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[lynroy]

Unfortunately, your aunt isn't lying.

Female bar staff get harassed pretty badly.
Bouncers can help make sure it doesn't go further than harassment but it'll still happen.

I could not handle that. At all. People would die.

[Lady Artifice]

Male bar staff don't always fare much better. Even at my job at the winery, where things are considerably more tame than in an actual bar, the women will be inappropriate with the men just as often if not more than the men are inappropriate with the other women and me. 

 

For the record, I hate bachelorette parties. 

[HuldraDancer]

It's for a party of people in their early twenties from what I've been told. Hell I wish I would be stuck behind some bar but I'm going to have to be out there in the crowd to clean up their messes. Some one spills a drink? Go out in the dance floor with the drunkards and mop it up while they try to dance with you and the mop. If I don't snap it'll be a miracle. Only semi good thing I've been told about it before is that drunk people tip a lot and the area is too dark to catch you taking tips. Though I'm not even sure I'd be able to do that, I think I might feel too guilty about it or something equally stupid.

[nightscrawl]

Only semi good thing I've been told about it before is that drunk people tip a lot and the area is too dark to catch you taking tips. Though I'm not even sure I'd be able to do that, I think I might feel too guilty about it or something equally stupid.

 
I'm not much of a rule breaker, myself, so I feel ya.

[daveliam]

Male bar staff don't always fare much better. Even at my job at the winery, where things are considerably more tame than in an actual bar, the women will be inappropriate with the men just as often if not more than the men are inappropriate with the other women and me.

For the record, I hate bachelorette parties.

<begin vent>. Ugh! I HATE bachelorette parties too. They are the worst. (Generalizing) There is nothing more entitled than a bachelorette party. John Oliver put it best: 'It's about ME! This is MY big day right before my OTHER big day about ME!'

But part of that is vestigial animosity from when I would get accosted in gay bars by bachelorette parties who would invade and make it all about them. I've been asked to give them my underwear, suck the candy off of their necklaces, and make out with them. It's like, ladies, I get that you are going to gay bars to let loose because it feels safer there but then where can I go to feel safe from you.....?

And it was the WORST when it was before marriage equality was passed. It was like, 'I'm going to come to this bar and make it all about me and my big day without even acknowledging that there are legal restrictions blocking the very patrons of this establishment from having this same right.' Talk about tone deaf.

But, all of the being said, I've also been to some really amazing low key, chill bachelorette parties, do ymmv, I suppose. <end vent>

[Biotic Apostate]

It's like, ladies, I get that you are going to gay bars to let loose because it feels safer there but then where can I go to feel safe from you.....?

Oh my gawd, why are you making this about yourself? These ladies are trying to celebrate, like, an important day for them, and you're trying to make gay bars about gays! Now quit being so unchill, those candy bracelets are not going to eat themselves!

 

Ugh, that sounds so demeaning. It's one step from shouting "Hey you, local gay, entertain me!"

I don't get bachelor/bachelorette parties. As a celebration with friends - sure. But as a crazy uncontrolled party with strippers and kissing strangers, it just seems disrespectful to the whole idea of getting married. Finding a person you want to spend your life with is a good thing, not a chance to mourn the death of a lifestyle that you did not engage in for a while anyway.

 

And yeah, tone deaf. I hope this isn't a trend here. It probably will be. "Super stoked that you can enjoy something people like me won't probably be ever able to here!" *munches on a bracelet*

[/vent-inspired vent]

 

Also

I've been asked to give them my underwear

Please stahp, bachelorettes. 

 

In other news, a LI list loving BSN member is putting down Dorian and other characters using anti-gay slurs, and I've had enough of that crap.

 

Sorry for rant, internship hunting is stressful.

[Duelist]

Male bar staff don't always fare much better. Even at my job at the winery, where things are considerably more tame than in an actual bar, the women will be inappropriate with the men just as often if not more than the men are inappropriate with the other women and me.

For the record, I hate bachelorette parties.

