S'why I said it depends on the hug and used the word deliberately. The hugs you describe are without an intent to hurt and are not aimed at causing pain. I've recieved hugs that were deliberately aimed at causing me pain and they did though in my case, they did not cause injuries and the pain thankfully never lasted long.
I do not see all hugs as being acts of violence, certainly not. I've recieved more hugs that were comforting and friendly than I have hugs that were malicious and cruel.
Fair enough. I've never had someone try to hurt me with a hug. Now, I did have someone try to run over me with a car back in 1999. They thought I was a part of the "Trenchcoat Mafia," the term for the idiots that make April 20th a "treat" every year in Colorado. I wore a Navy long coat because the weather here is unpredictable. The lady even yelled, "You're going to to hell for what your friends did!" Never mind the fact that I didn't know those guys from Adam, and they helped make life difficult for me and my friends. Dodging a car because of a piece of clothing was one of the most violent things that I've ever gone through.
<hugs> It sucks that folks have tried to hurt you by hugging you. No one should have something like that happen to them. I do think this tangent got out of a little out of hand. This is kinda bonkers, even for this site. We've gone from the topic to discussing how a hug can be violent.
Yep, that's it. No more BSN until I have another cup of coffee.
Also, if I seem snarky (at least more so than usual,) it's been a bad week and it's about to get worse over the next month. I apologize if I came across poorly.