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[AutumnWitch]

I am one of those really crazy Elf/Dalish supporters and TBO Solas never really did anything for me. To me his highlight was laughing when I asked if Varric was part of the chantry. He always seemed too aloof and very shifty to me.

[LadyofClockwork7]

You know how much I love Solas

Today I was kicked out of my parents' house. I'm an adult in my late twenties and was a full-time professional up to three months ago when I cut my job to take care of my sick mom. So I feel like a teenager again. My dad screamed, saying he was killing himself, acted violently, and I called the police. They didn't do anything since there wasn't any evidence. Then my dad kicked me out. If I don't study full-time for the next 9 months for my cpa license, my career will dry up as I become older and the industry becomes automated. This year is the last year I am qualified to get the license. So I'm kind of obligated to be homeless for 2016. No one is forcing me to be homeless, but the amount of material left and what I know of my brain....I have to focus full-time or else. My friend is letting me stay over for a limited time. But then I'll be in my car, taking showers in a gym and studying at a library or Starbucks all day, hoping I don't fail the exams and waste my 9-month window. My car is set up. I got coats and blankets so I don't freeze.

I sat in my car looking out at a waning street lamp and I thought about Solas. What it means to be so attracted to a character who doesn't exist, who is the center of a fandom of people I don't know; but I have so much fun reading their posts and comments every day. I feel connected. It's daddy issues, maybe. But it's funny how I am so comforted by looking all the silly threads and lustful comments, sometimes beautiful and sometimes crazy fan art. They put a smile on my face. I appreciate all of it on a deep level I won't ever be able to express. Thank you BSN.

 

How terrible. I got kicked out of home when I was a teenager, so I understand how you must feel. And I'm glad that BSN, while usually thought of by the rest of the internet as being toxic, has been good for you on an emotional support level. It's kind of like having a dysfunctional family sometimes I guess, haha. I really hope things get better for you soon.

[LadyofClockwork7]

I'm surprised that so many people consider Solas sexy. Granted, I don't know anything about what makes a man attractive, but still, I didn't think he was what people would call conventionally attractive. Or maybe he's not, but lots of people like him anyway?

 

There are some times in-game where the lighting or camera is a bit unflattering for him, and I suppose he's a bit "unconventionally" attractive by say, someone like Cullen or Alistair's standards, but for me it's got a lot to do with the whole deeply intellectual aspect of him. Smart men = sexy, to me at least. Plus the accent doesn't hurt either. Rawr.

[Almostfaceman]

You know how much I love Solas

Today I was kicked out of my parents' house. I'm an adult in my late twenties and was a full-time professional up to three months ago when I cut my job to take care of my sick mom. So I feel like a teenager again. My dad screamed, saying he was killing himself, acted violently, and I called the police. They didn't do anything since there wasn't any evidence. Then my dad kicked me out. If I don't study full-time for the next 9 months for my cpa license, my career will dry up as I become older and the industry becomes automated. This year is the last year I am qualified to get the license. So I'm kind of obligated to be homeless for 2016. No one is forcing me to be homeless, but the amount of material left and what I know of my brain....I have to focus full-time or else. My friend is letting me stay over for a limited time. But then I'll be in my car, taking showers in a gym and studying at a library or Starbucks all day, hoping I don't fail the exams and waste my 9-month window. My car is set up. I got coats and blankets so I don't freeze.

I sat in my car looking out at a waning street lamp and I thought about Solas. What it means to be so attracted to a character who doesn't exist, who is the center of a fandom of people I don't know; but I have so much fun reading their posts and comments every day. I feel connected. It's daddy issues, maybe. But it's funny how I am so comforted by looking all the silly threads and lustful comments, sometimes beautiful and sometimes crazy fan art. They put a smile on my face. I appreciate all of it on a deep level I won't ever be able to express. Thank you BSN.

 

Holy **** I hope you find somewhere to live. Nobody should be living out of their car. 

