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[drummerchick]

It's true. I have never been in a serious romantic relationship because I'm not attractive to the majestic female race. It's hard being 5/10 looks, average income, and personality. Online dating kills what little self confidence guys like me have, and don't even get me started about real life. I've never been asked out by a woman or given a phone number, don't even know why I have a cell phone bill.

I once met a girl in online gaming. We talked all the time, shared secrets and I really let me guard down with her. When we met in person, she acted strange and distance. I completely assumed it was due to my appearance and we haven't talked since. But everything was so perfect, passionate and romantic. In a video game, the love of my life can meet up with a handsome man that meets her expectations and can take care of her in ways that I'll never be able to in real life.

One thing that could help your confidence is to take women off that pedestal right now. We can massacre a toilet bowl just as much as any guy.

Seriously, women are people, flawed and idiosyncratic. We worry about our looks and finances and whether we are interesting to others, just like you do. Consider those things when you're speaking with women, consider how equal your footing is, and hopefully you won't feel like less than. 

[GoldenGail3]

Can we not have this? Thanks, it'd make ME:A livable...

[MrBSN2017]

One thing that could help your confidence is to take women off that pedestal right now. We can massacre a toilet bowl just as much as any guy.

Seriously, women are people, flawed and idiosyncratic. We worry about our looks and finances and whether we are interesting to others, just like you do. Consider those things when you're speaking with women, consider how equal your footing is, and hopefully you won't feel like less than.

It is great advice, but I am unable to deliver. It's like telling a kid to go to sleep on Christmas night. I get so excited everytime I'm about to initiate conversation that I become a total goofball. Tell myself it will be different next time, it's not, it's worse each time.

I'm ok with it all though because I've made peace with the idea of being forever alone. I make lots of platonic friends for companionship and video game romances are my release for the feels. I just want a long distance romance option because I can relate to it more. It'd fill some of the dark empty void I call my heart.

[JohnstonMR]

S'why I said it depends on the hug and used the word deliberately. The hugs you describe are without an intent to hurt and are not aimed at causing pain. I've recieved hugs that were deliberately aimed at causing me pain and they did though in my case, they did not cause injuries and the pain thankfully never lasted long.  

 

I do not see all hugs as being acts of violence, certainly not. I've recieved more hugs that were comforting and friendly than I have hugs that were malicious and cruel.
 

IMO, if someone is doing it with intent to cause pain, that's not a hug--that's wrapping one's arms around someone.  A hug, by definition, is done to express affection. 

[SKAR]

Depends on the hug: you can be deliberately hurt and quite badly by a person hugging you depending on much strength they use and how they apply said strength.

pessimist.

[ZipZap2000]

pessimist.

Boa Constrictors.

[Grieving Natashina]

Boa Constrictors.

Touché.

[MrBSN2017]

Touché.

Lol wtf guys? Hugs not drugs

[Grieving Natashina]

Lol wtf guys? Hugs not drugs

Well, he's not wrong.

[MrBSN2017]

Well, he's not wrong.

hug
həɡ/
verb
squeeze (someone) tightly in one's arms, typically to express affection.
"he hugged her close to him"

No arms =/= hug

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Boa Constrictors are just giving a really loving hug. They love you to death, so much they can just eat you up.

[Grieving Natashina]

Boa Constrictors are just giving a really loving hug. They love you to death, so much they can just eat you up.

You managed to give me one of the few laughs I've had in a week. Thank you.

@Fierce. It was just a bad joke. Sometimes a harmless bad joke or two is a good thing.

[MrBSN2017]

You managed to give me one of the few laughs I've had in a week. Thank you.

@Fierce. It was just a bad joke. Sometimes a harmless bad joke or two is a good thing.

Lol I know. I can catch sarcasm, I'm not as socially crippled as some may think.

[straykat]

The only thing I don't like about hugs is how cheesy they are and how often some people need to do it.

 

Never caused pain though.

[ZipZap2000]

The only thing I don't like about hugs is how cheesy they are and how often some people need to do it.

Never caused pain though.

Sloppy grandma kisses are worse.

[straykat]

*shudder*

[Grieving Natashina]

The only thing I don't like about hugs is how cheesy they are and how often some people need to do it.

Never caused pain though.

I've heard of hugs being an invasion of space, but cheesy is a new one on me.

My only issue with hugs in video games is that they usually look awkward and not well animated. I'm a hugger in real life, but I'm not one of those insufferable huggers that don't know the definition of personal space.

Wait...isn't this thread about a LI and the PC not being able to hug, or at least all that often? This place goes to weird areas some days. At least this thread seems sincere enough and gave me some chuckles.

[straykat]

I've heard of hugs being an invasion of space, but cheesy is a new one on me. My only issue with hugs in video games is that they usually look awkward and not well animated. I'm a hugger in real life, but I'm not one of those insufferable huggers that don't know the definition of personal space.

Wait...isn't this thread about a LI and the PC not being able to hug, or at least all that often? This place goes to weird areas somedays. At least this thread seems sincere enough and gave me some chuckles.

