I don't play the ME games. With that in mind, which fanbase is worse about the romances? DA or ME?
That's hard to say, especially because my current experience with the ME fanbase is one where nobody really has anything substantial to discuss in that section other than whether or not we believe the game will be terrible. Also, the off topic closure meant that a lot of people who only participated in the off topic section have now migrated to the ME section by default, whether or not they actually care about discussing ME.
I'm still going to say the ME fanbase is worse, though. They are crazy intense, and as both a collective and individuals they can't seem to decide whether they're irrationally obsessed with the romances or irrationally opposed to them.
They also love parody threads. I mean, the section really, really loves parody. They started this thing early on, Someone made a "(___ character) in ME:A. Thoughts?" thread. So people started parodying that. A few were a little funny, but before long the section was full of different versions of, "___ in ME:A. Thoughts?"
Plus, there is a lot of troll vs. troll combat there. Sometimes the trolls seem like they can't decide which side can potentially grant them the chance to get on the most people's nerves, and then they keep trying to out troll one another. It's funny occasionally, but usually it's not. All the most earnest and thoughtful discussion is drowned out by snark and condescension.
I think that a huge percentage of the vocal opposition to romance content is virtue signaling: "See, I'm not one of those pathetic losers who can only get sex through video games! I'm so awesome irl that I don't need that!" Also, it seems to me that the more someone complains about pandering, the more they want to be pandered to. Just my observations, for whatever it's worth.
I think you're right. It's a way to distinguish themselves from lesser gamers, or all the lame sentimentalists who like something as sappy as romance.
"Useless," they call it. As though any roleplaying option in an rpg doesn't primarily have the same use. To provide roleplaying options. Such a weird fanbase.