[roselavellan]

You know how much I love Solas

Today I was kicked out of my parents' house. I'm an adult in my late twenties and was a full-time professional up to three months ago when I cut my job to take care of my sick mom. So I feel like a teenager again. My dad screamed, saying he was killing himself, acted violently, and I called the police. They didn't do anything since there wasn't any evidence. Then my dad kicked me out. If I don't study full-time for the next 9 months for my cpa license, my career will dry up as I become older and the industry becomes automated. This year is the last year I am qualified to get the license. So I'm kind of obligated to be homeless for 2016. No one is forcing me to be homeless, but the amount of material left and what I know of my brain....I have to focus full-time or else. My friend is letting me stay over for a limited time. But then I'll be in my car, taking showers in a gym and studying at a library or Starbucks all day, hoping I don't fail the exams and waste my 9-month window. My car is set up. I got coats and blankets so I don't freeze.

I sat in my car looking out at a waning street lamp and I thought about Solas. What it means to be so attracted to a character who doesn't exist, who is the center of a fandom of people I don't know; but I have so much fun reading their posts and comments every day. I feel connected. It's daddy issues, maybe. But it's funny how I am so comforted by looking all the silly threads and lustful comments, sometimes beautiful and sometimes crazy fan art. They put a smile on my face. I appreciate all of it on a deep level I won't ever be able to express. Thank you BSN.

 

I'm so sorry to hear this, Addictress  I hope things work out for you soon.

[Abyss108]

You know how much I love Solas

Today I was kicked out of my parents' house. I'm an adult in my late twenties and was a full-time professional up to three months ago when I cut my job to take care of my sick mom. So I feel like a teenager again. My dad screamed, saying he was killing himself, acted violently, and I called the police. They didn't do anything since there wasn't any evidence. Then my dad kicked me out. If I don't study full-time for the next 9 months for my cpa license, my career will dry up as I become older and the industry becomes automated. This year is the last year I am qualified to get the license. So I'm kind of obligated to be homeless for 2016. No one is forcing me to be homeless, but the amount of material left and what I know of my brain....I have to focus full-time or else. My friend is letting me stay over for a limited time. But then I'll be in my car, taking showers in a gym and studying at a library or Starbucks all day, hoping I don't fail the exams and waste my 9-month window. My car is set up. I got coats and blankets so I don't freeze.

I sat in my car looking out at a waning street lamp and I thought about Solas. What it means to be so attracted to a character who doesn't exist, who is the center of a fandom of people I don't know; but I have so much fun reading their posts and comments every day. I feel connected. It's daddy issues, maybe. But it's funny how I am so comforted by looking all the silly threads and lustful comments, sometimes beautiful and sometimes crazy fan art. They put a smile on my face. I appreciate all of it on a deep level I won't ever be able to express. Thank you BSN.

 

That's terrible... I really hope things work out for you.

[AutumnWitch]

You know how much I love Solas

Today I was kicked out of my parents' house. I'm an adult in my late twenties and was a full-time professional up to three months ago when I cut my job to take care of my sick mom. So I feel like a teenager again. My dad screamed, saying he was killing himself, acted violently, and I called the police. They didn't do anything since there wasn't any evidence. Then my dad kicked me out. If I don't study full-time for the next 9 months for my cpa license, my career will dry up as I become older and the industry becomes automated. This year is the last year I am qualified to get the license. So I'm kind of obligated to be homeless for 2016. No one is forcing me to be homeless, but the amount of material left and what I know of my brain....I have to focus full-time or else. My friend is letting me stay over for a limited time. But then I'll be in my car, taking showers in a gym and studying at a library or Starbucks all day, hoping I don't fail the exams and waste my 9-month window. My car is set up. I got coats and blankets so I don't freeze.

I sat in my car looking out at a waning street lamp and I thought about Solas. What it means to be so attracted to a character who doesn't exist, who is the center of a fandom of people I don't know; but I have so much fun reading their posts and comments every day. I feel connected. It's daddy issues, maybe. But it's funny how I am so comforted by looking all the silly threads and lustful comments, sometimes beautiful and sometimes crazy fan art. They put a smile on my face. I appreciate all of it on a deep level I won't ever be able to express. Thank you BSN.