 

Maybe it's not the right word. It's mostly cheesy because it can be overdone.

 

Handshakes are just cheesy. I mean, like.. I don't see the need to shake everyone's hand if I show up, then when I leave. But people get offended.

[Khrystyn]

Mass Effect 2 has already done that. 

 

Agreed. And it didn't go over so well for those of us who wanted to further develop our ME-1 LI relationship. This was a big disappointment in ME-2 for me. 

[Khrystyn]

The only way I can see for a long-distance relationship legitimately working in a ME environment, that is based entirely in travel, is if the LI has a legitimate reason to show up on different planet worlds and locations - such as a member of a diplomatic mission that is visiting different worlds too. "What are you doing here? Can we meet up later before I have to leave?" Conversation stuff like this. The thought of having to return to a particular planet every time one wants to progress the LI relationship seems very awkward and more implausible to me. What else are they supposed to do to stay in touch? Talk via video-comm in the captain's quarters?  Or visit together over the course of several assignments? 

 

Another issue would involve whether there is only one NPC LI character available to fill this role, or more than one, or an alien that swings both ways, like Liara?

 

I would like to see a long-distance relationship that can be well developed, but there are multiple extra hurdles to solve. In addition to intimate conversation, it would help if the LI can also feed useful info and intel to the protagonist to help progress the story and missions.

[straykat]

The only way I can see for a long-distance relationship legitimately working in a ME environment, that is based entirely in travel, is if the LI has a legitimate reason to show up on different planet worlds and locations - such as a member of a diplomatic mission that is visiting different worlds too. "What are you doing here? Can we meet up later before I have to leave?" Conversation stuff like this. The thought of having to return to a particular planet every time one wants to progress the LI relationship seems very awkward and more implausible to me. What else are they supposed to do to stay in touch? Talk via video-comm in the captain's quarters?  Or visit together over the course of several assignments? 

 

Another issue would involve whether there is only one NPC LI character available to fill this role, or more than one, or an alien that swings both ways, like Liara?

 

I would like to see a long-distance relationship that can be well developed, but there are multiple extra hurdles to solve. In addition to intimate conversation, it would help if the LI can also feed useful info and intel to the protagonist to help progress the story and missions.

 

I thought it would have been cool, if say, Miranda or Jack or whoever showed up at some of those side missions in ME3. Like Jack and her kids as a biotic squad. I don't know how Miranda would be done, but Jack would be easy because she's Alliance.

 

Same with Ash and Kaidan... they would have been cool in Arrival. Or rather, something like Arrival, but better. Like an LotSB version of Arrival.

[yolobastien6412]

It is great advice, but I am unable to deliver. It's like telling a kid to go to sleep on Christmas night. I get so excited everytime I'm about to initiate conversation that I become a total goofball. Tell myself it will be different next time, it's not, it's worse each time.

I'm ok with it all though because I've made peace with the idea of being forever alone. I make lots of platonic friends for companionship and video game romances are my release for the feels. I just want a long distance romance option because I can relate to it more. It'd fill some of the dark empty void I call my heart.

Practice, actively think about the advice, and little by little you'll make it.

 

 

Maybe it's not the right word. It's mostly cheesy because it can be overdone.

 

Handshakes are just cheesy. I mean, like.. I don't see the need to shake everyone's hand if I show up, then when I leave. But people get offended.

It is kind of cheesy, and sometimes just awkward, especially with drunk people. Even guys get really touchy.

Normal handshakes are fine, they just get awkward when you screw one up

[yolobastien6412]

The only way I can see for a long-distance relationship legitimately working in a ME environment, that is based entirely in travel, is if the LI has a legitimate reason to show up on different planet worlds and locations - such as a member of a diplomatic mission that is visiting different worlds too. "What are you doing here? Can we meet up later before I have to leave?" Conversation stuff like this. The thought of having to return to a particular planet every time one wants to progress the LI relationship seems very awkward and more implausible to me. What else are they supposed to do to stay in touch? Talk via video-comm in the captain's quarters?  Or visit together over the course of several assignments? 

 

Another issue would involve whether there is only one NPC LI character available to fill this role, or more than one, or an alien that swings both ways, like Liara?

 

I would like to see a long-distance relationship that can be well developed, but there are multiple extra hurdles to solve. In addition to intimate conversation, it would help if the LI can also feed useful info and intel to the protagonist to help progress the story and missions.

Or maybe romancing someone in high command or something, i.e. having an affair, so you only meet them a few times during the game, and just for hot secks. But I guess that they wouldn't keep in touch in case their messages are not secure

[rapscallioness]

As long as we can have some on the side. Cause like no offense, but that ho be trippin if she think she got this on lock from 4,000 light years away.

 

I'm saying. Cause that Sanchito be trippin', too.Thinking he got a quad and paying bills and what not. Gtfoh.

[9TailsFox]

NO. If you don't shoot stuff next to me, no love to you.