them quite critical, but like, I can play my games that I like better, or whatever, I’m certainly not going to waste my time churlishly insulting someone who prefers to internet date or spend a long time before going to another step because they have severe body issues or something like some dolt across the internet. Rather, I just kind of see people who seem to freak out a little more than maybe they need to... if they would consider asserting themselves just a tiny bit at times..
I’m not going to mince words, there are often many people who do not understand what it means to express fragility, maybe even a minority, maybe even a fraction minority but I do know that the people who come down all hard on this kind of thing have no idea what they’re saying, just like, screw their lashing out at you for wanting to move at a slower pace, trust me on this.
And I’m also not going to mince words, a lot of the time, people won’t understand, but I’m sick of the excuses, the neverending parade of but this but that but the other, everyone makes their choices in life about how to live. Some people are surrounded by people like themselves and somehow don’t act themselves, and there are others who have few role models, guides to behavior, and yet somehow seem to manage to express their unique preferences and keep their personality in tact anyway.
And moreover, on the other side of the coin, maybe it will help people understand that differences aren’t unique to any one group of people. Even the people who mock those for being different, often have felt different themselves, maybe in expressing one’s own unique needs, it can give greater compassion and understanding for others. No one ever has an excuse to treat other people badly. Instead of getting mad at people for creating this sense of rushing and chaos, try and understand why they might be that way? In return for what they give, what are you going to give them? Are you going to be nice to them? People tend to be nice to people who are nice to them, there are simple concepts in this world people should embrace.
Feeling left out, ostracized, these are not the province of nerds or geeks, anyone can feel that way, has very likely felt that way, and it’s time for people, here, there, and everywhere, to recognize that fact.
Anyway, I just see people who want extra time, extra energy, extra space to make certain decisions and that’s just fine. It might look funny to a lot of people, but it looks pretty normal to me.
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