 

I am so sorry to hear your life has taken this turn. We all go through rough times and its horrible. I hope things work out for you and you can get on your feet ASAP. I would like to add, please be careful. Living out of your car can be very dangerous. If you can arrange to couch surf here and there please do so.

 

I know what you mean about being attracted to a DA character that doesn't exist. Merrill just melts my heart like no other fictional character has. In my "fantasy world" she seems real. I discovered DA in a very hard time in my life and I know it got me through some really hard and scary times. No matter how horrible I was feeling, both mentally and physically, DA was there for me and by proxy its fan base. I even started a DA fansite when old BSN changed to the current version because so many of my friends on old BSN wanted a more personal place to meet. Feel free to swing by, we are small but a VERY devoted, supporting and easy going lot. (Link is in my sig.)

 

HUGS

[Reznore57]

I am so sorry to hear your life has taken this turn. We all go through rough times and its horrible. I hope things work out for you and you can get on your feet ASAP. I would like to add, please be careful. Living out of your car can be very dangerous. If you can arrange to couch surf here and there please do so.

 

Yes , it's a tough situation for Addictress.Hope things will improve.

 

Couch surfing can helps , sometimes old folks are willing to spare a room in exchange of work around the house too.

[Patricia08]

You know how much I love Solas

Today I was kicked out of my parents' house. I'm an adult in my late twenties and was a full-time professional up to three months ago when I cut my job to take care of my sick mom. So I feel like a teenager again. My dad screamed, saying he was killing himself, acted violently, and I called the police. They didn't do anything since there wasn't any evidence. Then my dad kicked me out. If I don't study full-time for the next 9 months for my cpa license, my career will dry up as I become older and the industry becomes automated. This year is the last year I am qualified to get the license. So I'm kind of obligated to be homeless for 2016. No one is forcing me to be homeless, but the amount of material left and what I know of my brain....I have to focus full-time or else. My friend is letting me stay over for a limited time. But then I'll be in my car, taking showers in a gym and studying at a library or Starbucks all day, hoping I don't fail the exams and waste my 9-month window. My car is set up. I got coats and blankets so I don't freeze.

I sat in my car looking out at a waning street lamp and I thought about Solas. What it means to be so attracted to a character who doesn't exist, who is the center of a fandom of people I don't know; but I have so much fun reading their posts and comments every day. I feel connected. It's daddy issues, maybe. But it's funny how I am so comforted by looking all the silly threads and lustful comments, sometimes beautiful and sometimes crazy fan art. They put a smile on my face. I appreciate all of it on a deep level I won't ever be able to express. Thank you BSN.

 

I'm so sorry to hear that i hope things will turn out for the better very soon  hugs from me as well.

[Patricia08]

I'm surprised that so many people consider Solas sexy. Granted, I don't know anything about what makes a man attractive, but still, I didn't think he was what people would call conventionally attractive. Or maybe he's not, but lots of people like him anyway?

 

Well i am one of those very few women ( maybe the only one ) out there who find him not sexy and attractive at all i will not say that he is ugly but sexy and attractive then no not me. 

 

So in a way i'm surprised as well.  

[roselavellan]

I don't think Solas is conventionally attractive, but sometimes unconventional attractiveness can end up being more compelling. Solas' looks didn't appeal to me at first (I had even dismissed him as a romance choice... until I heard his voice), but it definitely grew on me, and now I think he's incredibly attractive, and yes, very sexy.

[Lady Luminous]

I don't think Solas is conventionally attractive, but sometimes unconventional attractiveness can end up being more compelling. Solas' looks didn't appeal to me at first (I had even dismissed him as a romance choice... until I heard his voice), but it definitely grew on me, and now I think he's incredibly attractive, and yes, very sexy.

Same here. I was really not sure about him in my first playthrough, but his attractiveness sneaks up on you! Hot damn that voice...

[Abyss108]

I thought he was attractive at first glance... 

[Dai Grepher]

Solas was only confirmed to have awoken the librarians, not that he corrupted them. They could have been corrupted after the fall of the veil before they went dormant, or alternatively, were corrupted once they woke up by the drastic change in the world. Or by the fear the qunari have towards the knowledge in the Vir Dirthara.

