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[Grieving Natashina]

Thank you. I'm very lucky to have had him for 12 years.

Here's a group hug. It's been kinda rough for a lot of us all around.

[nightscrawl]

So I've gotta ask, are the Polish Bioware boards better/worse/same with this stuff? I suppose I could ask that of any of the alternate languages. However, I'd imagine that the English language ones are likely to be worse just from the sheer volume. For instance, the Polish MEA forum has a paltry 70 topics and 4,106 replies, while the English one has a whopping 2,663 topics and 240,988 replies... just a tad more, eh?

[Biotic Apostate]

Well aside from the fact that it's a ghost town, it's pretty calm there. Maybe they have better moderation, with 2 pages of DAI threads, it's probably not that hard. And the German ones look the same as the Polish ones.

Doesn't mean much, because they might be adding to the mess (or civil discussion) on the main boards, pretty much everyone here knows at least basic English. 

 

Related rant - EA thinks some countries don't need English as an interface language, and locks the games to local ones. That includes DAI. The translations are so bad, they make my teeth hurt. Good thing people have hacked a solution.

[Hellion Rex]

I've normally got a pretty thick skin online. You can't hang out in places like the BSN without one. IBut his comment affected me on a personal level. Back in 1998, my husband was friends with a shy kid from Wyoming named Matt Shepard. He was also gay. My husband went to college on the other side of the state. Laramie is in the southern part of the state, not too far away from the Colorado state border.

Anyway, my husband was done there and was at a bar. Matt came up to him and offered to by him a drink. My husband was a punk from the middle of nowhere Wyoming...that spent a lot of time with the gay community in Casper. He knew that Matt was hitting on him and Matt did come across as a little effeminate. My husband smiled and said, "I'm sorry, I'm not gay. But I'll take that drink." They started talking and were friends over the phone for about 6 months.

The last time Sasquatch got to talk to Matt was about a month before he died. My husband was talking about meeting Matt down in Laramie to say hi. Waiting for Winter Break, you know. Matt was beaten to death by a bunch of rednecks and left his body hanging on a fence on the state line.

Some jackass right afterward was venting, stating that "No one person has ever affected my life so much." It was in tones of contempt too, after making disparaging remarks about gay men in general. Sasquatch almost beat the tar out of the guy. The only thing that stopped him was this was a party at his best friend's place. He told them to throw the guy out, otherwise he was going to throw him out of a window.

Matt's death really shook up the LGBT+ community in Denver. Laramie is only about a two hour drive away from Denver, and only about an hour away from Boulder. We were shocked, horrified and very very scared. No one walked alone in Downtown Denver. It wasn't until Orlando that I've been so messed up.

When that poster made the comment that effeminate men are the reason that gay men are beaten to death and "Their (the dead gay men) blood is on their (the effeminate men) hands, I almost lost it and went for the temp banhammer. I normally separate the words from the poster. I don't know most of the posters from Adam, so I can't speak for them as a person. In this case though, I've fully passed judgement on this poster as a person. IMHO, he's an awful human being.

Small world. I learned about Matt when I was....maybe 11? Right after I realized what I was. It broke my heart and left me scared to come out for a decade. I can't even imagine what your husband felt as a friend of Matt's. 

 

 

To say the least I'm more than furious at the idiot that wrote all that horsebutt. Please send me his or her name.

[Hellion Rex]

Also, despite all the negativity, Happy Father's Day to all fathers of both fur babies and real babies lol.

[Grieving Natashina]

Also, despite all the negativity, Happy Father's Day to all fathers of both fur babies and real babies lol.

Agreed. Happy Father's Day to all of the dads in here. Hopefully you got something better than a tie.

The PM is sent, btw.

[Lady Artifice]

I'm so puzzled by our view count in our group threads...I went back in to double check our settings. We're still definitely set to private, but there's no way all these views are just us. 

 

Can someone PM me the name of whoever is spewing this bile, so I know who to avoid? I think I'm going to be sick.

 

 

I second this request. Though I suspect I already know, I'd like to verify. 

 

If it is who I think it is, I'm already rather done with that poster. 

[nightscrawl]

I'm so puzzled by our view count in our group threads...I went back in to double check our settings. We're still definitely set to private, but there's no way all these views are just us.

 
Well, I do refresh a lot when I'm bored...

[Biotic Apostate]

 
Well, I do refresh a lot when I'm bored...

Yeah, me too, sorry 'bout that... 

