Anyways, I think a lot of things in this setting are distasteful. It's a matter of picking your poison. Ideally, I'd like free mages who also learned to shut out the fade. They can still be educated without the Circles.
Yes, but it would boring is everything was just fine, wouldn't it?
Conflicts like the one about the mages, or the qunari, are an expression of a dilemma all civilizations must face: the need for some level of order and stability without which a civilization can't function, and the need for individual freedom and the potential for change without which a civilization will stagnate. Where does the right balance lie? In addition, that conflict is bound up in the ruling elite's desire to stay in power, the desire of disenfranchised minorities for change, people's fear of anything "other" and a dozen other political and social issues.
Personally, I'd rather err on the side of freedom, and as long as the story doesn't imply I'm wrong - and DA has managed to avoid that so far - I'm fine with it. I have much more of a problem with the story's implication that breaking into the Golden City was in some way evil. The Seven have squandered any goodwill I might've had towards them, but by acts unrelated to that. In general I'll always support attempts to steal fire from the gods.