Hmm... good point. The spirit doesn't actually state that the person twisted them from purpose. I still suspect something happened because he woke them in the first place, but even that could have just been unintentional. Like he meant to wake them to see if they could still help, but he discovered they were corrupted from purpose. It could have just been a "Well... shìt" moment.

So I can accept that it may not have been Solas who twisted them. The spirit also does imply that they were fine before the fall, so it could have been the sundering that twisted them. But I doubt the Qunari did it. They were just avoiding spirits as much as possible. Thanks for pointing that out. I'm working on a list of something and now I can cross that one out of it.

You know how much I love Solas

Today I was kicked out of my parents' house. I'm an adult in my late twenties and was a full-time professional up to three months ago when I cut my job to take care of my sick mom. So I feel like a teenager again. My dad screamed, saying he was killing himself, acted violently, and I called the police. They didn't do anything since there wasn't any evidence. Then my dad kicked me out. If I don't study full-time for the next 9 months for my cpa license, my career will dry up as I become older and the industry becomes automated. This year is the last year I am qualified to get the license. So I'm kind of obligated to be homeless for 2016. No one is forcing me to be homeless, but the amount of material left and what I know of my brain....I have to focus full-time or else. My friend is letting me stay over for a limited time. But then I'll be in my car, taking showers in a gym and studying at a library or Starbucks all day, hoping I don't fail the exams and waste my 9-month window.

That's a bummer.

My car is set up. I got coats and blankets so I don't freeze.

Where are you that you might freeze? Summer is coming.

Good luck to you though.

[Baboontje]

I don't think Solas is conventionally attractive, but sometimes unconventional attractiveness can end up being more compelling. Solas' looks didn't appeal to me at first (I had even dismissed him as a romance choice... until I heard his voice), but it definitely grew on me, and now I think he's incredibly attractive, and yes, very sexy.

 

I don't think he is conventionally attractive either. But he became attractive to me after getting to know his character and indeed, became more compelling. More so than Cullen, whom I fully expected to be my favourite romance since we had some unfinished business with him since DOA's Circle. And as such I romanced him on my first playthrough and it makes me both sad and relieved that Solas wasn't the first. Sad, because I didn't experience his revelation of being Fen'Harel first after doing his romance. But also relieved because that meant I got to cram Cullen's romance in. Just in time it seemed too. Now, after Solas, I can't seem to make anything other than a Female Elf romancing him even though I want to do another HF Mage/Cullen playthrough. D; I'll keep trying though....

That said, I -did- do Trespasser first with one of my Lavellans. Och the feels!

 

And him being the next (possible) antagonist? It makes him even more alluring in my eyes. Now the romance just screams things like; "Forbidden!" and "Beware the hurt!" and "You can't have a happy ending, so you want it even more!"

 

Always had a thing for anti-heroes too.

[roselavellan]

I don't think he is conventionally attractive either. But he became attractive to me after getting to know his character and indeed, became more compelling. 

 

It is his personality, isn't it? When you think about it, it's not that surprising, after all - and not that I speak for all women, of course - often when you hear about "traits women find attractive in men", intelligence and confidence always head the list, and these are two qualities that Solas has in spades.

 

I'm not personally into the "beware the hurt" part, but I can see there's no lack of people who find that part of the attraction.

[Baboontje]

It is his personality, isn't it? When you think about it, it's not that surprising, after all - and not that I speak for all women, of course - often when you hear about "traits women find attractive in men", intelligence and confidence always head the list, and these are two qualities that Solas has in spades.

 

I'm not personally into the "beware the hurt" part, but I can see there's no lack of people who find that part of the attraction.

 

Yes, it is. I do find it difficult to pinpoint the exact moment or trait which lured me in. But then the romance scenes we have with him, like, he knows it won't end well but he slips up anyway. Feeling more for Lavellan against his better knowledge. To me it seems he just can't help himself. Doing his romance after Trespasser is even more.....well, just more. Because you now know. So all those little things he says to discourage Lavellan make sense but at the same time he's not trying to chase her away overly hard.

And then, before he takes away the vallaslin (or not of course), you can tell he wants to tell her but changes his mind last second. Gaaah!

