Advanced apologies for length.
I decided to make this thread here because the same people usually post when this issue crops up in the main DAI forums, and I wanted to see what you all in this group thought about it. Did you like or dislike them? Were you pleased or displeased with the inclusion of the option?
Before I give my view, please keep in mind that Dorian is my preferred LI and there was no marriage option for him. I also have not seen either Cullen or Sera's options. I do feel that I am coming from a place of neutrality on this issue.
That said, I think they were handled badly. Well, for everyone who did not romance either Cullen or Sera, I suppose.
From a personal perspective, I don't necessarily want or need to get married to my LI. In fact, I'm still trying to figure out how my Inquisitor feels about it, which is difficult since it's all bound up with the realities of his relationship with Dorian. And to be honest, I don't think it's something that Dorian would want to do for various reasons that I've posted about elsewhere, so I won't elaborate here (I can if someone wants). However, I do think it's a shame that none of the other LIs, other than a non-committal response from Iron Bull, even have the option to broach the subject. But... I can see why they did that as well.
From a character writing perspective, I do NOT think that marriage should be an option for all of the LI. I think the writer should treat this, along with other things, according to the character's personality, and do not think the option should be included for everyone simply for the sake of having everyone able to be married. There are many reasons someone might not want to get married, and I don't feel that the lack of marriage detracts from a loving, committed relationship.
From a game writing perspective, imagine you are one of these writers and you don't think it's in-character for your character to get, or want to get married, regardless of however much they love their partner, and for whatever reason. Then you are forced to write a dialogue response where they turn the PC down. I don't care how tactfully it is written, how wonderfully the LI responds, how reasonable their answer is, or how in-keeping with role-play it would be, it would still be a huge blow to a LOT of players to be refused in such a way. In that case, I think they made the right choice in just not allowing the option to be addressed at all.
Of course, the monkey wrench thrown into that is the "joke" Varric plays on Cassandra that has her inquire about marriage prospects, regardless of whom the Inquisitor romanced. I think that rather ruins any sort of forethought that the writers had in disallowing the option in the first place. As I've said elsewhere: it makes Cassandra look like an idiot, Varric look like an ass, and the player feel bad*.
The conversation with Cassandra suggests that it might be something that the player might be able to talk about with their LI, so they run over and discover that there is no such option. Also, depending on the order of things, it can come across as worse simply due to circumstance -- there is one Dorian thread poster who went over to discuss it with him and was met by the going away party cinematic, an unfortunate happenstance. For some**, she can look like an insensitive clod in the case of a Solas romance.
I don't think that such a conversation can rightly be handled in a simple cinematic; it's a serious issue for a couple to discuss. In that case, I don't like the bit with Cassandra in the least and think it should not have been in the game at all.
In the end, while I accept the decision for some of these LI, I think it was executed poorly.
*, ** Obviously, does not apply to everyone, and YMMV, as they say.
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The interaction between a married Sera and Cass was also very good (loved that Josie wanted to put Sera in a fluffy dress). For someone that romanced Sera, Trespasser shouldn't be missed, it was all so cute. She grows a great deal in the dlc. I enjoyed the elf inquisitor in trespasser the most as Sera really starts to think of her feelings. 