[Lady Artifice]

Oh, don't be sorry. It's not like I mind us having a high count in itself. If it were just this thread, I could write it off easily...but check out the general code of conduct count. Over 200 views, and it's not even possible to respond to it. There's no way that's just us, right? 

 

Anyway, it's just something I'm puzzling over. 

[Lady Artifice]

I'm silly to worry about it. This is hardly a thread to be self conscious in.

 

It's been...kind of a tough week. Today was my Julee's (my biblical mother's) birthday. She has special needs, and she spent all of the money I gave her for her present immediately...because of course she did. She's very childlike, and I can't count on her to have realistic expectations about money, or to control her impulses. 

[vertigomez]

I refresh a lot, too. And I usually browse from my phone, which likes to crash and reload my web pages constantly, so...

Echoing the Happy Father's Day sentiments. Whether you have one or are one or have a crappy relationship with yours (I nominate Gomez Addams as Best Dad™ if you're looking for a replacement ), I hope your day is bright and happy.

eta, Sorry to hear that, Lady A. *hugs*

[Grieving Natashina]

I'm silly to worry about it. This is hardly a thread to be self conscious in.
 
It's been...kind of a tough week. Today was my Julee's (my biblical mother's) birthday. She has special needs, and she spent all of the money I gave her for her present immediately...because of course she did. She's very childlike, and I can't count on her to have realistic expectations about money, or to control her impulses.

I understand. I'm sometimes very insecure as well and I know how you feel. <hugs>

I'm sorry to hear that. It must be tough and I can see that it hurts. I can tell you love them very much and want to be there for them. I couldn't imagine what that must be like.

[nightscrawl]

For those with single moms, you can still give her a thing on Father's Day! I did that with my mom a couple of times, you know, since she was both . This would go for single dads too, on Mother's Day.

[Grieving Natashina]

For those with single moms, you can still give her a thing on Father's Day! I did that with my mom a couple of times, you know, since she was both . This would go for single dads too, on Mother's Day.

That's an awesome idea. I like it.

[Biotic Apostate]

Not to alarm anyone, but this place can be viewed by outside people, they just have to log out, but I don't think we're getting much traffic from that.

[Duelist]

Not to alarm anyone, but this place can be viewed by outside people, they just have to log out, but I don't think we're getting much traffic from that.

I may or may not do this

[Biotic Apostate]

I may or may not do this

*gasp* naughty. I haven't been that curious about other private groups

[Duelist]

This is the only group I lurk on since all the other groups I'm a part of are inaccessible...unless you're Mod 10.

[lynroy]

^Don't even get me started.       

[Dani100]

Father's Day. I adored my father but always missed being treated as he treated the girls in the family. All my cousins adored him he made them feel so special, I was always so jealous. He was different with the boys, affection wasn't something males in the family showed to each other, I always wanted to feel the way my cousins felt. I wanted him to know who I was inside, when I told my family who I was and what I was going to do my father did all he could to change my mind. He couldn't see that I knew what was best for me, he was scared that I would get hurt. He kept secret the fact that he had cancer until he had surgery. The surgery found all the cancer but it wasn't a success, his colon leaked and he went septic and passed. For all of my Father's worries about what I was doing, I know that he loved me and if he would have survived he would have made sure that the rest of the family would have accepted me.

Pop, I love you, miss you greatly and wish you could have gotten to know your daughter.

[vertigomez]

*big hugs* Dani. I'm so sorry you lost your father in such a tragic and untimely way, and I'm sorry you never got to have the relationship you wanted with him. That's extremely rough. We you.

[Grieving Natashina]

@Dani <big hugs> Father's Day must be pretty melancholy for you. It sounds like you did have a pretty good relationship before he passed.

My morning has gone absurd. I made the mistake of reading the Mae thread before coffee. Holy crap. I'm honestly floored at the comments in there that was allowed to stay. Frakin' A.

The absurdity comes from my wonderful mutts. The girl dog was mounting the boy dog again. Both of them are fixed, and they wouldn't stop trying to mount each other while stepping on my feet.

Happy Father's Day guys. I'm going to drink some coffee before it gets blazingly hot out.

[vertigomez]

Oh my god, WHYYYYYYYY did I subject myself to that entire Mae thread?

I need some brain bleach. And a nap.

[nightscrawl]

^ I skimmed the end of the thread and didn't bother reading posts by certain people. However, with all the negativity, I think there were some constructive posts there, some of which did have legitimate points of concern (an LI who is a widow, and such). I also got to see some nice Mae art, so that was a plus.