 

As for the hurt-part...Yeah I don't know. In books, films and games I am immensely attracted to drama, angst and what have you. Not so much in real life though. Stable relationship for over 9 years and living together for over 4..... Very -unlike- the stuff I like in fiction, really.

[Witch Cocktor]

I don't think Solas is conventionally attractive, but sometimes unconventional attractiveness can end up being more compelling.

Unconvential attractiveness seems to be all the craze, especially amongst women.

 

Spoiler

 

 

 

Though, Samson makes me hot and bothered so who am I to judge.

[IllustriousT]

I don't know how many of you like to mod, but on my last playthrough - up until I started the DLCs, I had multiple mods running. This included "Fen'harel Retexure." I like his vanilla form and modded "Fen'harel" form, and using the mod manager, it is really easy to switch between them. Anyways, just thought I would post an image from in-game and add the link, if any of you are interested.

 

 

Also link to mod:

 

http://www.nexusmods...tion/mods/880/?

[Neighborhood#2]

I don't think Solas is conventionally attractive, but sometimes unconventional attractiveness can end up being more compelling. Solas' looks didn't appeal to me at first (I had even dismissed him as a romance choice... until I heard his voice), but it definitely grew on me, and now I think he's incredibly attractive, and yes, very sexy.

 

Same.

 

I sometimes wonder myself why I like Solas.

I was convinced I was going to romance Dorian on my first play through. When I saw Solas I thought, well that weird looking bald know-it-all isn’t even going to make it into my party.
40 hours of game play later I re-rolled as a female Inquisitor just to be able to romance him. Go figure.

That voice…

[Medhia_Nox]

@Xerrai:  What I'm trying to convey... is that both fans and haters can say:  "Morrigan is this..."  "Leliana is this..."  "Flemeth is this..."

 

I feel that we can't even come to a general consensus as to Solas' fundamental traits... and that, to me, makes him a convoluted mess the writers seemed to try to make everything to everyone. 

 

People ARE complex... but they don't often actively contradict themselves.

 

I think it's possible that because he lied through the entire game about who he was... it allows some people to simply dismiss everything Pre-Tresspasser - while others pick the things they like Pre-Tresspasser and ignore the negative..... and everything in between.

[Almostfaceman]

 

 

I think it's possible that because he lied through the entire game about who he was... it allows some people to simply dismiss everything Pre-Tresspasser - while others pick the things they like Pre-Tresspasser and ignore the negative..... and everything in between.

 

Well, this statement is a mess. Perhaps you should address particular people and particular arguments instead of making sweeping incoherent generalizations. 

[midnight tea]

 

People ARE complex... but they don't often actively contradict themselves.

 

What planet are you living on? People keep actively contradicting themselves all the time.

 

Though that doesn't necessarily mean that what some people view as contradiction is one. Take me for example - I'm a professional artist, all about symbolism, lyricism, artsy-fartsy stuff, yet at the same time I'm a cold hard rationalist, supporter of science and scientific method. Some people I've met can't seem to wrap their mind even around that, and view this as contradiction. But that's what happen when they're living in the world of black-and-white distinctions, instead of looking at a full picture...

 

Oh, and Addictress, since I haven't been here for a while - so sorry to hear about your situation; I can't really offer much other than words, but I do sincerely hope it'll get better.

[Medhia_Nox]

@midnight tea:  You're very likely more predictable than you believe - but I'd have to know you to be able to prove it, and neither of us likely wants that. 

[midnight tea]

@midnight tea:  You're very likely more predictable than you believe - but I'd have to know you to be able to prove it, and neither of us likely wants that. 

 

I wasn't even talking about predictability  - I don't even consider myself hard to predict. Yet apparently for some people I am: I think the most hilarious thing I heard about myself recently was that I'm an extrovert.... while you probably couldn't find a more introverted person in an entire region xD

 

It's not that hard to make erroneous snap judgments, especially if people prefer to think in relatively simplistic terms or categories.

 

... And sometimes it' just wishful thinking or sheer willingness to ignore certain things. Don't tell me that you didn't have situations where, for example, even our parents are like "I never thought you'd do/say something like that!"