It is a joke but to be fair, Solas does behave like a bad boy quite a lot.
Not a good joke, that. And before you make too many assumptions, no I wasn't the one you got a warning point from. I can certainly see why people have issues with your rhetoric though...
Now... Having characteristics of a bad boy doesn't make it a sole reason to attract people to him, women or not.
1) He puts you to sleep without your consent and the proceeds to seduce you (and possibly f*ck you) in your dreams. I find it ironic how no one considers this as a form of sexual assault or violation of the mind given that we live in a time where the cultural narrative says that women cannot give consent when they are inebriated. Logically, Solas be seen as a sex offender or a privacy offender.
Wow... this is desperate.
Let's start from the beginning: no, he doesn't put anyone to sleep. It's established in the game that it's Inquisitor who had found Solas in dreams. The sequence in Skyhold where we ask him to tell more about himself? It's already a dream. It confuses people, because there's no clear line between a time where Inky is awake and asleep, but this is how the scene is intended to be, as Solas informs us that it was Inquisitor who has sought them out in the Fade.
Second... what the hell are you smoking?
It's Lavellan who initiates flirting and first sexual contact (until "I've felt the whole world change" all the dialogue is identical for every Inky, romanced or not) and if Lavellan doesn't pick a heart option first not only Solas acts in no way flirty or sexual, but the entire romance is dropped and never brought again!
And what's with the "possibly f*ck you"? Where do you get it from, other than your wild imagination? ... And after all this YOU accuse others of basing things not on in-game facts, but fanfiction or hedacanon??? ....The psychological projection on this scale is simply mind-boggling 
There is absolutely nothing in the scene that would suggest that Solas did anything to Lavellan other than kissed her back - and stopped himself in the middle of it. And during the time he kissed her Lavellan makes no indication that she's shocked or repulsed by it. Even Cullenmancers have more of a shocked reaction at a sudden kiss, and Cullen was the one that initiated it.
And what's with the "inebriated" nonsense? Being in the Fade is hardly like being intoxicated; there's absolutely no piece of lore that could support such claim. Don't you realize how badly you undermine your own credibility in this discussion by jumping out of the woodwork with things like THAT?
2) He exhibits a general attitude of aloofness and indifference which bad boys do exhibit. He even says that bedding you is a side benefit of his attitude. I am surprised at the sheer number of female Lavellans that want to be treated as a side benefit.
Being smooth is not just a domain of bad boys. So is general aloofness and indifference - many scientists, professors or artists are also that way. I know, because oftentimes, especially when in crowded space, I am aloof and fairly detached - and I'm not a bad boy, nor even a boy.
Also - I'm amused that you spin Solas's lighthearted tongue-in-cheek response as "being treated as a side benefit" when it's Lavellan that first jokes that he's basically playing being grim and pessimistic to beg himself into her bed. That only shows that they can be a little cheeky when they flirt, possibly in an attempt to see who is going to get flustered first. It's hardly Solas and Lavellan who do that too - Dorian is all about such flirting, and treats it all in a same lighthearted way.
3) He breaks up with you but he stalks you in your dreams. I find it weird how people, especially women, do not consider this a form of harassment. Then again, women are perfectly okay with Edward Cullen and Christian Grey, who do the stalking thing as well.
Now.. the "stalking" ONLY happens when Lavellan doesn't give up with him, and with the way the Fade works (AND the fact that it's Inky who finds Solas in the Fade first, as mentioned way above) it's more than possible that it's both of them who do the "stalking", especially that epilogue slides make it very clear that she tries to reach for him every time she notices that he's around and that she "searches and dreams and waits for a way to change a Dread Wolf's heart".
In many ways, Solas and Morrigan are quite similar. Both treat the protagonists as tools and as useful idiots to get what they want. Their supposed "care" for the protagonist, if romanced, is secondary or superficial since once they get what they want or once its clear they do not get what they want, they leave the protagonist.
Leaving a protagonist =/= not caring or caring only superficially. We know there are a ton of reasons why characters can leave someone, no matter how they care. I mean, Alistair can do it too, doesn't he? And Divine!Cassandra leaves Inky to do Divine business. In fact many companions go their own way after they're done with main campaign, even if not as suddenly.
And again, I'd like to point out that Solas has saved a "useful idiot" in Trespasser, even if it by all means this conflicts with his plans.
I personally find the way many women react to Solas is very much similar to the way many men react to Morrigan. They are deluded and have to rely on metagame like the word of the writer instead of what is in the game itself as well as rely on things such as headcannons and fanfictions.
Edit:- I have been given a warning for saying that Solas is a bad boy and for posting a meme. Guess someone here got their fragile fee-fees triggered. Smh.
Who's trying to rely on metagame here? You yourself recently made an argument that is entirely reliant not even on word of author, but a vague possibility of a retcon and discrediting of a writing team/developers. It's grasping-at-straws-palooza, it's so bad.
I'd also like to point out that the word of writer is predominantly brought as a supplementary material and mostly focused on when it's becoming obvious that no game facts people cite will convince some to even consider that their interpretation of character may be... somewhat flawed or incomplete.
Plus... are the authors in denial about their own creations as well? Because that's what you're suggesting. You're suggesting that they wrote a story that supports a vastly different vision of a character that they've intended to write or keep writing. I mean, it's not like it's unheard of in fiction. But I'd like to point out that far more people than just "deluded women" (or authors), which includes men and people who never romanced him, see either characters of Solas or Morrigan in a very different way from yours.
It probably should tell you something...
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I do love his smile. Good jorb animation team!
, "I did no such thing!" Pfft, like that must have been pretty intense, Solas. Then again, I don't keep score, myself, it's just one of those things that sort of happens. XD 