Drunk women are the worst, especially for bouncers.

They're just as pushy as men but have the added annoyance of the Superman Effect i.e. if you put your hands on a woman, a bunch of random guys will come to her aid.

[daveliam]

Also

Please stahp, bachelorettes. 

 

This particular gem came from a 'scavenger hunt' that all of the gals in the bachelorette party needed to complete.  Literally, one of the items on the scavenger hunt was to get a guy to give them his underwear.  At a gay bar...... <insert eyeroll emoji here>

 

But, I'm sure some other people were happy to drop trou for them and hand them over.  So, maybe I'm just a stick in the mud.

 

Of course, the fact that if it were a cute guy asking me to give him my underwear, I'm sure I'd be more than open to the idea, so maybe not.....

[Biotic Apostate]

Haha they did not think that through.

 

But yeah, a cute guy would be a different story. Dinner first would be nice though 

[Grieving Natashina]

Regarding the poll debate: Thanks for your input guys. You all brought up some very good points and gave me a lot of food for thought.

@Gomez. Glad to see you're doing better. <hugs>

With the topic at hand, this is why I didn't have a bachleorette party. For one, I'm not a fan of large parties and neither is the Sasquatch. For another, I had to be up at 8am the next day and there was no way I was doing it with a hangover.

I did throw one for my best gal friend when she was getting married. We did it at her house and spend money at the novelity store. No gay men, but penises. Penises everywhere. Straws, whistles, crowns, you name it. We did get some alcohol, but we didn't get too drunk. We had agreed it was safer and cheaper to do it at her place. Also, neither one of us were all that attracted to the typical build of male strippers.

I find the behavior of women at strip clubs disgusting. Some of those ladies are the type to cry "sexist" if someone even glances at a low cut top. Meanwhile, they are groping men such a way that it makes me cringe. No one has a right to be treated like that, even if they strip for a living. DIsgusting.

[Steelcan]

while we're on the subject of inappropriate interaction, one of the moms was picking up her kid from the pool and tried to flirt with me, which was flattering, kinda intriguing, distracting, and inappropriate all at the same time.

[Duelist]

I could not handle that. At all. People would die.

Believe me, I know that feeling.

It isn't a coincidence that all of my assault charges were picked up while I was working doors.

[Lady Artifice]

<begin vent>. Ugh! I HATE bachelorette parties too. They are the worst. (Generalizing) There is nothing more entitled than a bachelorette party. John Oliver put it best: 'It's about ME! This is MY big day right before my OTHER big day about ME!'

But part of that is vestigial animosity from when I would get accosted in gay bars by bachelorette parties who would invade and make it all about them. I've been asked to give them my underwear, suck the candy off of their necklaces, and make out with them. It's like, ladies, I get that you are going to gay bars to let loose because it feels safer there but then where can I go to feel safe from you.....?

And it was the WORST when it was before marriage equality was passed. It was like, 'I'm going to come to this bar and make it all about me and my big day without even acknowledging that there are legal restrictions blocking the very patrons of this establishment from having this same right.' Talk about tone deaf.

But, all of the being said, I've also been to some really amazing low key, chill bachelorette parties, do ymmv, I suppose. <end vent>

 

 

In my five years of working in a winery, I've hosted over a hundred bachelorette parties, and only two that I recall have been less than obnoxious. 

 

I'm sure bachelor parties can be just as rowdy, but they almost never choose a place like a wine tasting room for it. It seems they restrict that to bars and clubs. 

 

One of the many obnoxious groups showed up with a penis shaped cake. We don't even have a license for people bringing in outside food, and they just assumed it was fine. I don't think I've ever blushed that much in my life. 

 

But nothing compares to the kind of thing you described. I'm not even sure how much I buy the idea that it's because they feel safer there. When you've got your group, and you stick together, it's rarely that difficult for women to hold the creeps at bay in my experience. Strength in numbers is still as much a social rule as it was when we were still living in caves. It sounds more like they want to just find a room of "gay best friends" to entertain them because they can't really manage to entertain themselves well enough. Shame on them. 

