Don't forget the Mage Elf! You can uh... vaguely reference to people at times that you are an Elf.......... like.............. three times or so.
Really? I played a city elf and mage elf back to back, and found that the mage elf received comments for being an elf roughly half as often as she received comments for being a mage.
Having been spared life in an actual Alienage and had no contact with Ferelden society since s/he was a child, I would if anything imagine the Mage Elf to feel more strongly about the Chantry than the nobility. And even then being a Circle Mage is a much better deal for an elf than a human, considering the alternative.
Or, one could look at it as just be another symptom of humans forcing their will on the elves. Surana has better access to history than any other Elven Warden (since city elves have forgotten everything and the Dalish records were destroyed when Halamshiral was sacked), so Surana could potentially know your people had a mage-friendly nation all their own before mage-hating humans sacked it and forced elves to conform to their religion and culture. Only humans can become nobles while of elves lead mostly impoverished peasant lives in alienages; only humans can become Chantry priests and Templars while elves (who were forced to convert in the first place) can pay tithes at best, get forced to live in a Circle under Templar supervision if mages at worst.
Human nobles = more power than elven peasants.
Human Templars = more power than elven mages.
My Surana saw a Circle as just another kind of Alienage, with Templars as just another kind of armored human pushing her kind around.
It's also kept vague as to how much grief Circle elves get for being elves, but you can tell Duncan you've received grief for being an elf, and Eadric is pretty bitter toward humans (which Amell can confirm by saying, "I don't take orders from elves"), so it's entirely possible you got grief for being an elf in the Circle; never mind outside it.
Personally, my Surana was just as invested in being elven and helping her people since elven society is more mage-friendly, so she felt it was her best interest to support her people having their culture restored. If being a mage and elven go together like peanutbutter and jelly, then let's make that sandwich.