[vertigomez]

I'm sorry, but I have to rant about my paranoid coworker. I wish she was just ******* with me, but she's not. She's not just a conspiracy theorist, she's like... ALL THE CONSPIRACY THEORIES.

She's gone on and on before about how every politician is a Satanist, and Obama is actually the third Obama (the original is dead and these last two were lizard people clones). She's an anti-vaxxer who believes earth is on a collision course with planet Nibiru, which the Illuminati wants for... some reason.

This morning she was telling me about microchips in vaccines that are activated via satellite, and whose sole purpose is to cause more pain in people who already suffer from chronic pain. The microchips contain the Number of the Beast. She knows this because her boyfriend got a vaccine after a lying doctor diagnosed him with cancer (which was a LIE!! because he failed a pregnancy test), and he got a rash all over his body after they ate Kentucky Fried Chicken that was loaded with MSG (don't ask me how this is related). Domino's Pizza is in on it too - the logo falling off in the commercial is symbolic of how much they want to kill us, "like the domino effect."

I CAN'T HANDLE THIIIIIIS. It would be hilarious if she wasn't dead ******* serious. So it's just terrifying instead.

[Biotic Apostate]

You're obviously not agreeing with her, because you too are a lizard person.

 

This is actually quite fascinating. What happened to Obama Lizard the First? Was he a double agent? Did he retire to be with his lounge of lizard relatives?

If you get tired of her, you can write 666 on a post it and scare her off with it. I wonder if she ever goes to a shop, sees the price $649.99 and thinks "Oh no, it's the Number of the Discount Beast!"

 

I mean, conspiracy lovers are everywhere, but lizard people and demon microchips are just a new level of crazy.

 

And don't forget

Spoiler

Illuminati confirmed

[vertigomez]

You're obviously not agreeing with her, because you too are a lizard person.

Th- that's absurd! The tail is vestigial. And, uh, I have a severe skin condition. Yeah.
 

This is actually quite fascinating. What happened to Obama Lizard the First? Was he a double agent? Did he retire to be with his lounge of lizard relatives?
If you get tired of her, you can write 666 on a post it and scare her off with it. I wonder if she ever goes to a shop, sees the price $649.99 and thinks "Oh no, it's the Number of the Discount Beast!"
 
I mean, conspiracy lovers are everywhere, but lizard people and demon microchips are just a new level of crazy.
 
And don't forget

Spoiler

Illuminati confirmed

If I showed her that image, no lie, I'm 99% sure she'd nod solemnly. It's good that we're awake and aware, unlike those sheeple.

I need to ask her what happened to the other Obamas. Was the first one human? Was he a Satanist that was deposed by the lizard clones? No one knows!

[nightscrawl]

I'm sorry, but I have to rant about my paranoid coworker. I wish she was just ******* with me, but she's not. She's not just a conspiracy theorist, she's like... ALL THE CONSPIRACY THEORIES.

She's gone on and on before about how every politician is a Satanist, and Obama is actually the third Obama (the original is dead and these last two were lizard people clones). She's an anti-vaxxer who believes earth is on a collision course with planet Nibiru, which the Illuminati wants for... some reason.

This morning she was telling me about microchips in vaccines that are activated via satellite, and whose sole purpose is to cause more pain in people who already suffer from chronic pain. The microchips contain the Number of the Beast. She knows this because her boyfriend got a vaccine after a lying doctor diagnosed him with cancer (which was a LIE!! because he failed a pregnancy test), and he got a rash all over his body after they ate Kentucky Fried Chicken that was loaded with MSG (don't ask me how this is related). Domino's Pizza is in on it too - the logo falling off in the commercial is symbolic of how much they want to kill us, "like the domino effect."

I CAN'T HANDLE THIIIIIIS. It would be hilarious if she wasn't dead ******* serious. So it's just terrifying instead.

 

So... you're not exaggerating about any of this? One person REALLY believes ALL of these things??

 

The thing with people like this is I don't really know how they can be functioning members of society while still believing all of these things. She has a job, so she's at least functional on that level. Does that mean she doesn't vote for anyone, of any party? (Probably a good thing).

[Biotic Apostate]

I need to ask her what happened to the other Obamas. Was the first one human? Was he a Satanist that was deposed by the lizard clones? No one knows!

*gasp* the plot thickens!

 

The conspiracists should really get together and write a book, I'd totally read that. I can already see that epic battle scene between human Obama and lizard Obama 

[vertigomez]

So... you're not exaggerating about any of this? One person REALLY believes ALL of these things??

The thing with people like this is I don't really know how they can be functioning members of society while still believing all of these things. She has a job, so she's at least functional on that level. Does that mean she doesn't vote for anyone, of any party? (Probably a good thing).

I'm not exaggerating even a little bit. If anything, I'm downplaying it. Every time I leave (we have opposite shifts) she tells me to be careful on my way to the car because that's when lizard people like to stab you in the heart. It sounds ridiculous, but she legitimately believes this. I feel guilty even talking about it because I'm like... she must have some underlying condition? But then I feel like I'm generalizing people with mental illness.

In every other aspect she's a perfectly ordinary fifty-something woman. She just believes weird ****. She doesn't vote because they're all Satanists who want to establish a New World Order. That's why Donald Trump makes that sign with his fingers. THE DEVIL.

Half of her theories contradict each other, anyway - do the elites want to control the world, or destroy it? Are lizard people Satanists? Are the two factions opposed to each other, or just opposed to Jesus?? I have no clue.

edit: she also talks about chemtrails, subliminal messages in TV commercials and when you play songs backwards, how Sandy Hook and 9/11 were hoaxes... every stock conspiracy there is, she's on board with it. I have never met someone who believed EVERYTHING was a lie.

[vertigomez]

*gasp* the plot thickens!
 
The conspiracists should really get together and write a book, I'd totally read that. I can already see that epic battle scene between human Obama and lizard Obama 

I wish I was making this up. /weeps

[Hellion Rex]

Stupid people. Stupid people, everywhere...............

Some days I look at people and wonder how the hell they can function being so damn stupid and ignorant.

Spoiler

I swear to God the next person that asks me about my gay "lifestyle" is gonna see how hard this f word can punch.

I only use the f word cause I hear it a lot in Kentucky.

[vertigomez]

Stupid people. Stupid people, everywhere...............
Some days I look at people and wonder how the hell they can function being so damn stupid and ignorant.

Spoiler

I swear to God the next person that asks me about my gay "lifestyle" is gonna see how hard this f word can punch.
I only use the f word cause I hear it a lot in Kentucky.

I'm sorry, Hellion. Some people are arseholes.

People who don't know me assume I'm straight and that I must be a bigot like they are, so they like to tell me all about dem gays ruining everything. Small town Texas...

[Biotic Apostate]

@Hellion Rex

Sometimes you just want to go:

Spoiler

 

 

I'm sorry, Hellion. Some people are arseholes.

People who don't know me assume I'm straight and that I must be a bigot like they are, so they like to tell me all about dem gays ruining everything. Small town Texas...

I hate when that happens. I can feel the muscles in my face just lock. Pretty soon I'm going to have resting bitchface. And I can almost hear that Kill Bill siren...

 

The girlfriend questions are also pretty annoying, but I have to stop myself from smirking ever since I found this

[nightscrawl]

^ Lol! That was unexpected! Long/large comics where you have to scroll are the best for delivering punchlines, I think, since you can't read ahead.

 

I honestly don't understand asking people you barely know personal questions. Then again, I don't really get the over-sharing modern internet culture, so... =/

[Biotic Apostate]

Yeah, it's best that way, that's why I prefer to have funny comic strips in a vertical format. The only time I've seen a horizontal one used consciously is here